I was 17 week pregnant, my baby was very sick and he can survive even if I wait to give birth. My doctor told me that I need to have a D&E because the baby was very bad and something bad can happen to me. I got a abortion but know I feel very bad and I can stop thinking about it. I have a healthy son and I love him with all my heart, and I don't believe and abortion, but I did'nt want my unborn baby to suffer more. I did the right thing?
2007-07-20 05:21:14 · 7 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
honey first of all i am sorry. no one ever deserves to lose a child. it is the hardest thing any parent can go through. but as far as you doing the right thing that is something only you can know. i know if i were in your position i would have made the same decision. you have another child at home who needs you and loves you. in my mind you did not abort that baby you saved it from a life of suffering and you ensured that your son kept his mother. however this is not something you should go through alone. please seek some counseling to help you through this. you cannot live a live feeling guilty for your decision. with all i have i will pray for you and yours please take care.
2007-07-20 05:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by MotherTeresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety you had no choice...that is absolutely not the same thing as an abortion. its more along the lines of a miscarriage...something went wrong and its not your fault. if they did a d&e then the baby was probably already gone. you can try again later and hopefully next time your baby will be very healthy and you wont have to worry about any long term problems like you would have with this baby. maybe try some counseling to help yourself get over your loss...or do something you enjoy doing. i miscarried once and i thought it was the end of the world...now i have two very healthy little boys. good luck!
2007-07-20 07:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by gaigesmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry for your loss. It had to have been a very difficult choice for you to have made. You were thinking of what your baby's life would be like had you carried him full term, & you made your decision, going by what your doctor told you also. Your baby would not have had the quality of life he deserved. Since your life was also an issue, you did the right thing, because your son needs you. Your heart is heavy & you are in agony over your decision but you need to tell yourself that you did the right thing. This is where your faith comes in. If God leads you to it, God will get you through it.
I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-07-20 05:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you had to go through that...that is rough for sure.
I would strongly recommend some grief counceling. It does not have to be alot, but just someone to talk to, and to have listen in an unbiased manner. Let them walk through it with you. Do not let someone judge you because of what you did. Tell them to get lost if they do.
Hang in there, I will pray for you.
2007-07-20 05:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Holmes C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you did! You were following doctor's orders and you were thinking of the baby, not yourself.
If this continues to haunt you, you should persue getting some kind of grief counseling.
2007-07-20 05:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be here...you're going to get some very mean answers, more than likely.
You have to forgive yourself. That's the most important. i'm sorry you feel bad.
2007-07-20 05:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to nock it off cause you now what he is doing be hind ur back and you are very upset with what he is doing.mayb when he is not home try to get on the computer and find his password and then you can see who he is talking to. that is one way to find out
2007-07-20 05:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋