My girlfriend spends a lot of time with ex. Over the past 28 months she has not gone a week without seeing him or three days without talking and over that time she has been with me off and on for 6 months. She moved out for a little while but still went over to see him and then moved back after a few weeks cuz its her home too...do you think that means they are still together? Or atleast that she's leaving the door open?
2007-07-20 04:57:09 · 20 answers · asked by Ziff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh geez .. man sorry to say but it doesnt sound good ... she cant go a week w/o seeing him or 3 measly little days w/o talkin to him ... I think that there is prolly something more there then just friendship ... you dont have a realtionship with someone and still live with them and consider it you home .. when u break up you slip up what yours and whats theirs not leave it still as ours .... you need to have a talk with ur girlfriend ... i dont see how you could let it go on for so long now
2007-07-20 05:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mama To 2 Onry Girls 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should bluntly ask her what her plans and feelings are. Do it calmly without accusing her of anything. Tell her that you understand that she could still have feelings for her ex and that you just want the truth. Tell her that you had no plans to be the other man in a relationship and that she should figure out exactly what it is that she wants.
The moving back in could mean that they are back together or it could mean that neither of them can afford their own place. In my neighborhood, there is a divorced couple still sharing the same house because neither one can afford to buy the other out. They live completely separate lives, but share the house.
2007-07-20 12:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a problem for sure... it may be all good on the outside and I am sure you don't want to appear jealous(trust me if you have let it go this long, you aren't jealous) which she will say you are if you say something, but the thing is that they have an emotional attachment. The thing is that if you do something wrong, she will turn to him. I am friends with several of my ex's, but I know that is only so when they have problems with their bf, I can get a little slap and tickle. You need to limit their contact, otherwise things will end up bad.
2007-07-20 12:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She seems to be leaving the door open. You don't say how things were left between them or how long they were together, but I think you need to let her know that her close relationship with her ex bothers you. I wouldn't get too invested in her if I were you.
2007-07-20 12:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by emenbensma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The door is more than open. Nobody who is in another relationship should spend that much time with their ex..That's very disrespectful. Have you discussed how this makes you feel??..That all appears to be shady..If they are that cool, then you should be that cool with him too and since you aren't that is a big red flag.
2007-07-20 12:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She left the door open at the very least but I bet if you got sneaky and followed her you'd find out it's more than that.
2007-07-20 11:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i can understand if they have children together. but if they dont i would be concerned. no real reason to keep wanting to see the ex. find out who decided to end the relationship. if he did maybe she still loves him and you are a standbye kind of thing so be careful and dont get yourself burned.
2007-07-20 12:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on now. She is not done with that relationship and that is obvious no matter what she says her actions say otherwise. You will end up getting hurt.
2007-07-20 11:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by sparkly 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are still sleeping together, why else would he be hanging out with a girl? You know as well as I do that guys only hang out with girls for one reason....so you already know the answer to your question...
2007-07-20 11:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Colbert Nation 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think she having fun with both of you i think you need to tell her you need to move on or choose i wouldn't put up with that unless they have kids together then i can see her talking but not as much as your talking about
2007-07-20 12:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by shy_n_secertive 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋