You know the one: She stands and recounts highlights of her life and weekend and morning, and laughs a lot as she recounts it. -- Even as it is pulling you down to earth and making you want to scream.
How do your handle her? We're at work. I only know her from work. I don't consider her a friend. How can you make her go away?
2007-07-20 04:33:29 · 17 answers · asked by Mr. Vincent Van Jessup 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, ED M, it's not what you seem to think it is. She's not a bad person, but neither am I. I sympathize with her to a limited and rational extent. But we are at work, and I have things to do. Her rambling is annoying precisely to the extent that it keeps me from being able to concentrate as well as I'd like. I have been the total gentleman to date with this person. My phrasing may have sounded brusk. I didn't mean "Tell me how to hurt her", or I'd have said that. I meant tell me what has worked for YOU when confronted with a similar situation. I am not retired, and I have a ton to do at work. That's the situation. Now, beyond platitudes and an insinutaion that I'm callous and self-absorbed, do you have a real answer?
2007-07-20 04:55:34 · update #1
This is not a situation that can be solved long-term by a quick 'I am busy catch you later' sort of response.
Ask to meet her for a coffee and chat. Tell her, in private, how this is affecting you. Its distracting, you want to get on with your work, appreciate her friendliness, etc., but to please stop doing this and thank her for understanding.
You will feel better, she will understand (albeit embarrassed) but it should get through to her.
2007-07-20 06:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not make any comments as she goes on and on. Do not stop what you are doing to listen to her. Quickly tell her that you are in the middle of something right now-even if you must pretend to be on the telephone- and "You will have to get back to me at a more convenient time on that". Make arrangements to have another colleague interrupt when she comes to your door, lock your door or as a last resort, have a public lunch with her and tell her that you do not like to have your work interrupted because you are there to work and not to socialize if she persists atter you have deliberately, ignored her conversations in your office and told her the "real deal", report her to the personnel office for sexual harassment. Best wishes.
2007-07-20 05:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to politely say you have a lot of work to do, apologise and could you talk later instead if things are a little less busy. Then keep busy, she will soon get the message if you keep this up. Good Luck! lol
2007-07-20 04:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have my sympathy! while you're no longer able to skill there you will in simple terms ought to smile and bare it. I had to post with a fellow whose spouse exchange into very annoying of his time at artwork additionally and alter into the two insecure. each and every time till now he'd draw % up he'd continuously say,"i like Uuuuu, toddler". once you ought to take heed to that taking place day in and outing numerous situations an afternoon the temptation to tear the telephone out of his hand and say what I felt like asserting exchange into overwhelming. i did no longer try this of course, yet what i might do exchange into walk by him precise after he'd hung up the telephone and make those kissing sounds and say in a toddler voice, "i like Uuuuuuu, toddler"! He'd in simple terms snigger and proceed the nonsense everytime she referred to as. He exchange into whipped to declare the least, yet we've continuously remained acquaintances even even with the undeniable fact that he has retired. His spouse on no account enjoyed me, understandably.
2016-09-30 09:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by gisriel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we all know people like that!
I give them 5 minutes, then hold up my hand and interrupt, "Sorry, but I've really got to get some work done today," then gently close the door.
2007-07-20 04:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanbug 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best suggestion I've ever heard about this sort of thing is to stand up, while talking to them and walk the person back to their desk. They should get the hint.
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Also, whenever this annoying person would come over and talk to my friend who sits opposite me. I would call up someone who sits on the other side of the floor and ask her to call my friend and ask her to come over there.
2007-07-20 04:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Mimsie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hold up my hand and say, "I want to give you my full attention when we chat, but I'm busy right now. Can we meet for a coffee break or lunch later?"
99% of the time, they find other ears and don't get back to me.
2007-07-20 04:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
"I'm sorry, I'm incredibly busy today. Much as I'd love to talk I just HAVE to get this done."
Make non-comittal one word answers to make it clear you are concentrating on something else.
Use this time to make and receive phone calls (Again "I'm terribly sorry, but I just HAVE to take care of this now.")
"I'm sorry but I just don't have time to talk today, maybe we can chat at lunch."
If you can, try closing your door.
2007-07-20 05:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by LX V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a office buddy ring your line whenever they see her heading to your office. When the phone rings, tell her that you have to take the call.
2007-07-20 04:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by DAR76 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe grow a set and tell her that you have too much work to do?
2007-07-20 04:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋