"To: Kelly" "the answer is "no" ok? i dont want you no more Rick."
That was the letter my ex wrote to me after stringing me along for 1 month while having another girlfriend, telling me he loves me and he's gonna break up with her. This is a girl who doesn't love him even HALF as much as I do and he knows that cuz he even told me. Yet he picks her over me when I told him I wouldn't be with him while he had another girlfriend. I know that he will eventually come back to me because they aren't serious but I can't take him back anymore after this. It really hurt when I thought the letter would say I DO love you or something in that manner. I'm heart broken. I love Rick with all of my heart. This is my first love. I had never really ever been in love with anybody like I'm in love with Rick. What should I do?
2007-07-20 04:25:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm really sorry. something like that happened to me, with my first love too. i told him "i'm really confused" after he sorta broke up with me, and he just replied back "look, no. we're over." and he kept rubbing it in for a long time. it hurt alot, but i spent more time with my friends and in unfortunately, 3 or 4 months, i could care less about him. just forget about him (sounds hard i know) but it's for the better. and ignore him! don't let him hurt you anymore.
2007-07-20 04:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! Untill you are married and going througha divorce you have no problems!
It doesn't have to hurt - the process of finding Mr/Ms. Right. Weening out the good, the bad and the ugly before you find your knight and shinning armor is just a process of experience and of learning so that you can one day have a life filled with love and laughter. You should be thankful you found out really how this guy works and count your blessing and write down every thing you have been tought from this little lesson! Keep moving life is to be lived and to be experienced and learning and experienc does not hurt! Society has said it hurts fromt he time of the depression back int he 40's and now we are accustomed to that we hurt b/c soicety says it does! We have been programed to think that it hurts when really we should be greatful for our lessons, dust yourself off and live life taking the bad with the good understanding that we all go through stages and forever always will and this stage is over and be happy you're on to the next! be happy be proud! and Thank the heavens that you did not get more involved! and that you seen his true colcors! There are a lot of jerks and _itches out there. But it only hurts if you let it! Live life to it's fullest date many - being honest with each and relax and take what comes to you with graditude...
P.S. His name is Rick for a reason in other words his real name is ****! and most of them are!
2007-07-20 04:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i am sooooo sorry!! he obviously isnt worth crying over so just try to forget about him. i know that seems really hard but you cant go on forever wishing you were still together. there are a lot of things you can do to help feel better. try going out with your girlfriends for a night and just have fun. also stop thinking about how sad you are and try to move on. if you feel ready, you can even start dating agian. but dont spend all your time dwelling on him...good luck! i hope this helps
2007-07-20 04:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation before. Let him go there is someone else out there for you. Anytime you get with a man and he has a girl most of time he aint gonna leave that girl. But if he left that other girl for you how do you know he aint gone leave you for another girl in the future.
2007-07-20 04:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go back with him you will have to lower your standards and your self respect. If you don't go back with him you are drawing a line in the sand "I will not tolerate this behavior from anyone, even another person that I love because I am better than that."
2007-07-20 04:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by noXizTenC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't take him back, you have made that statement so don't because he hurt you without a thought. He will take your love again and hurt you, by not taking him back will hurt him more than you know. Stick to your guns, your heart is nothing to play with. It is his lost.
2007-07-20 04:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go.
Be friends if he wants to come back but don't go where you have gone with him before sexually or emotionally.
He is a jerk. He is also a liar. He is also a coward. He is a kid.
I know that is not what you want to hear. If you don't let him go you are setting yourself up for heartache for most of your life.
Let him go.
2007-07-20 04:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Erik A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on because he cant love you the way you want to be loved and he cheated so obviously hes not the guy for you just try to get over it b.c hes not worth your love and dont think you did anything wrong b.c. you tried to love him but he doesnt want to accept your love just get over him your life will be less stressful without thinking about him bye if you want you can email me so we can talk more about this im glad to help you though bye
2007-07-20 04:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by kyiyna aka keke bka ke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I know it hurts to have your heart broken.
You now need to sit down though and realize that you deserve to have someone who will love only you. Please don't allow anyone in your life who isn't going to treat you like you are special.
2007-07-20 04:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take him back, then not only are you degrading yourself, but you're also setting yourself up to be hurt again. I suggest you move on and find something better.
2007-07-20 04:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋