2007-07-20 04:19:16 · 11 answers · asked by HelloKitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Most parents do not ever accept the fact that their children are grown adults a condition exacerbated by the children continuing to live at home. You may feel free to move out of his house if you don't like his rules.
2007-07-20 04:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree partly with first comment.
Do not move out as it is no good for either of you.
Remember also that he is reaffirming not just that he is your father but HE is head of the houshold.So without your father or yourselves knowing it you are fighting to be able to run the family.
He cis not harsh to you all the time surlet?
Go out for a drink or a picnic and a relaxing non-combating talk.You caould ask him why he APPEARS to be harsh towards you. Also again you do not state idf you are working or not. if you want to leave. I.E. as an experiment to see if you can cope on your own! I'm assuming your mother does your washing!Then ask him how he left home. Was it for a better job? to get married/
try not to get into a right/wrong situation.People have differen viewpoints.remember also that if you were sixty years old youwould still be his sons.or little boys.
I would also vouch that he would die for you.
So, take him for a meal or something or shoot tha wind.Talk can open up things you did not dream about your father.
For example I did not know that my father could play chess until I casually mentioned that I had learnt chess in school.he said Oh yes I can play chess too!!!
2007-07-20 04:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strict? If you are 18 and 24, and out on your own, supporting yourselves, then he can offer an opinion, but all the choices are yours to make.
If you're still living at home on his dime (he's paying the bills), then sure, he gets to have the final say - it's his house and his money.
That said, maybe you can work something out. Do you act like adults (contribute to the household, help with the chores, etc.)? If so, then you're in a good position to expect to be treated like adults. Adults living together still have to negotiate arrangements that work for everyone, but as a contributing adult, you make your own choices and are only expected to treat the others with courtesy and respect - and expect the same. Which you ask for, courteously and respectfully.
If you're an oversized kid (parents pay the bills, you don't take responsibility for some of the stuff that has to be done to make a household run), then expect to be treated like a child, because, well, you are. No matter how old.
2007-07-20 04:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to tech you right from wrong. My husband is 48 and I am 46 his mother treats him like he is 15 at time we live 20 miles from her and she treats me like an outsider. Some parents just don't know how to let go they think that wheather the kid is 8 or 88 they can still boss them around you don't say if you still live under your parents roof or not. If so then yes you must live by his rule like it or not. if your still living with your parent and don't like his rules then maybe getting your own place might be a start.
2007-07-20 04:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by bjwill72961 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he has been your dad your whole life and so he feels like he knows what's best for you. Just make sure that he does not interfere with your choice of lifestyle, career, marriage - anythign that is important to you.
Make sure that no matter what, you make these choices for yourself. He may be controlling and have hard time lettting go.
I do agree with the second user's response - move out first. Otherwise, live with his rules..
2007-07-20 04:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Centered 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are not likely to change their rearing habits. So if your dad is not letting up then you should try to get your own place if you are employed, if not, then unfortunately if you cannot talk to him you would have to live by his rules in his home.
2007-07-20 04:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by ann t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he thinks he still in charge, is it out of love? or just being a boss... talk to him,U 24 now so just ask him why is he like that,, tell him he did his job already and you think the world of him but he needs to back off a bit...
2007-07-20 08:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be children anymore, but as long as you live in his home, you should abide by his rules.
2007-07-20 04:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still living under his roof, then you have to adhere to his rules! If you do not like it, move out!
2007-07-20 04:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because you didn't pass your grammar class in school? God Bless.
2007-07-23 23:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋