When we got married 3 years ago my husband decided to look for the wedding ring . He said _ you do not need to come with me I'm going to surprise you !
Before we got married he said _ Ok I got the rings but you have to pay me 1/2 and I gave to him 1/2 of the total amount he spend...
Before married I saw in my husband night stand his old wedding ring ( the one he wear with his ex). Not so long ago I was curious and I checked if his wedding ring was there, WAS NOT.
I was thiking ...- the wedding ring he is using right now was the one he was using with his ex only he reforms that one. I tell you why I know that I went to the store where he bought it, and I spoke with the seller and she told that in his record only see one ring ( mine) and she told me they can reform or change any ring...
I'm a little upset ...
2007-07-20 04:10:51 · 43 answers · asked by mimi72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would tell him that you know the truth, or just ask him about it. Have a conversation. There might be an explanation, but either way you need to be honest with each other in a marriage. If you love him, and he loves you, you should be able to work this out.
2007-07-27 09:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New marriage, New ring. I dont know what your financial situation is, so, can he just not afford new one? Before he said 'I got the new rings' He should have asked you if you would mind him using his old one. Since you helped pay for the "Rings" you want him to have a new ring.
My fiance is divorced also. Divorce makes them a little gun shy on some things. But the wedding ring is usually paid for by the man, no matter what. I dont understand why you would pay for half in the first place. Maybe its not important to him cause he doesnt wear it often?
Rings are just a symbol of your love and comitment to eachother. A reminder at times to be devoted to eachother,, ect. But I understand how you would feel hurt by this. Talk to him about this. Its not good to hold in anger. It will come out later in the wrong way.
Or if you can, just go buy a new one for him and say I would rather you wore this one, as a symbol of MY Love For You.
2007-07-20 04:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by T I 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it may be a little upsetting, but you first have to decide if it's really that big of a deal. You don't want to start an argument over something that could just be forgiven - and forgotten. He may have had really good reasons to do what he did - and at least he got it reformed so it's not exactly the same as the one he wore with his ex. A ring should not affect your marriage or the love you have for one another. But, if you really feel like you need to confront him then go ahead, but don't start by accusing him of anything - just simply ask him and see if you tells you the story himself. If he doesn't then you can start to tell him what you have discovered.
2007-07-20 05:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did YOU have to pay for your own wedding ring. You must have a strange marriage where you pay half of everything. Why if you are happy are you bringing this old stuff up now, perhaps this has been an underlying problem, for goodness sakes, TALK to him about it and tell him that you always wondered why you had to pay for your own ring, and ask him what he did with the first ring. He is amazingly cheap. You waited too long to even ask about this, oh, really, you must be unhappy to even bring it up. Good luck I do not blame you for being upset - but why now.
2007-07-26 22:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Samurai X. Though you need to remember that a ring is a piece of metal. You and him put an emotional value and attachment on it. You do need to find out if there is an emotional reason he did not change rings. He could feel that they are metal and wanted it to be cheap. He also could have wanted to get you such a nice ring he wanted to save money and just redid his. He might have also bought the ring at a different place. Somewhere cheaper. They would the redo in his records.
2007-07-26 15:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he offered to get them and then makes you pay half??....WT_??....Him wearing his old wedding ring from his first marriage is a bit odd. You would think he would want something new to symbolize YOUR love...is he still hung up on his ex?...Personally I would confront him and ask him why he lied and why the attachment to his wedding band from is first marriage. What if you had an engagement ring from a previous proposal and kept it and told him you wanted to wear that one instead of him getting you a new one?..me thinks he wouldn't be too happy with that..unless he is REALLY cheap and doesn't care. You have every right to be upset. I am divorced and I don't have any of my rings left....what's the point?
Good luck..I hope he is upfront and honest with you about the ring.
2007-07-20 04:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by akitamommy2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how your relationship is; if you think that this will deeply effect that he is re-using his old ring, then you should confront him (*note* do this gently and don't be frantic*) or if you believe that he is a trying person, who still has merit for the relationship, and talk to him about it over time so as not to wound the relationship permanently, then do so. If he responds in an apologetic manner, then get another ring (*if it's important to you*) and unless similar deceiving act's have been committed throughout the marriage, then don't go to extremes. (like divorce or humiliation; remember that there is a slight chance he could feel guilty about it)
2007-07-20 04:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by Samurai X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I would have to say something about the ring situation. It might be possible that he didn't have enough money to purchase a ring for each of you so he just thought of using this ring in place of a new one.(Still not appropriate). I think once you bring it out in the open hopefully he will have a good explanation for this.
2007-07-25 06:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible! That should not even be the case that he reforms it! That is not even right! And then have you pay HALE of your OWN ring?!?! What? I would confront him and tell him that I dont appreciate him lying and the fact that he didn't get his ring again. He should sell his ring and get a new one. There is no need to bring bad luck into your marriage if he doesnt have to. And I do believe that will be what happens!
2007-07-20 04:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be to i would tell him and ask him if you can have a new one and you arent being the one who is being mean or selfish or anything like that he is i mean he is too cheap to buy you a wedding ring???? and his wedding ring with his ex still has the love for his ex in it. so if he is in a serious relationship with you he needs a wedding ring that doesnt symbolize him and his ex but him and you. You get it girl?
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2007-07-20 04:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Punk_Rock_Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋