is my ex still jealous?

Question

I went out with my ex boyfriend for a couple of months but after we split we became very good friends. I moved away to live with my current partner and the night before I went he wanted to start again. I said that it wouldn't work out.
We still remained friends but now he can be so horrible to me, saying really nasty things about where I am living and the person I'm living with. Should I confront him and ask him why?

Answer 1

Baby, YOU HAVE GOT TO KNOW WHY!! He's hurt and want for you to feel his pain. Also He Seems VERY JEALOUS! He can't have you for himself and definitely, don't want you to be with the other person. He can't let go maybe because he finally feels the REAL TRUE FEELINGS that were there all alone that he took for granted. But now that YOU'RE REALLY GONE, he can't come to grips with THAT FACT. He seems to have taken you and his "LOVE" for granted and never thought you two would be apart even when you two broke up and were friends. But then you didn't have another man and weren't going away with anyone, so perhaps he always thoght he'd have OYU or at least a chance to Be With You Again. But now that's it's Reality, he can't handle it. So if you feel that you can talk to him face to face without it getting violent...he is already calling you names and talking nasty to you...then go for it to Close up any and all loose ends, but take your/have your new man with you/close by, just in case Old Boy, loses it. The Heart is a strange thing and hard to repair once it's broken. Be Safe, Be Fair, Be HAPPY!!! Peace to you and him.

Answer 2

If you still have contact with him ,then I would confront him since you two are still supposed to be friends. Real friends do not do friends like that. He is only saying these things bc he is jealous and he wants to make you look bad. When someone tells you things that he has said, say to them "well, I guess that is why he wanted to try again right before I left." Once that gets back to him, he will feel like an idiot and hopefully stop running his mouth. The best thing to do though is not to speak to him again. Let the ones running back and forth from you to him do the speaking for you.

Answer 3

This 'friendship' is never going to work, he's obviously still got feelings for you but it didn't work out last time, it wont work out next time so it's time to break all contact.

Why let a previous relationship destroy your current one?

There's no benefit to you for keeping him as a friend because he isn't one, he's an ex-boyfriend and needs to be out of your life for good.
And finally ready your own words, you HAVEN'T remained friends because a real friend wouldn't be saying nasty and horrible things to you.

It's over, it's finished, it's time to say goodbye for good.

Answer 4

He's a two-faced gobshite who knows he's missed his chance because of his own stupidity and is trying to take it out on you.

Remain dignified about this. Ignore him, and he will probably stop. However, if what he says starts to affect you or your new partner's work (nasty rumours, etc.), then you should contact a solicitor (lawyer if you're in the US) and get them to write him a letter stating that he is slandering you and that you are fully prepared to take legal action and get financial compensation if he does not stop and retract all that he has said.

That should sort him.

Answer 5

You don't need to ask him, you already know the answer. You may want to ask yourself why you feel it is ok for someone to be mean/nasty to you.
It seems as if he was going through the stage of "denial" (in the cycles of loss) when he agreed to being friends, which in his mind would allow him an opportunity to get back with you. Now that he sees you have "moved on" he is going through the "anger" stage.
Hope this helps.

Answer 6

I wouldnt give him the saticfaction of saying something 2 him that would mean u lowering urself 2 his leave. He sounds jealous 2 me because u have moved on and he hasnt yet its very petty. Give him a taste of his own medicine he leave him 2 stew for a while he will need u before u need him.xx

Answer 7

YOU CUT OFF HIM TO A DEGREE AND NOW YOU NEED TO SEVER THE LINK BETWEEN YOU BOTH. HE MIGHT FEEL REJECTED BECAUSE YOU WENT ON WITH SOMEONE ELSE. FRIENDS WITH EX IS NEVER A GOOD IDEA AT TIMES. I DONT KNOW ABOUT HIM BEING JEALOUS.
MAYBE YOU COULD ASK HIM BUT IT MIGHT END UP GETTING NASTY. AND YOU SHOULD BE BUILDING A STRONGER CONNECTION WITH YOUR NEW PERSON BEFORE HE STARTS THINKING YOU AND THE EX ARE BACK TOGETHER.

Answer 8

definetely jealous he still cares about you but is going about it the wrong way and pushing you away further. he half wants to be selfish and break up your current life or see if there are any cracks which would make you consider him again but then on the other hand is trying to do it as subtley as possible as he doesnt want to hurt you or force you if your really that happy. I think that makes sense.

Answer 9

Tell him to get over it or you won't be "friends" with him anymore. It's hard to be friends with an ex. You have to truly both not have those feelings anymore, which if you did the dumping then he probably still has feelings for you so he's jealous.

Answer 10

believe it or not I believe this to be a reaction of human nature,because he can't have you he doesn't think anyone else should.
It doesn't work trying to be friends with an ex lover or partner next time you speak to him tell him you would rather
he did not contact you as the feelings you had for him have gone and you want to get on with your life.