I don't care that she has a boyfriend and she spends time with him..what's making me mad is how she is treating me. She acts like she is better and like it's inconvenient to hang out with me, she acts like it's a chore. And she lies a lot to my face..she acts all fake nice and i don't know how to deal with this. Do I have a right to be angry? I'm thinking I'll stop answering her calls for a while, you know, if she even tries to call. What would you do?
2007-07-20 03:54:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is this her first experience with having a bf? If so that might be why shes so clingy to him right now. IF she was was a true friend she wouldnt be doing this to u and YES you do have all the right to be mad at her. Tell her how u feel and if she doesnt think ur right its not worth it, b/c she knows knows that her and her bf cant last forever and when they do break up she will have no one to talk to anymore cause she dissed her bff and now she lost u. Just be hones to her if u want ur friendship to last.
GOOD LUCK
2007-07-20 03:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it sometime...sometimes it is not easy to balance a boyfriend and a best friend. She may be stressed out.Plan and do things with other friends for a week or so. Even step out and meet some new people. That would be good for you anyway...one can never have enough good friends.Join a club,take a class you might like. After a week or two sit down and talk heart to heart with her tell her how you have been feeling.It may be also that the boyfriend resents time she spends with you not him.Best of luck ...Really hope you work it out.
2007-07-20 11:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be time to find a new friend. People change as they experience new things. Having a boyfriend - this relationship of her's might be evolving and changing her into the person you do not really care about. There are always going to be factors involved in the process of forming attitudes and habits in our friends that challenge the friendship.
You can look at this in a different perspective here. If your friendship with this person is important to you, then treat this moment as a chance for you to adapt to her, like you would if you were to, say, be driving down the road and come to a road block. You've got to change direction a bit, but you're still going to drive the same car.
If you ever get married, and manage to stay married for 10 years, you will be able to look back and see that marriage is not about finding "the perfect match" but rather about adapting and accepting the person you're with.
"Love the One You're With!"
2007-07-20 11:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Atom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels that since you're not in a relationship that you can't relate as well to her.
Best thing would be is to try talking to her and being very straight foward, no beating around the bush. I've encountered this with several friends. Most of the time you just have to let it go, and when their relationship with the guy/girl fails they realize how poorly they treated their friends, and that there is no shoulder for them to cry on.
tough love. she'll figure it out.
2007-07-20 11:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by carhartt256 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best best is to try to be the friend to her that you want her to be to you. As far as you know, the b/f might have some issues with her hanging with you and she don't know how to deal with it yet. Just be honest with her and let her know how you feel about it, it will work out.
2007-07-20 11:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by jimmer256 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, a true friend wouldn't act like this. Just step back and fade out, find a new circle of friends.
2007-07-20 10:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend and just be there for when she is available. It does not sound like your best friend will be with this guy very long. If she does not share things with you there is trouble in paradise. Be patient and be there. She may need you.
2007-07-20 11:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by mary d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain civil towards her, but begin looking out for ways to make new friends. Sometimes it is best to have a broad group of friends, rather than one best friend.
2007-07-20 11:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, if she's happy in the relationship, then don't stress it... hang out with your other friends.. if she calls and wants to hang out, don't make it too hard on her... and if you were that great of a friend, you would be understanding that she's focusing on her relationship....
guy's usually just wait til they see their friend again and then make whipping noise and make fun of the guy... ridicule and humiliation...
2007-07-20 11:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel; and if you get no response, stop hanging out with her.
2007-07-20 10:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Pooks 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋