Complicated Harassment, Possible Charges I Will Press, Need Advice?

Question

I would like to hear others' opinions before I take my next steps. My ex, broken up 5 mths ago, decided to contact me again through stalkish ways. He called twice from an "Unknown" number, not talking when I would repeatedly say hello, just breathing (although I could find out the no. through my online account, thus verifying it was him). He proceeded to send me a text saying that he loves and misses me. He realized that I wasn't going to respond back, he decided to post my number on a website under erotic services. Received a couple of calls, I was able to get the website to take down the post, the site gave me the IP, email and other info in regards to the post. The IP pretty much confirms it was him (I don't known anyone else from that area). However, I would have to contact the ISP in order to verify the actual address.

Should I: 1) contact him now, tell him that I'm willing to not charges if he stops, 2) wait to see if he would try this again, then press charges.

3) Contact the IP/ISP, give them the complete information in regards to this post (although the ISP is not under his name), see what they would do/suggest (he's violated the user policy at the website, his e-mail account, and ISP).

I really don't feel threaten by him, he's just very childish and immature. He doesn't know my other information at all. He doesn't know where I live and I am particularly careful (paranoidly careful) in regards to my personal information, although I have all of his. He also lives about 35 miles away (thus my confident verification in the IP, and I don't have any other "enemies"). FYI - I live in NY state, as well as him (if laws are any different state-wise).

In regards to my actual cell no. It's not through a standard contract, therefore my service provider does not have any vital personal information about me (like my Social Security No. as providers will normally ask for). So, he would be out of luck if he would try to seek that kind of information.

Also, there's no need for belittling or ridiculous comments, like the sixth one below. This is a serious topic, faced by many individuals, both women and men. No one wants to be exposed to stalking or harassment.

Answer 1

First of all be very clear to him you want him to stop contacting you in anyway, weather it's calling emailing etc. If he doesnt stop then perhaps you should consider a restraining order. I dont know how effetive they are but maybe he'll back off......put alittle scare in him. I wish you luck in what ever you choose.

Answer 2

Since you have all his information, go down to the court in your area and get a restraining order. if he violates it by calling, emailing, coming over to your residence or work, or sends you a letter in the mail, all you have to do is call the police and tell them he is violating the restraining order and they will go arrest him. you dont need to press charges just get a restraining order. it costs a whole hell of alot less money too. trust me, i have been through the same thing and i got a restraining order and it worked. after the first time he gets arrested he should leave you alone cuz then he'll know ur not playin around and that ur serious. let me know how it works out.

Answer 3

You don't need Yahoo Answers on this one. You need an attorney. He or she will direct you in the steps to take.The decisions you make today in this matter will be critical tomorrow. Someone this possessed to this point doesn't think straight and could become extremely dangerous. Don't wait. get an attorney today!

Answer 4

That sucks! But so childish on his part, see if he keeps doing it, if so contact him & tell him you have all this info on him b/c you know it's him bugging you & if it doesn't stop you will press charges. If he knows that you have evidence on him (hopfully you keep everythng) that will scare him

Answer 5

He's looking for attention. Cut him off and ignore him