I am leaving my fiancee....but need some advice on what to do now...caught him again on the internet..dating sites, pornos....and they weren't adult pornos...they were teenagers with older guys! He's sick, beyond the help stage...he is getting off watching younger girls having sex with older guys....disgusting!!! What to do now? Should i go to the police about it? I mean i have children involved..not his though, but i have daughter, how do i know he didn't do anything to her??? He's sick sick sick....Should i bring his computer down to the station and have him get picked up...could i do that?? I mean these types of people need to be behind bars...not going after young girls u know?
2007-07-20 03:26:15 · 18 answers · asked by Nicole H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay i didn't mention this before, the reason why i said jail was b/c he downloaded a pic of 2 11yr old girls in the nude..is that good enough?
2007-07-20 03:35:09 · update #1
Yes, if you do not approve of this and you have young daughters I would get them away from him forever. Porn is one thing, dating sites is too far and Child pornography is way too far.
I would take the computer to get looked at early in the day when he is going to be gone from the house for hours. Take your kids or take them to a family member of your house were they will be safe,
Good for you at drawing the line, if you can't do it for yourself, at least do it for the children.
2007-07-23 04:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Atlanta29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should call the cops. When in doubt, it is better safe than sorry. Don't say anything to your fiancee (EX-fiancee!), and don't touch anything. That is the best thing you can do to stop him from exploiting children, and if it turns out it all was legal, then at least you'll know. It doesn't mean that he did or didn't do anything to your daughter, but the police will investigate and get to the bottom of it. He could have just been a voyeur and enjoyed looking, so it does not mean he did something to your kid... but you never know. The police will take care of it. I am really sorry this happened to you, but call the cops, and take care of yourself. Good luck!
2007-07-20 03:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to immediately get out of the situation. I know that it is a hurtful thing, because this is someone that you loved and thought that you knew very well, but obviously you didn't. I would make an appointment with the doctor, to have my daughter seen. And take it from there. If nothing has been done, to my daughter, I think that I would just let him go and go on with my life.
Just be thankful, that you find out these things before you committed you and your child to him for life.
I wish you the best in the future.
I am kinda in the same situation with my fiancee, but he is messing around with other women, and I am trying to figure out what to do, because we have children involved as well.
You can e-mail me
2007-07-20 03:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As sad as this is...there is nothing illegal about visiting porn sites... if all the girls are 18.
I do think you need to move on. You need someone who is interested in you....not weird fantasies. Its natural for people to watch porn every once and a while. But everything in moderation.
Also, if he is on dating sites, how do you know he is not already having another emotional relationship with someone else? That still is considered cheating in my book.
Kick him to the curb and move on. I think going to the police will just be exhausting and you won't get the results you want. If you are fearful for your children, get a restraining order.
2007-07-20 03:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by anselina1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he is only watching he is not doing anything wrong. If he engages in contacting them and actually meeting with them and if they are minors yes something could be done. Research this on the Internet is all in here.
There are older men out there who I know for a fact enjoys watching young women doing themselves. S*** my man is one of them and we both have grown daughters go figure. Yet no harm has ever come to our girls. And he is a decent man.
You need to address it and if it continues or he disregards your feelings than you need to let him go and move on....
2007-07-20 03:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful about trying to get him arrested. Lots of adult women pose as underage teenagers for the purposes of making porno. If you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that these women are underage then by all means report him. But first of all get you and your daughter away from him.
2007-07-20 03:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
see, when you say teenagers, are you saying people who look 18-19 or those who look like they're 13-15 type thing?? if it's the 13-15 type thing.. just call the cops, tell them that you know your fiancee has been watching kidee porn and that you've actually seen it on his computer... they'll probably go in, get a court order to search the computer and then if there's any evidence probably arrest him....
2007-07-20 03:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you may be jumping to conclusions. Have you ever confronted him and asked him why he looks at those sites? I am not saying he does not have a problem and I would certainly watch my daughter and make sure she knows what to do if he ever did do something wrong but to go to the police because he goes to porn sites and I am sure every girl in those sites are over 18, if not report him
2007-07-20 03:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is not worth it just leave him without a word and make sure he never finds out your new address and be honest to your dauger ask her if she ever felt uncomforable with him and if so in what way let her know you are worried and finally tell her what a freak it is dont cover up let her know the truth and warn her.
2007-07-20 03:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Internet is free for all so the police probably wont do anything, to get him tell everyone you know and who he knows about this (people can be cruel)
2007-07-20 03:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋