2007-07-20 00:31:55 · 12 answers · asked by ciara425 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You will have to pull out every ounce of patience that you have...and then find MORE!
Toddlers (I hate to use this comparison, but it is true) are like puppies. You have to pay more attention to your own behavior and how it is percieved by your child (or puppy).
For instance: with puppies-if every time they start to bark at you you start playing with them, you are rewarding the barking behavior. With toddlers-if they continue to misbehave and you laugh (or pick them up, or distract them with a favorite toy) they think that they are giving you the desired behavior.
Toddlers are curious by nature. (if yours isn't I would say get him to a doctor!!) So remember that they will get into things. Keep a close eye out to make sure they don't get injured! IF they are throwing temper tantrums- just be sure you are not eventually rewarding this behavior!
Remember, too, that they are only little for a short time, but don't let that keep you from teaching him (or her) how to behave correctly!
Best of luck!
2007-07-20 00:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok first of all what isn't your toddler doing that you feel he/she should be, what way is the behavior naughty.
I have 4 children first 3 were a dream unfortunately my now 3year old was challenging.
If she does not behave as i would like her to she will get a warning, if she continues its 3 minutes on the naughty step. Be 100% cconsistent
Also are you listening enough to what your child needs or wants.
Try and really reward the good stuff, if i am happy with my daughter we have a high 5, she didn't run out into he road yesterday and i got down to her eye level and said well done and thanked her for not running off.
Communicating with a toddler may sound crazy but its sometimes what is lacking.
An example is its time to get out of the bath,don't just say right time to get out NOW, your child is unprepared, Say to them 5 minutes before OK 5 more minutes then is time for you to come out. It prepares them. And also give them something to look forward like after bath its story time and we can read your favorite.
Good luck and enjoy your toddler
All my love and best wishes
Kim
2007-07-20 07:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toddlers are bad lol.. They're still babies but they're developing kid brains really fast. And they're becoming mobile so they want to do everything.
My niece was a difficult toddler and my sister talked to me a lot about it. She actually learned some good strategies. One was consistency. If opening thefridge door and helping herself is not allowed, then it's not allowed and EVERY TIME she did that my sister would have to scold her. even when it was really really cute and funny. When she made rules, she had to stick to them and what was not allowed is not allowed all the time. She didn't make exceptions. If she had, it might have confused the baby. Like "well I'm not allowed to do this but sometimes mom thinks its cute so I SHOULD do this to get attention" or "she only punishes me sometimes so it's not really a big deal" or "I know how to be cute or sneaky and make sure she doesn't punish me" Yes. Toddlers are smart enough to figure all of that out.
She also made sure that within the rules, she still gave my niece choices. Like "you can either put your jacket on yourself, or I can put it on. It's up to you. If you don't put your jacket on, you can't go outside" so it was understood that she could cry and scream and whine about it but she had the choice. It was up to her. She could either put her jacket on by herself, she could let mommy do it or she could stay indooors. Three choices when it seems like the child had none. This gave her some voting power and made her see that she could still make choices for herself even when there is a rule in place.
Consistency and respect. YOU are the pack leader. And kids will be willful but it's your job to stand firm and deliver loving discipline with respect and consistency. Kids need discipline and they need to be shown what is right and safe and what is wrong and perhaps not safe. They don't know that stuff yet. So they'll do things that seem bad but really, they're learning. Kids can be bad when they're little because there is so much to learn and do. :)
2007-07-20 07:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by GollyBeth! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toddlers dont behave-its not in their nature. But behaviour can be taught, with gentleness, CONSISTENCY and loads of patience.
2007-07-20 07:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Hopi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1) By being consistant.
2) Communicating with them, not just yelling.
3) Be loving, but firm.
4) Pick you battles...If she really wants to wear a tiarra to the grocery store, let her!! Stick to your guns when you tell her no candy on the way out.
2007-07-20 11:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whip him with a belt til he bleeds...
what do you think? hes a kid, hes not going to behave easily. Just tell him firmly what to do and if that doesn't work put him in "time-out".
2007-07-20 08:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Supernanny! She`ll sort him out
2007-07-20 07:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ronnie RZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking. Not beating, spanking.
Several years ago, when my kids were toddlers, we brought them to my grandmother's funeral. My cousin, who had traveled from out of state for the services, complimented my husband on how well-behaved and happy our kids were. He asked how we did it, because he couldn't get his kids under control and they were always fighting. My husband said "I spank them."
My cousin got so upset and started telling my husband all about how bad spanking is for kids and it just teaches them violence, yada yada - my husband interrupted and said "hey - you're the one who asked me about how to get kids to behave, not the other way around."
Discipline yourself to discipline.
2007-07-20 07:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by mrscjr 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't force him...let him be a toddler.
2007-07-20 07:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Discipline. Control. Love and respect for each other....
2007-07-20 07:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Iamme 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋