Ive Cheated What Shall i do?

Question

HELP!!

I have been seeing my girlfriend for 7 months now.. recently she has some family problems and i have not see or spoken to her for a couple of weeks now (apart from the odd text)..

Anyway my last relationship ended rather badly as my ex cheated on me... Last night i was out with my mates and one of their sisters who has fancied me for years was there....

I got really drunk and ended up staying at her house and sleeping with her... We didnt go all the way just kissing etc but i feel so guilty now its a joke..

What do i do, i know i shouldnt have done it and i feel like a right w.nker... But i was missing my girl and she cant see me at the minute what am i to do...

I am afraid that the girl who fancies me will spill the beans to my mrs... Which in all fairness i deserve so what am i to do confess or lie

YES I KNOW IM A TW.T and a ****.r etc and i do know how it feels as i have had it done... But what can i say its done now !!!

Answer 1

lie lie and lie again
If my boyf cheated on me Id rather not know as I find it insulting...if she does tell ur mrs get ur m8s to lie for ya aswell saying shes just jealous as she was asking about you as she fancies ya and sum1 told her you werent single so shes trying to split u up as she wants u.

Good Luck....
whatever you do dont tell her ppl may tell u its best to be honest but if ur thers no doubt u'll lose her.

:-)

Answer 2

Damn, you sound like a decent guy and your concerns are all in the right place! That's to be for your advantage if you go through with telling her about this. If you think the other girl is really apt to spill those beans you need to act fast.
I'd let your girl know there is something important you need to sit with her and talk about and plan to take her somewhere open, nice and private. Like by the water, outside, something. This way both of you are taking this step in God's turf, (important detail!). Then, I would downplay the extent of this drink influenced ordeal by a LOT even though you only made out! (WAY important detail!)
You partied too much, there was some flirting or a dance and later when you were talking, a couple unplanned kisses happened and you shook it off in time to come to your senses and here you are, telling her instead of shrugging it off, cause she means that much to you!
I don't know, don't LIE but protect her heart while your trying to save the relationship is what I'm trying to say!
Most dudes wouldn't consider spilling guts! So for that you can be proud of yourself. Man, next time be WAY out of town when the lips end up wondering!

Answer 3

Confess, if this girl does talk and your mrs finds out from another then she is deffinetly going to dump you!!!, you have messed up big time, the only way to salvage this is by being honest, you have to see her and tell her as soon as possible and explain what has happened and why, she may very well still dump you, but later she may consider that you were honest and possibly give you a second chance, the truth always hurts but ultimately most people would want the truth, i know i would, in any case lying may work for the short term but eventually she will find out and will absolutely hate you for it.
Also you say that this happened as you were missing your girl? i strongly advise you do not use this line to her, come on?, you have had this done to you!!! you know how it feels, would you have said to your ex ''its ok that you rocked this guys world, it was only because you were missing me'', if she had said that to you? NO, maybe before you go and speak to your mrs you should have a think to yourself first, i mean this is all it took for you to cheat on her, how strongly can you feel for her?, due to my exs career months would go by where i did not see him, 6 months being the longest consecutively, i never went out and cheated on him, if you have an ounce of respect for your mrs tell her before someone else does, you will break her heart but at least her pride will remain intact, which will not be the case if she finds out from another, do the right thing for her sake.

Answer 4

I would confess, I know it doesn't sound like the best option but trust me it is, if you regret what you have done then you would confess, if you don't then knowing a man's luck the sister will tell on you.

In a woman's eyes it is better to be truthful than not, I am sure that you will work things out, but its better done now than later. It will be harder for you to tell her as time goes by and it will also be harder for her to forgive you for it. Yes you might have an argument, but thats natural, and you will have to prove that you love her and you know that you have made a big mistake.

Gd luck mate

Answer 5

its only natural 2 feel lonely when you haven't seen your girlfriend 4 a while.and when you get attention from someone else it feels good.you didn't go all the way with the other girl and stop worrying about it i know its harder said then done.remember your not the first guy to do something like this and you wont be the last!try and arange a time to see your girlfriend and make up for the time you havent seen eachother.i woundnt tell your mrs what happened if it does come out tell her you were very drunk and lonely.

Answer 6

Keep it to yourself. If you love your girlfriend look at it that you only kissed and groped! Imagine how bad you would feel if you had gone the whole hog.....and remember that feeling next time you are tempted and hopefully that will get you out of trouble. On the other hand, if you don't love your girlfriend and want to get it together with the other lady or be single again, just let her down gently.... NOWAY mention you kissed this other bird as this would knock her confidence and upset her a lot! all the best :)

Answer 7

Tell her. If she finds out from someone else, the damage will be far far greater. There is nothing worse than being lied to and betrayed in a relationship. You have already made this massive mistake, so I think you are best to confess and explain to her you will NEVER EVER do it again.

My guess is she'll dump you. But if she finds out from someone else further down the line (and also realises you have been lying to her) then she will DEFINATELY dump you. So you're in a lose-lose situation - but honestly, what do you expect?

Take responsibility for your behaviour and learn from this.

Answer 8

You sound like a very nice guy who made a very stupid mistake and feels very bad abt it. Having said that, i think you should tell ur gf abt ur wrongdoing n ask for forgiveness cos it'll b a lot better for her to comprehend if the bad news came frm u n not the ada gal as she's likely to rub it in her face hoping u guys break up n she has u all to herself. It hurts a lot to find out that sum1 u care abt has been hiding or lying to u, and in addition u'l also carry the guilt inside which is unhealthy... All the best

Answer 9

Be A Man - Confess before she finds out through someone else.... Talk it through with her - She'll either forgive you or she wont... If not then it's your fault mate as you shouldn't have done it in the first place..

Answer 10

personally i am quite a honest person, so if i was in ur shoes, i wud tell her, that way she hears it from u first, tell her wot happend bt enfersize the fact that u were drunk and that u deeply regret it. one of two things will happen, she will forgive u, understandin that we all make mistakes or she will dump u, which to be honest i wudnt blame her. be a man n stick ur hand up n admit that u were wrong. bt i think thats its best off she hears from u as opposed to everybody playin chinese whispers n then all sorts of things are said to her about wot u did., bt do wot u think is best, follow ur heart and think with ur head. gd luck wotever happens, bt wot does happen, happens for a reason.