i really need help please!?

Question

ok well i really have low self esteem everyone is always saying im beautiful some times people i dont even know will tell me i am pretty but for some reason i hate my self any ideas of how to bost my SE?

Answer 1

Make a list of your positive qualities. The way you look is not the deciding factor about how good of a person you are. Stop worrying about what you see in the mirror and worry about what you have to offer the world. Do something for someone else and maybe you will see your inner beauty become more evident.

Answer 2

Everyone has a conversation going on in their mind all the time. It's called self talk. Most people with low self esteem ( me too) tell themselves negative things about themselves. Become aware of what you are telling yourself.

Then, every time that you think something negative about yourself, counter that by challenging the negative thought. As an example, if you catch yourself thinking, "I'm just no good!"; tell yourself the truth, "No one is good at everything or bad at everything. There are some things I'm good at and some things that I don't do as well at. It's not true that I'm no good.".

If you are a Christian, there is a good book on this, "Telling Yourself The Truth", by Dr. William Backus and Marie Chapian. If you are an athiest, there is a book, " Feeling Good, The New Mood Therapy" by a Dr. Burns that talks about the same thing from a secular point of view.

If it is true that you "hate yourself" you may want to see a counselor to help you through this. It also may be the case that you have the illness, Depression. If that is the case, you may need to take an antidepressant until any underlying cause can be corrected. Only medical doctors can prescribe this for you.

I'm sorry that you are going through this. I've never hated myself but I've felt worthless and been depressed and it feels terrible. I hope something that I have said has been helpful.

Answer 3

If you are a teenager then doubting your own appearance or looks is normal. Even the most attractive people have these self-doubts during this stage of life. It is caused by the changes in your body and hormone levels.

I think its a pretty good sign that people spontaneously comment on how attractive you are. Come on - how many times have you gone up to an unattractive stranger and told them how pretty they were?

You can try some of the self-help ideas mentioned here, but if this starts to interfere with your enjoyment of life then you should talk to someone about it. One of the best ways to improve your self image is whenever you find yourself thinking about how unattractive you are, stop it. It's hard to do at first, but it gets easier with practice.

Answer 4

here's the thing, people say I'm the ugliest thin ever, but I really know I'm not. I always used to look at the popular girls and how they always had boys around them. I now know that the only reason they've got boys around them is cause they run around like sluts. Your situation isn't the same. If you ever see models and stuff on tv or in magazines, most models are actually anorexic or bulemic or have some eating disorder, and they're always photoshoped and touched up by computer programs. If you're a teenager, then with the huge media impact nowdays, you've probably got low self esteem and anyway, this thing usually happens to teenagers. I've always gone by one thing in my life, I never judge people by how they look, what they wear, the stuff they have...
don't judge yourself like that. It's not what's on the outside that counts, it's what's on the inside.

Answer 5

Please read Psalm 139:13-16 and meditate on what God says about you! Hey come on, my wife and I both have problems with our front teeth. She lost hers and she had to wear dentures. Me, well I have got something a rabbit will be proud of.

Answer 6

ok girl send me a pic of u... i will tell u from heart what i think

Answer 7

go to www.helpyourselftherapy.com, www.more-selfesteem.com, www.selfgrowth.com