hi everyone my 2 and 1/2 year old boy has slept with me from day one but now it's to hard he is getting to big

Question

i little more my husband is in the navy and 2 weeks after our first son was born my husband went on the boat for 6 mos. and i moved home my son slept with me but now he is to big but if i put him is his bed he will just get out i tryed to lay down with him but it still takes hours for him to go to sleep and he wake up and gets in bed with us and when my husband is gone he is up for hours tell 11pm he is a very hiper boy too

Answer 1

I completely understand your situation! My daughter slept with me because my husband stayed gone at work for weeks at a time and I wanted my baby close to me! Dont listen to all the people out there who cant understand this. Because your son is already 2 and a half, big and hyper, it is going o be a challenge, but you can do it!

-The most important thing is to create and stick to a routine. Dinner, bath, pjs, quiet time, bed...in HIS bed. Let him know ahead of time what the plans are and how much time he has left before its time to get into bed.

-Get him excited about sleeping in his own bed. Make his room/bed a place he likes with his favorite charactor blankets or stuffed animals.

-Put a safety gate across his doorway. This way you dont have to close the door and you will be able to hear him if he needs to and you can peek in on him easily. This worked well for my daughter, but your son may be too big at this point for it to actually keep him in.

-If he gets out of bed, take him right back to his bed and return to your room. Dont have a conversation about it, just put him back and walk away.

-DO NOT SLEEP IN HIS BED/ROOM. Do not stay in his room till he falls asleep. Unless you plan on doing this every night for the next 5 years, dont start! Teach your son his bed is for HIM, your bed is for mommy and daddy...thats it.

-Since he is hyper, try to limit his sugar during the day (if you allow him to have any).

Just remember that all children are different, all families are different and you will need to try a few different things in order to find what works best for you and your child. Good luck!

Answer 2

When we transitioned our kids from co-sleeping to their own room, it was a slow process. We put sleeping bags in the floor next to our bed (no room for a toddler bed in there.) The each enjoyed sleeping on the floor in our room. Gradually, we started talking more about their room and their bed and they got to pick out sheets for their bed. So they were included - it wasn't that they were being "pushed out", which is what I wanted to avoid anyway. Then we set a date, like a week away. Each day we'd talk about it and reiterate how many more days. And we were excited - it wasn't threatening. Then the day came and they went in their own bed. Was it failproof? No. All kids will sometimes creep back into their parents' bed. Whether it's a bad dream or just waking up and wanting to be close to mom or dad - they will still come in. It's up to you whether you let them finish the night in your bed or whether they go back into theirs (you taking them there, of course.)

We get a lot of the "But I can't sleep" and this works every time: "Well, then close your eyes and pretend you are asleep until you really are."

Answer 3

been there done that. My oldest son will be 5 in a few days and just now started getting use to a bed of his own and i started moving him there a year ago. It takes time. It is a slow process. I lay down with my boys until they are atleast almost asleep then slowly get up. There room is where they can see into my room if i leave our doors open so if they wakeup they know i am still here. If they start to wonder into my bed i take them back to theirs and lay down with them again and repeat the process. They are getting much better. I am now at a 9 pm bedtime but they wakeup at 7 am now. I took away sugary things at 6 pm and do a bedtime routine including a story in their bed. Kids will scream and cry at first because they are scared but over time he will do much better. Just make sure that he doesn't sleep with you while hubby is away. Good luck.

Answer 4

I co-slept with my son from day one. It is really a decision that everyone has to make on their own. If you are ready to have him sleep in his own bed, it is time to start the transition. I have moved a toddler bed into my room and my son sleeps there now. You will need to be firm about him sleeping in his own bed. Be prepared for some resistance in the beginning. The suggestions about a bedtime routine are good ones. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

My son is 3 1/2 and still sleeps with me, although, about a year ago he did OK when I bought him a new spider-man bed. Then we moved and back in my bed he went. My only suggestion is to make a bedtime routine, like ours was snack, bath, book, bed. Good luck as it is a difficult thing to change.

Answer 6

Try making his bed more inviting. Bring a pillow or blanket from your bed to use in his bed. Read him a book with him in his bed with the lights low. Plus no food or drinks an hour before bed and a warm laveneder bath before bed is an awesome sleepy time worker! Also try keeping a gate in your door way so that he can still see that you are there in your bed if he wakes up at night but cant get to you I know its hard cuz hes your baby but its the only way to break him of this!

Answer 7

Not sure what your question would be................

Try getting him more active , burning up some of that energy.....so that he will be ready to go to bed .

If you no longer want him in your bed, keep walking him back to his own room........ or put the big boys tot bed in your room letting him get used to it, then move it to his room when you think he is ready.


I see nothing wrong with co sleeping, but you are his security it will take some time to get him used to sleeping alone.

Answer 8

im sorry to say you have made a rod for your own back it will be hard to get himto stay in his own bed but you will beable to with a bit of perseverance when youput him to bed have a soft light on and read him a story establish a routine then say night night to him and leave the room if he crys leave him for about ten mins it is hard but you can do it if he gets up put him straight back to bed saying only its bedtime now night night if he gets upagain put him straight back but without saying anything trust me this could go on for a while but like i said if you keep at it he will soon learn that he has to sleep in his own bed my son trys to come to my bed if he gets up for the toilet in the night but i tell him no but he can have a cuddle in the morning it is hard especially when they are crying but it does work good luck!.

Answer 9

SAME thing here i would love to here the comments on this one im having the same problem, my son is the same age
and i cant keep him in his own bed, i dont know what to do, my other son who is one (yes they r very close) sleeps fine in his own bed just the 2 yr old gives me problems

Answer 10

Your question illustrates why you should have your children in cribs and their own beds from day one.

So how do you undo this? Make some changes to his room that make it special. You could paint some of his favorite characters from his books on the walls, or make a headboard that looks like a car, etc. Then, after you have made a big deal, over a few days, about how great his new room is, begin taking him there about half an hour before you want him to go to sleep. Help him learn how to pick up his toys and put them away, put his clothes in the dirty clothes hamper, put on his pajamas, and read a book to him.

The personal attention will make a big difference, reading will make a big difference in his education, and he will treasure his room.

It's unlikely your son is actually hyper. This term is very over-used. Most likely it's just normal childhood energy. Most of us don't remember how energetic we were at that age. Give yourself another 20 years, and you'll be marveling at how much energy women who are your age now have. Take a child development class at a local community college and you will begin to see this, and understand much of what you need to know about the patterns of childhood. It can be of great assistance to you now and in the future.