Am I depressed? Should I be on meds?

Question

I have no motivation
I feel tired and listless
I would rather sleep or lay in bed for 12 hours than get up
I feel bored all the time
I don't have any close friends, someone who I could talk to or look to for support.
About once a month, I get very upset about something, to the point of extreme crying, anger, and feeling suicidal
I have no hobbies
I have a boyfriend, we've been together for 7 years, but I feel very unimportant and forgotten by him.
I'm always "nagging" him to spend some time with me, but I never know what we should do. Is it unreasonable to expect someone to just talk, or hang out and be bored together? He's got his hobbies, and everything I suggest for us to do is never fun or entertaining enough for him. But I'm just tired of being alone all day. We live in the same house, yet I still feel very alone.
I cannot keep up with my housework or basic responsibilities at home, even though I don't have a job.
I'm here all day and feel no sense of accomplishment at

the end of the day.
I have 2 children who I love very much, but I feel so guilty for not playing with them enough or interacting much.
I just feel totally useless and like a bad parent and a lame girlfriend who isn't worthy...
What can I do?
I don't have much if any of a sex drive....
No motivation to do anything constructive and nothing to look forward to.

Answer 1

See your doctor as soon as you can. He can help you more than anyone out here can. He can either recommend another doctor for you or even some meds to get you some help. Don't give up! Good luck to you....

Answer 2

first off, please don't kill yourself. suicide will NOT make things better, and you will hurt those around you (there are more people around you than you may think that care about you). now the only way you can be certain is if you get examined by a doctor. what i really think you need is to find someone to talk things through with, maybe a psychiatrist or a close family friend. if you're religious, you can go to your church or other place of worship and talk to someone there. as long as you talk, you'll feel better. your doctor may put you on a medication also. be open and honest with the person you talk things through with (tell them everything you typed here in your question) so that they will know exactly how to treat you. but above all, PLEASE do not resort to suicide. and i am sure you have a very important role in life and someone will always be there for you, you just have to find them. perhaps someone in your family. you could turn to them when you're feeling sad or lonely. you could also get a hobbie to keep you occupied, or a pet to keep you company when you are feeling down. i really hope you get to feeling better very soon.

Answer 3

There is no doubt that you are very depressed. It was like reading my journal when I read your question. I couldn't believe it! My circumstances are way different than yours but, we are identical in how we feel. The last 5 years of my life has been a living hell. From 2 major car crashes, leaving me partially disabled, to losing my husband last year and losing my mom this year. Things, I don't think, can get much worse than that. I really feel ya, babe. You have to see a doctor and get on antidepressants. Whatever triggered your brain to shut down like that, has to be kick started again. Without proper medication you will only continue to get worse. Not only are you suffering but, you are putting your family through hell as well. It's not shameful or degrading to be on A/D's. I believe the number of north Americans on antidepressants would absolutely astonish us, if we really knew. It's something that can be helped. Don't wait any longer and just do it. What have you got to lose? Now, that's a good question.

Answer 4

I know what you are going through - I have been there myself. You have the classic symptoms of depression. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes you to feel the way you do. Anti-depressants correct that imbalance. Often a short treatment with anti-depressants can break the cycle and get things back to normal. I urge you to find some help as soon as you can. This is not something an individual can just snap out of on his or her own.

Forget that stupid advice from Ian W and all the others here who tell you to just snap out of it, or WHY are you this way, or say medications are bad, get a dog. Unbelievable. These are clearly people who do not have a clue as to what you are going through.

The important thing is for you to realize that this is not normal, it is not your doing or your fault, and it can be better. Please make an appointment to see someone tomorrow!

Try to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist and not your family physician. As good hearted as they are, GP's are not experts in treating depression. It may take several tries with different anti-depressants until the doctor and you find one that works for you. GP's tend to simply prescribe one and assume it worked.

I'm not speaking from theory here. I have been in the same situation with the same symptoms you list. Life was like walking through molasses. After just a few weeks of anti-depressant use I was out of the pit and have not needed them again.

This is a problem that has a solution, trust me.

Answer 5

hmm,
I've been in a place very close to that.
depressed, yes.
you should talk to your doctor about it and see what they think you should do, along the lines of medicine.
but here are a couple things you can do to make you happier
first, get some sunlight, go outdoors enjoy yourself a bit, (don't get sunburned or anything lol ) but get outside a bit the suns rays emit vitamin d which is awesome for cheering you up. plus exercise gets your body going, being fit will help with being tired and the lack of motivation.
also try to pick up several different hobbies. arts and crafts are always fun! so is cooking. find one thing and learn a lot about it, study something unusual. search free education classes, you can never learn too much. plus you'll feel a since of accomplishment after wards.
and something that always cheers me up is to pamper yourself for a day, relax paint your nails put on a deep conditioner for your hair and a clarifying mask for your face. do a mini make over and make yourself feel confident. if your happy with yourself and you feel good about yourself then you'll feel good about life.

faith is also a good way to be happy.
i hope i could help.

Answer 6

Tell you what, I've been in the same boat as you, depressed, on and off for about the past 4-5 years and it's been the hardest thing to deal and cope with... I got prescribed to anti-depressants by my psychologist but haven't taken them... I'm a drug addict/alcoholic who deals with my depression/anxiety by self-medicating... I've also been suicidal quite a few times in the past 3-4 months and I know what you're going through... I feel your pain... I wish that I could just jump through the computer to hang out and talk to you to try to cheer you up or keep you company because probably the worst feeling emotionally is being lonely and feeling like noone cares about you... I'm sooooooo sorry that you have to feel this way, NO human being should EVER have to feel that way... But tell you what, to me it sounds like you've just about hit your rock bottom so it can only get better from here... I'm about to get some help just like you should too so you can start to enjoy your life like every human being should... You should definitely call 1-800-273-TALK for help 24/7 or get on the phone during the day to talk/schedule an appointment with a counselor or something... Once again, I FEEL YOUR PAIN AND I KNOW IT'S SOOO HARD TO DEAL WITH BUT I PROMISE THAT IT WILL GET BETTER WITH SOME PROFESSIONAL HELP AND EFFORT FROM YOU... I hope the BEST of luck to you and I hope that one day SOON you can be a happier person and enjoy life a little more... Also, if your boyfriend of 7 years won't help you with your depression or spend time with you when you're lonely then I think that you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him to tell him how deeply hurt and abandoned his actions make you feel... (Because I'm sure it does make you feel that way)... And no, you expecting him to be bored with you or just simply hang out and talk is NOT WRONG OF YOU TO EXPECT... Me and my best friend always sit around doing nothing together and it makes me feel a lot better just to have someone to be bored with and to listen to my inner feelings... WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK!

Answer 7

Yes. You are depressed and you also are unhappy with your relationship with your boyfriend. and these two affect each other. The more you are unhappy with your relationship, the more you get depressed. Being depressed at this level, you don't have any energy or insight to do anything for your relationship with your boyfriend and your children. I have been there. Medication really helps, but as soon as you feel better you need to work on your relationship with your family. Make an appointment with your doctor. My heart is with you.

Answer 8

I know from experience, whenever you think about suicide, you need help. Your situation is pretty bad and it will only get worse. Don't be afraid to ask for help, you probably need counseling and medication. Don't feel like you're weak if you ask for help with this or have to take some time off to get you better. You aren't doing your family any good the way it is. I promise medicine can help a lot.

Answer 9

Well sister, if you are depressed then so am I cause I feel the same way. Pretty worthless! Sorry to hear you feel like this, Im sorry I feel like this. I would say yes to depression. Go to the doc. I don't have health insurance and cant afford to see a doc right now, or I would. Good luck! Hope you start to feel better!

Answer 10

Yes the symptoms you describing are symptoms of depression. Yes you shoul be started on medication and try if therapy will work for you. Set up the appoitment with the doc asap. I feel the same way from time to time and I am on meds.