does having sex before marriage really matter?

Question

honestly, does it really hurt any of you religious freaks if two people decide to have sex before marriage? honestly I dont think its gonna kill anybody or even affect you if you dont know about it. so what the hell does anybody else care?

yes with protection, for those wondering.

i mean if you dont give a rats @$$ then why the hell does god care?

by the way having sex before marriage doesnt make you a slut or a guy hoe so dont get it twisted. and yes i am talking with protection and with someone you care about. retards

Answer 1

good point, my leading lady and i have two kids been together since our mid teens and never got married, we don't feel the need to we are happy as we are, and it hasn't done us any harm. i think if its casual sex and its safe and no one is getting hurt then why not. but for sex to be better and for it to stop being sex and to be making love (which is better trust me!) the commitment needs to be there

Answer 2

It doesn't hurt me at all if you do, that's your business. Not mine.

And I'm not going to tell a non believer what they should do. Neither am I going to laugh when you find in your marriage that your relationship has waned and your heart broken because she's having another sex-based relationship with someone else.

Which is why you had better be sure that you are not building your relationship up on sex. How are you going to be sure? By not having sex before marriage!

But I am no one to judge. I like having sex. Sex is a great way to know whether or not the girl is good at it or not. Anyone can talk.

So there you have it. Sex has it's rewards, and it also can bite you in the butt.

How many corners can you see around?

Answer 3

Why do I personally care? Because God made you, in his image, and he made you, well you. There is no one else in the entire world like you. We were all made special. He did that because he loves you, and tells us to love one another. So why do I care? Because you were wonderfully and beautifully made; and God told me to. Now why do I specifically care if you have sex before marriage? Because if I do truly care about you, I only want the best for you, and every sociologist in the world will tell you that multiple sex partners is hard on the human brain. We were not made to have that type of relationship with multiple people. That is only one aspect, not to mention STD's running rampid, babies being abandoned everyday, abortion, and things like that. Why don't I want you to have sex before marriage? Because the chance of all of these things happening are so great, and they are not the best things for you. Since I care, I only want what's best for you, and so does God. That's why the Bible tells us to wait. Call me a nut job, I know you will, but I wish I would have waited.

Answer 4

I even have had intercourse before marriage. interior the 1st place I constantly needed to attend, yet someplace alongside the line in my relationship with my fiance I realised that actual i did no longer inevitably prefer to attend till marriage, merely till i stumbled on the main suitable guy for me - I knew from the commencing up that i needed to easily be with the only individual, no be counted if we've been married or no longer. We waited till we've been the two specific that it became into the main suitable step to take, we had observed birth control and what we could do have been I to get pregnant. We have been additionally engaged with the aid of this factor (yet that had little or no do do with our determination). became into it properly worth it? To be hassle-free, i'm unsure. In some techniques I prefer we had waited till our wedding ceremony nighttime, because it could have actual made for a memorable nighttime, and could have stored particularly some heartache - I even have had a pair of being pregnant scares, and an unplanned being pregnant which led to miscarriage. And this became into being careful and taking precautions - all people who tells you that a skill of birth control is a hundred%, even whilst used wisely, is mendacity. in spite of the shown fact that, interior the long term, I recognize that it could have probable been impractical for us to have waited till marriage, as we are having an prolonged (around 4 365 days) engagement before it's going to be sensible for us to marry. wish this facilitates. x

Answer 5

Not really. It's a matter of shared expectations for the relationship. If both of you just want a casual relationship, but can accept the responsibility of sex, that's fine.

I have a friend who lives with a woman and has two kids by her, but still hasn't gotten married. He's doing well. I have other friends who have casual sex, and others who are happily married.

It really comes down to your own life and your own lifestyle.

Answer 6

The reason I think it matters doesn't have anything to do with religion. When people limit their sexual contacts, they develop more of a bond between one another. That's important if you expect your marriage to last a lifetime. Most people today don't limit their partners and they don't have a marriage that lasts.

Answer 7

well, hold that thought...

does getting pregnant and not wanting the baby really matter?
does having an abortion really matter?
does spreading stds to unsuspecting people really matter?
does being coerced into proving you *love* someone really matter?
does hoping that sex will make someone love you really matter?
does having some guy/girl talk about you in a demeaning way really matter?
does having sex with someone who doesn't care enough about you to want to love you first, really matter?

if your answer is no to all of these questions, then you're right - it really doesn't matter. but if you answer yes to any of these questions...

Answer 8

For me personally, it does. I'm going to save myself for marriage because i think that its important for me to come into my marriage as whole. I want to wear that white dress of purity and mean it. I'm saving my first time for the man that i know i'll love and spend the rest of my life with. sex is meant just for two people that love each other very very much. that's why i'm saving myself for the person that i know i'll love for the rest of my life.

Answer 9

Called FORNICATION

Matthew 15:19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:

Acts 15:20 But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood. Acts 15:29 That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.
Acts 21:25 As touching the Gentiles which believe, we have written and concluded that they observe no such thing, save only that they keep themselves from things offered to idols, and from blood, and from strangled, and from fornication.

Corinthians I 5:1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles

Corinthians I 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Ephesians 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

FORNICATION is not to be named umpng the saved Christians

Answer 10

im waiting. God wants you to share that only with your husband/wife it is a special thing and it is not to be used before marriage. I am waiting for God and myself.