I was just told?

Question

from a question I posted yesterday that I will go to Hell for spanking my child.

guess I am going to hell, then because he just body slammed the cat. and he has been warned several times.
do you think I am going to hell? or shall I just let him torture the poor cat?

Answer 1

your NOT going to hell for spanking your child, you did the right thing! don't listen to that person

Answer 2

I think it's funny that there is a "Report Abuse" link below a question about spanking a child......but that's beside the point, isn't it?

More than likely, the person who said you would go to Hell doesn't have children.....or has a nanny. One of the two. Granted, you should probably try some alternatives before resorting to that (the ever-popular time-out, taking toys away, taking privileges away, etc.) However, you know your child better than anyone. If a swat on the hind-end does the trick, I say go for it. I don't condone a flat out beating of the kid, but I would hope that's not what you mean by "spanking." Does the spanking actually curb the behavior, or just make you feel better? I'm not asking that to be nasty....it's a question I try to answer myself.

Answer 3

I didn't see your question from yesterday-- and don't worry about that hell comment-- it was probably one of the gazillion religious zealots on yahoo--they're like roaches and taking over the whole site.

You need to do one of two things:
Give the cat to someone who can care for him until your child is old enough to appreciate the animal.

You already know spanking doesn't cut it--it doesn't phase the child-- you need to find a punishment that will be respected- taking away a toy- going to bed early, no sweets, again, I don't know the age but if this child is under 2 he needs to be taught respect and that may mean you will hear a lot of crying and screaming while teaching him this--corner time--no stool just sit on the floor facing the corner....but you can't show anger and you have to praise him when he completes his punishment.......but seriously......remove the cat from the house until he's behaved.........

Answer 4

Somehow I don't think hell is the right issue here.

Your cat is being abused, and you need to consider that your house is no longer safe for a cat to live in.

Your discipline (spanking, time-outs, etc.) doesn't seem to be working. If you need to find alternatives, consider going to a parenting class for difficult children. You may also want to read the book, "The Defiant Child" by Ross Greene.

If all such measures don't bring about change, and you don't want to risk having Child Protective Services swooping into your family's life, consider going to a family counselor trained and experienced in addressing parent-toddler problems.

Answer 5

your not going to hell. what your doing is giving your child a wake up call on what life has in stored for him. Without discipline (not abuse) he is just going to do whatever he wants to do and he will have no guidance. He will be a person in this world that will end up filling the prison systems cells. Cuz from torturing the cat he'll ended up torturing people too, if not killing them.Your teaching him now at a young age that hurting something isn't right.Instead of spanking him take something away from him that he really likes, till he realizes that if he does wrong this is what is going to happen to him, maybe he likes video games, t.v., going out with his friends you know try using that aproach cuz maybe the spanking it's working. When I was a kid and did something wrong that's what my parents did to me, and I did that same aproach to my own kids without spanking and it worked,they knew if they did wrong something that they really liked doing was going to be taken away till they realized what they had done. Sometimes as a kid I would have rather have been spanked than being stuck upstairs in my room without any t.v. for a week. That sucks, but it also taught me not do what got me in that mess again.. Good Luck raising kids I think is the hardest thing there is to do in this world.

Answer 6

I wouldn't worry so much about the afterlife if I were you. You can worry about that later. Right now is the time to worry about bringing up your child in a responsible manner. Body slamming the cat isn't very responsible on his part or yours for letting him get away with it. So now it is time to play "Mean Mommy" and punish him. To me, the age of your child would determine his punishment. Spank him, take away his favorite toy, make him sit in his room for x amount of time to think things over any of this should work. I save spankings as the ultimate punishment. But, I believe in them.

Answer 7

Cindy,
The Old Testament tells us to "Spare the rod and spoil the child". That pretty well sums up GOD'S Opinion of spanking, I believe. Spanking is one way to correct the actions of a misbehaving child. There are also other alternatives for some misbehaviors but I certainly see nothing wrong with what you have done. Have a great weekend.
Thanks,
Eds (Christian)


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Answer 8

spankings are good i agree with you 100% a got spanked and it did me good thats why the crime rate went up 60% in the past 20 years because the kids dont get discipline and they need to now im 100% against child abuse but spankings arent abuse i have 2 kids both teens they got spankings and sometimes i think they need another

Answer 9

I don't think you will go to hell for spanking your child. I do think that in the long run you will find that spanking is not an effective tool for teaching a child how to behave. If you had limited warnings to only one, and then isolated him, the cat would not have been tortured. Watch supernanny once in awhile. She's living proof that corporal punishment is unnecessary and counterproductive.

Answer 10

I was spanked when I was a kid and I think it is fine. A child needs to be caught that when you do something bad, there are bad concequences. and sometimes words era just not enough. As long as your not hitting in a abusive way, your child its fine!