I'm going to a family reunion this weekend. I'll see some family I haven't seen in 25 to 30 yrs. Should I feel guilty if I don't act extatic about seeing some of them, and choose to leave early and go home??? I really am looking forward to seeing my extended family, but, I just don't want to spend two or three days with them. Thanks. :)))
2007-07-19 15:16:18 · 7 answers · asked by jorst 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mikey, I haven't told anyone in my family that I do have that night off from work. So, maybe I'll give your idea a try, but then again, I might find I want to spend two or three days with them, thanks.
2007-07-19 15:49:30 · update #1
One thing to remember - it is always later than you think. If you don't take advantage of this opportunity to be with your family members, the next time you see them may be at their funeral. Then how guilty will you feel?
Take lots of pictures and get all their names so you can remember who they are. This also allows you to keep mingling, so you aren't stuck with anyone too long. Some day you might get into genealogy and you will be glad to have these pictures. One picture is worth 1,000 words. Remember -- some of the people won't be there next time. This is your chance to make some memories. Don't be selfish. You could make all the difference to some of the lonely ones by spending time with them.
Perhaps you could start a family scrapbook, and ask each one to tell you stories of their youth, where they were born, how many in their family, jobs, pets, etc. and include pictures, of course. Could use a small tape recorder or old fashioned way, pen and paper. If you have a video camera, you could make a movie starring yoir family....or perhaps a slideshow. If there are to be children there, bring along some inexpensive toys, such as balloons or bubble blowers to share. It will give them something special to do, and run off a little energy. You might just decide this was really a fun weekend, and look forward to the next reunion. Good luck!!!
2007-07-19 16:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel comfortable in a big group of people I don't know that well, or don't really remember that well. Especially odd if they know who I am and I don't remember who they are. That might happen with the older members of the family.
But I am positive that on the party you will find someone of your age who you might find interesting to talk to and hang out with, stick with this person or group of people until you feel more comfortable. Time will fly fast if you have something to talk about.
Also, take a camera is a great idea, when you are behind the camera, you are busy and time flies much faster, no one will really bother you too much because they will feel that you are doing a really great and important gob for everyone. They will love you for that and gladly pose for you. Make it fun and they will give you a lot of positive feedback.
Also, you can find some task that you might enjoy (what ever it is) to help party run better. On one hand it is kind of job, but on the other hand, you have time to look around and find people you can spend more time with and have a good time.
If you get overwhelmed, don't be afraid to ask where can you close your eyes for a minute, there you can regroup, exhale, may be even take a nap and with new energy face your loving family. *smile* The fact that they will love you is out of the question just by the fact that some of the older people have not seen you for 30 years and will "kill you" with constant amazement how much you grew up since the last time they see you and they still remember you when you where "that little" *smile* Take it bravely. They mean only good. *smile*
But overall it is not going to be that bad. You will enjoy it if you set your mind to it. Go there with an attitude that no matter what you are going to have fun and nothing is going to spoil it. Then you will have a blast.
Good luck. and have fun!!
2007-07-21 21:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by serge_leatherbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went to a family reunion a while back and i just saw the people i knew and that was really it. all i have to say is to act extatic and say that u have been very busy and really wanted to get together with everyone or something. about the leaving early part say that u couldnt get the time off from work so u have to go back or something.
Good Luck!
2007-07-19 15:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by $^&*MiKe*&^$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How weird.....I'm going to a family reunion this weekend too. But lucky me, it's only for one full day on Saturday. :)
2007-07-19 15:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kim W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making an appearance is the important thing....but I bet you'll end up needing alot more time then your going to allow to catch up with those you hit it off with.
2007-07-19 15:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm wait and see. you might just change your mind if you see that you are truly having fun with them.
but if you feel uncomfortable still when you are around them after talking to them, then feel free to make some ingenious excuse and get out of there!
2007-07-19 15:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by blueberrymuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is bad to leave early, not too early of course.
but you can make up an excuse if you dont just want to leave- or have one prepared just in case!!!
2007-07-19 15:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by STOPthatNOISE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋