An unknown woman accused my husband of kissing her when he does not even know her. He got fired from his job over it, and facing legal problems because of her lies. How can I help his lawyer to disprove her allegations.
2007-07-19 15:13:47 · 8 answers · asked by krystal272002 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
We have been married for ten years now, and he has never been on a date with anyone as we are together most of the time. He was fired because management believed her over him. Personally, I think she is a loon looking for attention. I also think that she came on to him and he rebuffed her, she got pissed and made up this cock and bull story just to destroy someone else's life just because she can.
2007-07-19 15:43:44 · update #1
He has an excellent lawyer, and I want to be able to assist that lawyer in defending my husband's good name. Is there something wrong with that?
2007-07-19 15:45:54 · update #2
I don't have a clue who this person is in the first place, otherwise I would offer to speak to her in a neutral location. Neither of us know this person's name at all.
2007-07-19 15:47:38 · update #3
I have grilled him endlessly about this and have made it clear that I believe him and that I think this woman is a loony tunes and just looking for attention. I am good about getting the truth out of anyone and my husband would not so much as give another woman a second look much less anything more than that, because he is too busy treating me like a queen and his children like the prince and princess that they are. I have no reason to be mistrustful of him.
2007-07-19 15:51:47 · update #4
I have asked him for her name at least, but got nowhere as he doesn't know who she is. He was not told nor was it written on any document that he recieved when he was fired. I have trusted him for 10 years and so far it has never been questioned, why should I start mistrusting him now? Especially for the fact that we are together as a family all the time except when he was at work.
2007-07-19 16:05:43 · update #5
This is such a small town of less than 10thousand people, if he was being unfaithful and since so many people know us and have for quite some time, don't you all think that someone would have clued me in? besides there is no expense that I don't know about, since I keep the checkbook and pay the bills.
2007-07-19 16:07:54 · update #6
Why would he be fired from work for it? He must know her. Think about this. What reason would she have for making a false statement unless she knows him? Something here makes no sense. When things don't seem reasonable, someone is telling lies.
EDIT: Don't meet with this woman. Your husband would know her name. He did not ask when he was fired? Come on. You need to take a deep breath and look at this objectively. You may not like this, but your husband is lying to you. It is admirable that you want to stand by him, but get to the truth.
EDIT2: I live in a small town as well. I have a friend that has no clue that his wife cheats on him. Nobody tells him because they do not want to be the bad guy when he chooses not to believe what he is told. Again I can not stress enough that this does not make any sense. She would have to know him in order to want to set him up. She did not just randomly say hey, I am gonna mess with this guy and have no clue who he is or what he looks like. Did she open the phone book and point to a name and say this guy? What would the motive be? Your husband is not being honest with you. Sorry, but you need to face facts on this. I am at a loss as to why he would lose his job. They would have had to work together. Is he in an industry that requires travel to peoples homes? That is the only way they could not work together. Finally, you don't have to spend money to screw around. They could always go to her place or she could foot the bill for a room.
2007-07-19 15:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by JAY O 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is very difficult. There are thousands of people in prisons falsely accused of rapes, molestation, assualt, and what have you, because how do you prove you didn't do something. The motivations of these accusers is varied. They may be after money in civil suits, they may be out for revenge, because the accuser is a nut, psychotic, etc.
Well, a good lawyer would have to look at the history of the woman, etc. Most likely she is a loon, and has accused people before.
Also, a psychological evaluation of your husband, could help, so a psychologist could testify to the fact that he is normal. And filing for psychological exam on the woman. Many times this will uncover all types of info.
Also, your husbands history of never doing this in the past, character witnesses, etc.
And then hope, if it goes to some kind of trial, hope you have some jurors with a decent IQ and some common sense.
2007-07-19 22:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by madcat 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
How and why would he get fired over it if he doesn't know her? I hate to be the one to tell you but I think your old man went on a date with this woman and it didn't go as planned.So she got mad and said something to upper management. Or he slept with her and never called and when she found out about you she got pissed then told the upper management. I would find out from him what happened for real because it doesn't make since on what he is saying girl. If I were you I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. From what I have seen women don't just claim sexual harassment if it doesn't happen in one way or another.
2007-07-19 22:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Steven C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just as you want to disprove the kiss happened, the lawyer will try to prove that it did happened. He has to convince a jury or a judge that the kiss in fact took place. So if she is lying and has no proof of the kiss i.e. video or witnesses, it will be extremely hard for the lawyer to prove it. The lawyer also had to prove the kiss was done in a "rude, insolent, or angry manner" for it to be considered a battery or an assualt. good luck
2007-07-19 22:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Never Regret 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of information not given in this question.
Grill your husband. Let him know that you're just trying to understand everything...and that you're scared for him.
Have you talked with this woman? Do you know who she is?
Have you heard both sides in full? Or, are you going solely on blind faith?
I'm not really siding either way. I've been falsely accused of harassment once, and upon pushing it, it did, in fact pan out. But I also know that if a guy's busted for something inappropriate, he'll try to cover his a**.
Sit down and talk with him openly. Let him know that you love him and you're on his side. STAY CALM NO MATTER WHAT YOU DISCOVER. Do NOT let your emotions cloud your judgement and listening skills...not during this stage anyway.
Try to meet with this "unknown woman" in your attorneys office or some other neutral location with witnesses for both sides present. If you approach her properly, there's no need for any hostility, especially if she understands that too.
Good luck!
2007-07-19 22:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real way to disprove her story would be to prove that he was not at the place where it allegedly happened or the time. "Innocent until proven guilty" is a lovely concept but not true in the real world. I do share the concern that if your husband did not even know this woman then why would she say this happened. It would be unusual for a woman to just pick a random man on the street and claim that they were sexually assaulted by them.
2007-07-19 22:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you have to help her lawyer, get a new lawyer.
2007-07-19 22:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by sSuper critic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didn't take me too long to realize that in today's justice system, you are not innocent til proven guilty... you are guilty til proven innocent.
2007-07-19 22:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋