I like this guy at work and 3 weeks ago i asked him out to a ballgame, he said he would think about it but didn't want me to think bad. so i finally toughend up today and asked him for his answer. (since the games in 3 days).
he said "nah, i shouldn't" and kept on walking ... I just said, "that's cool thanks anyways" ..
What kind of answer was this? what did it mean. since when are men so concerned about a girl taking things bad?? his friends say he doesnt have a gf.
I was SUPER embarrased for asking, i felt like scum. i didnt think men could be like this.. i dont care if he only went for the tickets, i just wanted his company for atleast one evening. now i dont know what to do. I cant take him out of my mind, I dont think i will ever conversate with him after this but i dont know if i should keep being nice to him or should i turn mean and let him see how bothered i am..
please help i'm confused..
2007-07-19 15:09:47 · 4 answers · asked by Rodriguez #57 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
First, I am sorry. I know how hard it is to put yourself out there. And it stings a lot when you feel rejected.
Ok, here is my take. If he doesn't have a GF, then he might be nervous about seeing someone from work. Dating someone you work with can be ultra messy and may even be against the rules. But, it doesn't matter. He had his reasons and you don't need him. You did nothing wrong by asking, and he should have given you a nicer response.
Don't feel like scum! You did nothing wrong. He is the scum for not having the politeness to say, "I am sorry. I really shouldn't. I am flattered that you asked me though."
Don't be overly nice and don't be angry toward him either. Act as if it never happened. Pretend you don't care. Eventually, you won't care. Don't go out of your way to speak to him either. Don't give off the impression of being desperate and needy. Just be cool and aloof.
All the best sweetie!
2007-07-19 15:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by ~Brenda~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't act mean but don't be as nice to him. It doesn't take 3 weeks for a guy that is interested in you to answer that question. Most of the time "I have to think about it" means "No, I'm just too big of a puss.y to be honest." Don't feel bad he obviously isn't worth the time or brain power. And don't devalue yourself for a guy. He should go on a date with you because he likes you not because he only wants to see the game.
Just distract yourself. Everytime you think about him go jog or read a book. Just try to forget about him. Go find some other to kill time with. He might actually be worth the effort.
2007-07-19 22:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people don't think it is right to "dip the pen in the company inkwell". In other words, it is not a good idea to date someone you work with, even casually. If something goes wrong down the line, and you have to work with and interact with that person at work every day, it can be uncomfortable. Don't worry about it, ask someone else (preferably outside work) and have fun. But, in the future, unless you have more of a friendship with someone, don't ask a work colleague on a date.
2007-07-19 22:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to learn how to take rejection and still keep your head on. The inability to handle rejection is very common with girls because they tend to be the ones who give it out on a constant basis.
Theres nothing to be embarrased about or to get personal over. You just experienced a bit of what most guys go through.
2007-07-19 22:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋