Our little guy is one of the happiest babies you'll ever see. He smiles all of the time. My husband and I are super loving parents. We aren't over the top hovering parents, we make sure that our son gets enough independent play time, but also spend lots of time doing floor play, hugs and cuddles with him. What we don't do is carry him around all the time. This is why we are surprised that he wants to be carried by his caregiver all of the time when at her house. Today in fact, he was climbing up the caregivers legs and also the contractors working at her house. The stranger thing is that when they are out of the house he is fine, he's back to his happy self again and will crawl or creep away from her to go play with the other kids.
What can we do to stop this? She's at her wits end, and I'm so worried that there is something there that is scaring him.
Thanks!
2007-07-19 14:16:10 · 5 answers · asked by Krissy S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Our little guy is one of the happiest babies you'll ever see. He smiles all of the time. My husband and I are super loving parents. We aren't over the top hovering parents, we make sure that our son gets enough independent play time, but also spend lots of time doing floor play, hugs and cuddles with him. What we don't do is carry him around all the time. This is why we are surprised that he wants to be carried by his caregiver all of the time when at her house. Today in fact, he was climbing up the caregivers legs and also the contractors working at her house. The stranger thing is that when they are out of the house he is fine, he's back to his happy self again and will crawl or creep away from her to go play with the other kids.
What can we do to stop this? She's at her wits end, and I'm so worried that there is something there that is scaring him.
Thanks!
I should also add that he's a very social baby, he'll go to anyone and he talks to everyone we see while we're out.
2007-07-19 14:27:33 · update #1
Ok... I'm a day care provider and I see this a lot. I feel strongly that children... even babies KNOW who mom and dad are and KNOW that mom and dad's love and affection towards him is unconditional. I have personally found that the babies/children that cling to me the most are the ones from the most loving of homes. I would worry more if he didn't want to be held and loved by her. This being said and assuming that you and your child are happy with your provider.... take a toy from home that he enjoys and have your provider tell the other children that this toy is his. He can play with his special home toy in the same room with your provider and chances are that within no time at all he will learn to share his special home toy and play with the other toys at day care and this means that he will have to leave the providers side to get the other toys. Chalk it up to a phase and enjoy every second of it because before long he'll be THINKING he's too independent to need either of you though we all know the truth!!
2007-07-19 14:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kishauna_P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation Anxiety. Day care is appropriate for a three-year old starting. Dehydration and weight loss, and a tendency to not learn emotional bonding happens' with day-care babies.
Tell the child who can understand, that you will be bacl before dinner, or at lunch time or before bed or when they wake up. Stay with a child for the first few days of day care, and never sneak out- say "I'm going now" and hand the child to a person- don't make them chase you! Say good-bye, wave, with a big, positive smile and lots of big hugs- not necessarily a kiss- hugs help a child more emotionally. Walk toward the door, and don't linger.
A child who is in a trusting environment at home has an easier time, because they can trust you to be there when they need you, every time they need you, in a loving way.
It takes' 2 months for a child to get used to the strange place. Especially this young one.
She must be in a place where the care giver is the same day in and day out.
One-on-One care for a One-year old only. Only one child for a setting of this type per worker.
2007-07-19 21:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by Charles E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So had the sitter been carrying him around all the time and denying it? This would explain why BUT If not, your right, hes feel on edge about something. Children have a way of telling Mom and Dad something is not right without saying a word. Id investigate as much as you can between you and your husband. If you have to take him out and get another sitter, so be it. Keep your eyes peeled.
I had one of mine (2)cling to me and screamed when I left him. As I pick him up he was out the door and ready to go. I found out the sitter was neglecting all the children she was watching, and her own kids would hit at the children. I wailed the horn when I seen this and I personally took her out of business. One of the other mothers took over and watched all the other children in her own home for 6 years.
2007-07-19 21:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a normal developmental phase. Its not really seperation anxiety - but it kinda is. If you dont make any changes, chances are he will grow out if it.
My baby has been going to the same daycare since she was 9 months old. She just turned 15 months and now she cries and throws a tantrum when we drop her off. Once I hid in the hallway where she couldnt see me and after 2 minutes she stopped crying and went on playing with the other kids just fine.
2007-07-19 22:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be a clingy child. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. When I was young, infact until I was about in the first or second grade, I was shy when I met people. I hid behind a person I knew the most. If I didn't know anyone I would cry! It's not really anything wrong. He's probley just shy.
2007-07-19 21:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by Spikey Paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋