I have 5 1/2 y.o boy / girl twins. Both above average intelligence. However my daughter is more than ready for 1st grade. She is currently at a 2nd grade level in math and reading. This fall, they will be old enough to attend 5 year old kindergarten by public school standards. My twins have been in a private montessori school since they were 3. Hayden is 'average' or maybe even slighlty below the other children his age at the school. He is not reading. There is no way he is ready for 1st grade. 5k may even be a challenge. Does anyone have any personal experience with twins being developmentally normal, but in different grades? I worry about his self esteem.
2007-07-19 13:35:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I would defently not seperate them. I you send them to a private school they are taught at their level. You also have to remember that girls at this age are more mature than bays anf therefore more 'intellegent' your son will catch up and when he dose he wont appreciate that his sister it a year ahead of him. Have you ever thought about home schooling them????
2007-07-19 13:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
studies show that putting them in different levels at school does a lot of psychological damage. Psychologists actually recommend hold the more advanced one back or if the school offers help put up your son and get all the help you can for him to catch up. You contradict your self though. You say in one sentence that they have above average intelligence but your son is having problems. It may be worth talking to the teacher to see what she thinks but do not put them in separate level grades.
I have twins (b/g too) and just went to an information night on multiples in school and this question came up. The principal and vise principle were there and they said they have never heard of it having a good outcome. If you really have to it is recommended they go to different schools so that they do not have to deal with the questions and image that will come with having a twin in a grade above or below the other. Think very hard and consult a psychologist that deals with twins before making your decision to put one higher than the other
2007-07-19 16:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have boy-girl twins in 5th grade. They have been in the same class since pre-school. My daughter is by far the better student. Every year we are asked to decide if they should stay in one class, and we've always said yes with the teacher's concurrence.
Boys don't compete with girls like they do with other boys. Our son does not compare himself to his sister but to others in the class. None the less, there are things he is better at than his sister, math for example. So they both accept that they have their own skills. My son likes being with my daughter.
My daughter says her brother embarasses her, because he doesn't finish his work, or doesn't know an answer. She doesn't want him in her class, but she can live with our decision.
In your case, leave them in the same class until the teacher recommends they be split up.
2007-07-19 13:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Joe L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello! hshoosier.
They may be twins but are also little individuals.
You say they are both above average intelligence let them grow at their own pace.
If they are reading together and he hears his sister being told how well she is doing and he is struggling he may give up.
He may fall into the category of plodder they take a little longer to learn but when they learn it they never forget it .
Take care!
2007-07-19 13:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Twins or not, each child is unique. Just because they were born together does not mean they have to stay together academically. It would be unfair to your daughter to hold her back in order to build up your son's self esteem. If the roles were reversed, would you hold your boy back? Let your children grow and learn at their own, individual pace.
2007-07-19 13:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Wren )O( 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have twin girls i kept them in the same class room until second grade then we put them in with different teachers but same grade and they did a lot better. then in 3rd grade one of them started having a lot of problems so we held her back and the other had a little problems so we held her back too. if we would have held back only one i think it would have caused a lot of self esteem problems in the one we held back. and probably a lot of teasing from the other kids. they can be very mean.
2007-07-20 12:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by brianswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep them together unless you feel your son may need to stay back so that he can keep up. if this is the case, you'll need to reassure both children - perhaps say that their teacher thought that he was special and wanted to spend the extra year with him to work on ... and maybe help him learn more about ... (then put in which ever topic he liked best for that year).
if they stay together and he keeps up thats great, but you may need to arrange learning support if he stays in the same grade just to build his progress and confidence.
good luck
2007-07-23 12:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by FLASHINC2K7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to school with triplets that were split between two grades.... they didn't mind.... two girls one boy... one girl was in a higher grader than the other two... They did just fine like that... Each kid has their own leaning pace...
let them be individuals...... ask them what they think about it..
2007-07-19 14:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by They call me 'Mom' 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋