Is it inappropriate to share my struggle with pornography with my christian guy friends?

Question

I have a mild addiction to pornography. It's something that I've been working on overcoming with Christ. Recently, my christian group of friends has become more open about their own struggles with pornography, or at least the men have. My question is, should I share my own addiction publicly with the group in the interests of accountability and honesty, or would it be immodest, and a point of temptation for the men in the group?

Answer 1

of course it's going to be a temptation for the men in the group. no way around it. they're already struggling with porn addiction. then find a woman with the same addiction? share it and deal with it.
welcome to reality as a christian. you're not alone. and yes it is an addiction. can't wait til this flesh age is overwith and all that filth will be gone and every perverted memory gone with it.

Answer 2

Mmild addiction? Is there such a thing?

As far as sharing...only you can determine whether or not it's would be appropriate, because only you know the level of respect, understanding and emphathy of these men. If you believe there would be mutual repspect and support, then I don't see any reason why you would feel hesitant. Of course there could be some different emotions involved because you are of the opposite sex, but that is where you must evaluate the level of your relationships. This isn't something you should share with casual guy friends who have similar problems, because guys will be guys.

Good luck with both the decision and with the addiction.

Answer 3

Well, it is not recommended to share your struggles to control your sexuality with many people specially of the other sex, in particular when the other are males, that are more tempted by pornography that women, because the sexual impulse enter mostly by visual means for men (more visual than women's, that is).

Probably if you do, the guys will be tempted and even some can target you instead of pornography.

Better is to talk about it only with people who can help you, like a spiritual counselor or close female friends.

That is a thing I learn being Catholic and read some books about my faith.

Answer 4

I have posted a link for Celebrate Recovery. It is a group for Christians with many types of addictions and destructive behaviors. Frequently the groups are broken down into a guys groups and a womens group. They will be able to help you with the accoutability issue while maintaining modesty.

God bless you and I pray you are able to overcome this.

Answer 5

If you need to share it with someone, do so. Those men should be able to deal with the fact that you as a woman can share the same problem they have. It is possible that some of the men in that group didn't only watch heterosexual porn. Also, if they are talking about it around you, you should be able to talk about it around them.
Good luck with your struggle though. :)

Answer 6

1 John 1:9

Answer 7

You can share your interest with me since I'm also 'struggling' with pornography. And by struggling I mean enjoying and not caring what an imaginary deity has to say about it.

Answer 8

Tempation for the men definitely I've been down that road sort of. If you talk to a guy about anything that has to do with your own personal sexuality it will turn them on trust me.

Answer 9

It would be foolish for you to discuss porn with any one of the opposite sex.You could be sending out a cry for help and understanding but they would only see someone they want to join in the act. Be very wary about who you talk to about this. Use good judgement in talking over your actions but better still keep them to yourself. That way they can never come back to haunt you. I wish you well.

Answer 10

You do need to share such an addiction. I tell you what you come by me and I will spend all night "counseling" you on this topic. I'm willing to put in allot of time and effort to see to your problem.