I am 19 years old and I haven't had a bf. I've hooked up with people(its never led to sex though), but it seems to me thats all guys want from me. guys talk to me, lead me on, and then i come to find out they just wanted to get in my pants and they ditch me when we hook up. no guy has taken the time to get to know me or hang out with me without wanting to get physical. sometimes im afraid to open up emotionally to guys because they have hurt me so many times in the past.Im not trying to sound cocky, but I get told constantly that im hott as hell and beautiful so i know im not lacking in the looks department. im a great friend, i have girlfriends who will tell you im funny and just a great person. then why is it that guys dont see this? im not a bitchy girl, and sometimes i feel thats why i cant get a guy..it seems to me that the bitchy bossy ones are the girls who get the guy cuz he is usually smitten by her and they know how to "smooth talk" a guy. whats going on and what do i change?
2007-07-19 10:19:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of my best friends has had your same problem... She's hooked up with plenty of guys and has had many guys interested in her but it's never led to a serious relationship. She is really pretty, funny, sweet, etc. but for some reason only finds the jerks. She finally found a bf not too long ago (she is now 21) and lost her virginity. It just takes time. Maybe you are pursuing the wrong type of guy? For instance, my friend always seemed to like guys that had recently got out of a long-term relationship and weren't looking for more than a fling. Try not to waste your time on guys that you know aren't looking for something serious or have recently ended a serious relationship. You may also want to change where you are meeting guys...maybe a good friend or coworker knows someone that is looking for a gf that she/he could set you up with.
2007-07-19 10:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change nothing. I don't get why you can hold to your standards. The first step is in the guys you are choosing. I hope your standards aren't superficial, but even if they were women have the control. Understand that it is your option to determine who is worthy of you period. On all fronts emotionally, physically, and mentally. Make better choices in who you open up with and stay true to yourself. I am 23 and have not been in what I would call a meaningful relationship because I find that most women my age don't know what they want. So don't change and you will attract him eventually if your open to it and don't let these experience make you "bitter"
2007-07-19 10:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Food For Thought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a problem with you, it's a problem with teenage guys. I was a teenager once, and beleive me, that's the only thing that almost every teenage boy has on his mind, sex. I say keep searching and maybe you'll find a guy who is more mature than the rest, other than that, chill out and wait a couple years for the guys to mature, then search for a meaningful relationship.
2007-07-19 10:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear this all the time and the first thing that comes to my mind is who are you hanging around? You have a choice on what type of environment and what type of crowd you put yourself around.
People fall into the same trap over and over because their social scene never changes.
Your in tourment because your heart is in the right place but those around you don't share your values of relationships.
If you dare read, "Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
by Joshua Harris," it will give you a completely different perspective on relationships and what they are intended for.
2007-07-19 10:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'll be your friend. I'll make you feel good. I don't need sex, cause we got hookers for that... Just kidding point is you don't have to change. Be smart realize that sex can and could get in the way. I love kicking it with girls, but true is I want sex. So guys live for that ****. pretty fooked huh? Find a guy who doesn't need it, but likes it
2007-07-19 10:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem i have been in 1 relationship when i was 13 and im 23 now i am a cute guy
but the truth of the matter is i think the girl wont understand
and move on
2007-07-19 10:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right it is the foremost... do no longer tell the guy which you have by no skill been in an prolonged term courting till long after the 1st month of relationship. and don't worry approximately it. there are lots of people who've by no skill had an prolonged term courting. in the event that they ask tell them the reality, yet different sensible in basic terms wait a collectively as.
2016-11-09 22:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by dugas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your meeting the wrong guys. maybe you need to go somewhere more mellow. like a library, and find a guy you want to talk to and introduce yourself if he doesnt look to busy. and just try and start off as a friend. just try and get a lot of guy friends wether you think they look good or not. in time you will get to know them and their intentions and wont have to be so worried about getting hurt.
2007-07-19 10:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by ukuleleninja e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is definitely not your fault. you shouldn't change. remember
you shouldn't change for anyone and always be yourself. you just
haven't met the right person. not all guys are like that, so don't
worry you'll meet the right person when its the time. guys don't
see this because they care about looks, well most of the times,
and you shouldn't worry. you've been dating the wrong guys. but
soon enough u'll meet someone who's gonna like you for who you are.
2007-07-19 10:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a shrink.also get used to guys they will be that way forever. There are a few guys out there who are good men but to find them is the problem.
2007-07-19 10:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋