Who gives away the bride when her dad has died?

Question

My dad passed away a few yrs ago, so I asked my uncle (dad's bro) to give me away.

Although I have two brothers, they are both younger than me ~ plus I am in my 30's & it seems weird to have a *younger* bro. "give" me away ~ considering my age, independence, etc. It's not like I am just leaving home to be w/my fiance or anything ~we have been together for a number of years now.
Besides, I would rather have my bros as groomsmen so they can both be more involved w/me & the rest of the wedding party.

I considered asking my mom to walk me down the aisle ~ but we are both super clumsy & I am afraid we will both trip =( OR she will be emotional which will make me cry ~ my uncle is tall & sturdy & NOT emotional ... a good person to keep me walking straight ;)

Anyway, people assume that one of my brothers is going to be walking me down the aisle & are suprised when I say it will be my uncle. I assume the "proper" choice is to ask a bro, but has anyone seen it done differently?

I asked my bros before asking my uncle to make sure they are OK w/my decision & their feelings won't be hurt. They both said it doesn't matter to them.

Answer 1

You should have who you feel most comfortable with asking.
Your brothers will both be very involved in the wedding and I don't see them as feeling slighted. Should one of them had been your OLDER brother, I would've suggested to have asked him. Since this uncle is your dad's brother, I think it's a very appropriate choice.
I'm like you...in my 30s, have been married before, have a 12 yr old daughter....I really don't feel I am "my dad's" to give away anymore! LOL.....so my daughter who will be 13 by the wedding is who I'm having walk me down the isle. My fiance is in the same position with having had his father pass approx 2 yrs ago..he has one older and one younger brother and couldn't decide on a "best MAN"..so he's having a "best PERSON" --his mother.

It's all about who is most important to you and who you feel right with having fill those roles.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yes, Melissa, that wasn't very nice or mature either! Don't listen to her, she doesn't know what she's talking about. I wouldn't know because my dad is still alive and I am not married yet, but I know some people with similar situations. My aunt's dad died when she was 10 years old and she had the same problem and had her brother walk her down. My mother's friend's dad died 2 months before the wedding and she had her grandfather walk her down. I think you should have your grandfather walk you down, if you don't want that, then have your brother walk you down. If you don't have a brother, ask your father in law to do it. He'll understand. Maybe possibly an uncle could do it or an older cousin! It really has to be someone older then you. Your choices: Grandfather Older Cousin Uncle Brother Or pretty much any older male in your family can do it, maybe even a really good male friend! (eh...possibly on that one) But you do whatever you want...its YOUR day, don't you forget that! I'm sorry about your dad, hope your wedding goes great! Bella :)

Answer 4

If your uncle is who you want to walk you down the aisle then that is your choice, it's doesn't matter what other people think. Since you've been on your own of some time you could just walk down the aisle by yourself. But you did indicate that you may need assistance so I'd go with the uncle and not worry about what others think, this is your day not theirs!

Answer 5

Though it is traditional for the father to give the bride away, you father has passed on. I like the idea of both your brothers giving you away, then taking their place as the grooms men. The tradition is the fathers support of the marriage, but with both your brothers in support and also in the wedding, I think your dad would approve.

Answer 6

My niece was walked down the aisle by her younger brother and her dad......My father passed away when I was a child, so my brother walked me and my 3 sisters all down the aisleat our weddings, my friends mother walked her down the aisle....my cousin had her sister give her away (that one was a little off.....they were very close but it did seem odd to me)
And at my wedding next year, my man and I will walk together. I guess what I am saying here is that it is different for everyone. It is your choice and if you feel right having an uncle and if he means a lot to you and has been supportive since losing your Dad, go for it. Dont worry so much about other peoples opinions. good luck.

Answer 7

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Who gives away the bride when her dad has died?
My dad passed away a few yrs ago, so I asked my uncle (dad's bro) to give me away.

Although I have two brothers, they are both younger than me ~ plus I am in my 30's & it seems weird to have a *younger* bro. "give" me away ~ considering my age, independence, etc. It's not...

Answer 8

I don't have a dad and My little bothers are all under ten
And the only uncle i have is not talking to me
I'm getting married in February
I'm asking my cousin
Me and him have always been close
So just ask the person you are closest to

Answer 9

Remeber its your wedding. There is no stated rule on this. I am sorry about your loss and making this choice is your option not anyone elses. Your Dad will be proud no matter who you have give you away. I think the uncle was a great choice. I sure he will be honored to do this.

Answer 10

I have seen the bride escorted by:

1. her mother
2. her brother
3. her grandfather
4. her uncle
5. her cousin
6. a close friend
7. the groom's father
8. She walks with her groom.
9. She walks by herself.
10. Her stepfather
11. Her son

I think your decision to have the brothers as groomsmen and have uncle walk you down the aisle is fine. Don't worry about what others think. It's fine . . . and I bet your uncle feels honored and excited, right?

Answer 11

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