I hurt to much help me!?

Question

I have been crying every nite, wondering wht i did wronge to diserve the pain that i am in. I think i made a mistake by brakeing up with the love of my life but now i cant go back and change the past hes gone forever and its all my fault that i left him just standing there with tears in his eyes, me just not looking back and not careing wht he feels. I need help on wht to do.

Answer 1

have you tried talking to him? hmmm, easy enough. if that doesnt work then you need to come to terms on your decision. life goes on.

Answer 2

First of all, CALM DOWN. Take a breather. Compose yourself, and lets continue. Ok then. First of all, realize this. Not all relationships work out. People break up for a variety of reasons. It is natural. Second, the past is behind you. You can't change the past. What you need to do is focus on your future. Beleive it or not, there are other people out there. Singles too. You can always start fresh with someone else. But if you want your old boyfriend back, make every attempt possible to communicate with him. Tell him your sorry, you were wrong, you miss him, love him, and want him back. Things will be alright. I may be a cowboy from Illinois, but I know a little something about people.

Answer 3

I've been here before, and the pain can seem eternal.

What I can tell you if this, you must remember there is light at the end of the tunnel, and each day will get easier; as you get through the tunnel.

I use to wake up in the morning, feeling empty and alone in the pit of me. This all happened when I broke up with my first love, of my life.

Just continue to remember the reasons why you must press on, and why this relationship was not right for you.

I'm now with a better man, and in a better place in my life.

Answer 4

I've been in your position before. If too much time goes by, then it's too late. By the time I came to my senses, he had already hooked up with someone else (he was 25, she was 14, she tricked him, she was a runaway) they have had 2 children, divorce, drug problems, etc. I kept thinking, if I only would have known. But you see, I was 21 and not ready. Things happen for a reason. Sometimes one of you is ready, and the other one is not. But the choices I have made has lead me to my husband of 10 years, 2 children and a wonderful life.

If he won't take you back, it just wasn't meant to be. It could be a case of right person, wrong time. Don't worry, you'll be ok.

Answer 5

Please please contact him. Did you ever hear 'the course of true love never runs smooth'? This means that if he loves you for sure you have a chance to amend it. You can sit down with him and tell him how much you love him and how hurt you are. My heart goes out to you as I've been in this situation myself. I know a few similar situations which mended because the person who left realised soon afterwards that they had made a huge mistake. Everyone hurts at some point from love. It's the greatest and strongest emotion there is and therefore when it leaves us, even temporarily we suffer so much. For sure, your boyfriend is suffereing too. Don't leave it too long though? Writing an email could help but definitely meet up if you can at all.

Answer 6

Get a copy of the 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman for singles and you will be amazed after reading the book how much you learn about loving others. Do not worry about this guy because if he truly loves you he will come back and your paths will cross again but the greatest thing I can tell you about love is finding someone with whom you have a lot in common with, because if you do not you will be LONELY the rest of your life. Find someone who understands what LOVE really is and the true meaning of love. Jesus gave us two commandments and they both were above love but so many people fail to understand what love is all about. His life was a perfect example of what love is truly about. Good Luck

Answer 7

Why can't you go back. You may want to talk to him. Do you remember why you broke up with him. Sometimes you really need to ask yourself that. If you remember and it is a good reason you may want to reconsider talking to him. If you can't talk to him you just need to let time pass by. It will hurt really bad at first but it will ease as time passes by. If you really love this person you will never forget about them. I was in this situation before and now that the years have past I found someone I love even more. I look back at my old relationship and feel thankful for that hard experience because it taught me a lot.

Answer 8

You can't change the past, but you do have control over what you do now and in the future. Apologize to him, talk it out if he'll listen (if he won't now then give him some time and I'm sure he will eventually), and move forward. And don't beat yourself up - we all hurt people we care about at some point in time, whether we mean to or not, you're human and it's ok - doesn't mean you don't deserve happiness and love.

Answer 9

Why can't you contact him & say you're sorry for what you did. Everyone makes mistakes & you're no different from the rest of us. Why does he have to be gone forever?! You didn't elaborate much on any "history" so it's kinda hard to give any more help than to just say you're sorry, you still love him & you shouldn't have done what you did. Just ask your forgivness & see if you can start over again & this time try to make it even better than it was before...

Answer 10

Why can't you go back? What happened? Try to fix what you broke. He's probably thinking about you everyday.

I need a little more info on the break up to help with the situation.

Answer 11

Tell him how you feel and then apologize to him and explain to him why you made your mistake and that you never met to hurt him in the first place. If he does not accept your apology then he is not worth it and you should just move on in your life. Best of Luck!