what does this mean guys!!!?

Question

so theres this guy who i've known for about 11 months we really havent been talking but just as friends but some how we
always end up arguing and we are not even together. he does things that seem like hes into me but i only hear from him about 4 times a month. he always wants to hang out but im always busy but the thing i hate is that he tells me the same day. we would always hang around at school and people would think we're together because we always met up after class or before we dont go out on the weekends though. all this time that i've known him we havent had an actual date i dont know why? i want to know stuff about him but he keeps a lot to himself.

Answer 1

It means avoid him like the plague. He is probably married.

Answer 2

The arguing alone is a tell tale sign that there are significant feelings involved.

Modern times have led too many people to believe that 'hanging out' is the same as going on a date. And most people don't get that the signals aren't there while 'hanging out'. A date (actually going somewhere and doing something) is important in that it gives chances for the signals that we all need to know how to progress in a relationship.

What you don't say is where you want the relationship to go.

If you want to see if it has romantic potential, it looks like you are going to have to be the one asking for the date. You can do this stealthily, "There's a restaurant I've been meaning to visit but haven't had a good excuse to go there..." and see if he takes the hint.

The picture you paint of him makes me want to warn you to be wary, though. Four times a month with no lead time might sound suspicious, but in this case, it seems to indicate the boy is a poor planner. He is certainly intimidated by your constant shooting him down on the hanging out. He might think he has been asking for a date in hanging out and thus feels rejected.

The next time you talk to him, one thing you must say, regardless of how you want to progress, is that you need to plan ahead. On any given day, you already know what you are doing that evening. But you were planning on going to "jazz on the green" on Saturday if he wanted to come along...

Answer 3

sounds like he wants you but is afraid that maybe you only think of him as friend-material only. Plus if he calls you about 4 times a month, thats once a week.
Next time he asks if you want to hang out on that same day, let him know that it works better for you to make plans in advance.
Then sometime when you guys are talking in conversation, ask him when he is gonna ask you out. That should get the point accross to him. Sometimes you need to make things obvious to us cause we can't always read your mind!

Answer 4

He very well and probably does like you I think he might just be shyer than you would think If you really want to get to know him more try to find time to hang out, possible flirt with him. It seems like you might have to be the one who makes the move. Your Call.

Answer 5

this is a tough one..it
seems like he`s a bit
shy if he keep to himself
a lot..and the fact that you
don`t really see him a lot
in a month kind of makes it
hard to get to know him
better..maybe you can ask
him to hang out for once
and see what happens?

Answer 6

Seem's interested, but not ready to commit. Pull back to see if he pushes forward. (you know how to "play" coy. ) When he does advance, let him do all the work. You will be (or not) suprised at what a despirate man will do.

Answer 7

he probably thinks of you as the convienent girl..he chills with you when he feels like it but is not willing to put forth any effort. ive been there before...be aware that he isnt going to committ....you should talk to him but keep your options open....talk to someone whos willing to make you a priority and not an option.