How do you handle a break up when he was your best friend?

Question

How do you handle a break up when he was your best friend?
My boyfriend just broke up with me(well he didn't really, he just stopped calling me, answering my IMs). We have been best friends since grade school, so I don't want to just give up on him and move on. How do I handle this??

Answer 1

just tell him things were better when you guys were just friends. If he is still your bestfriend, he will understand. Don't worry about a thang girl

Answer 2

First, call him, make sure you're actually broken up... once that is confirmed, realize that part of the reason why you were best friends is because there was some sort of attraction there... even when you were younger, something drew you two to each other... now that it went past a relationship and it has ended, it might be difficult for you two to remain friends and still move on to others romantically... depending on who moves on first, the other might get jealous or mad, especially if more attention is going to the new bf/gf.... so if neither of you have a single jealous bone in your body... and are okay with not being number 1 in each other's life.. they maybe after a good break/rest period, you two can be best friends again..

Answer 3

I know this is a hard time, but I think the best thing you can do is to follow his lead - don't call or IM him - as hard as it sounds, if you do and he's not responding it's only likely to drive him further away. If he comes back after time apart, it's b/c he's given it thought and misses you and that's a good thing, if not you'll know you don't need to be wasting your time any more and you'll ultimately save yourself a lot of heartache.

My ex was also my best friend and it was hard to keep my distance when we broke up, but maybe the time apart is good. If he wants to give you the silent treatment give him exactly that - time to miss you.

Answer 4

I had something similar happen recently.

As devastating as it was, I basically just had to send him an e-mail and I told him all the things I would want to tell him, as if I knew I'd never talk to him again. I ended it by saying that he's my best friend, that I will always love him, and if he's ever ready to talk to me again, I'll be there.

That was a few weeks ago. He hasn't responded. I don't know if he ever will. But I said all I needed to say, and that gives me comfort.

I think you should do the same thing. It has to be his decision to talk to you, you can't make it happen.

I'm sorry for how hurt you must be feeling right now. I hope things get better soon.

Answer 5

Well just get over it things happen. Just keep that in mind and move on. Trust me you'll meet someone else and have another bestfriend. These are the things u go through in life. Time heals all wounds. It wouldnt be a good idea to remain friends until u are completely over him.

Answer 6

If you know any of his friends, you might inquire and find out if he is involved with something or someone else in his life. If he really truely has feelings for you, he will be back. If not, set him free. It would be better to know now instead of later on in life. As much as it may hurt with someone that you deeply and truely care for, it is a part of life that we sometimes have to deal with. I was in your same situation. I cried for days. He had found someone else, but was too cowardly to even tell me. You can't leash him but you will go on in life with or without him and life does get better with time. If he choses not to be in your life, there will be someone there who will always will be there for you in the future, just be patient. It may take weeks, months or even years, but it will happen. Then again, it might be awhile and when he wakes up, he will realize the mistake he really made.

Answer 7

that exact thing happened to me a year a go. it was really hard. we still hung out for a while after we broke up but then we both started dating someone else so it just became weird. mostly just try to forget him. him and i talk sometimes now but i hate his gf. just keep the space for a hwile until you think you can handle it.

Answer 8

Patience and time. Just give each other some space to adjust and/or repair. Hopefully the friendship is worth mending and saving. Best wishes.

Answer 9

GIVE him sometime so he can see what he missing if he is truly your friend believe me in due time he will call and come around. Because true friendship is hard to find

Answer 10

Well, you don't want to pester him to death either. Call him one last time and let him know that if he doesn't call back, you'll just consider that he doesn't want to ever talk to you. Send an e-mail too just to make sure that he gets that message. Then, leave him alone.

Answer 11

Talk 2 him like a human being, even though sometimes guys seem more like pigs than humans. Tell him u don't want 2 destroy ur friendship, no matter wut happens to ur love life. It's not bad to talk 2 him, just try 2 remain calm even if u r pissed off right now, (which i would be personally)