I want to tell a girl i have feelings for her.- i really really like her
I dont think she realises how much i think about her etc. but at the same time i dont want to go out with her. i just want her to know she always close to my heart.
I dont want to freak her out at the same time alll in all i dont mind getting egg on my face ---it takes a man to show his true feelings right? or a mug? lol
2007-07-19 09:28:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just tell her how you feel about her. No need to get too detailed about it, just say that she really means a lot to you and you really value her.
2007-07-19 09:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do when you see her is catch her eye and give her a smile - honest, a smile can work wonders and won't put egg on your face, especially if she likes you too but has maybe just been a bit scared to do anything about it. Every time you see her, just smile, and if she's remotely interested she will smile back - then you can say Hi and maybe chat to her. If you are at school you could just ask her what her next lesson is - just something simple like that. Once you've established this connection, then you can pass her a note one day saying that you feel a connection with her and like her very much.
I'm a little uncertain why you put this under mental health and also why you don't want to ask the girl out for a coffee and a chat. If your feelings are that strong that she is close to your heart, then why not ask her out even if it's just the once. You obviously have loving feelings for her, so don't hold back. Use your intuition, which is probably what is telling you to get connected with this girl. Best of luck.
2007-07-19 10:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't say how old you are. But I would have to agree wit the post that says if you talk about it, you may be setting her her for hopes that you want to go "out." There is NOTHING wrong with having special friends. I am an old fart and my most treasured friends are still ones I had way back in school. We can share anything and everything. We would do anything for each other. We love each other still to this day.
So keep it to yourself. Don't get her hopes up that perhaps the relationship may go to the next level. AND, if you are lucky, like me you may even find that after getting married, having kids etc...you are still really really good friends. Might not make sense now, but that is what life is all about. You sound like a great person, stay that way!
p.s. you both will always know how in your hearts how close you are and how much you mean to each other! Don't sweat it!
2007-07-19 09:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by susie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can you say you have feeling for this girl BUT you don't want to go out with her. You really need to know what's in your heart before you let someone hurt you or you hurt someone.
Maybe you feel sorry for her? OR send her a card letting her know that you would like to get to know her. Starting off as friends and then you'll take it from there.
2007-07-19 09:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by plainview 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a man to show his true feelings, and all women want to be told the truth. Much like you wrote in your question, tell her that. I think we are all afraid of what might happen when you do tell that special someone how much we care for them, but I think you will be pleasantly surprised. Good luck....
2007-07-19 09:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by backdoc3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think she will appreciate knowing how much she means to you, even if you dont actually want a relationship.
Try meeting up with her somewhere you both feel comfortable and tell her.
2007-07-19 09:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by NCbabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont want to go out with her, then say if you DO tell her, what are you expecting to happen? im not being horrible but think about it: once you've told her, but you dont want to start "dating" her...she'll be in a tough position! what if she does like you in an unplatonic way? i mean you'd basically be telling her yeah i like you a lot, but i dont want to date you...sorry but from my pov if a guy told me that id just feel really confused...
2007-07-19 09:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
dotn say it
she might think that ur trying to give her some twisted hint, or it will just hurt her feelings if she likes you, and you say you really like her but that you do not want to go out with her
just show it by being nice to her wvenever you can....but do not get her hopes up in any way
and do not tell her..like i said, she may think you are trying to give her some sort of message...
2007-07-19 09:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by anon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on how old u r. i am 13 and a 13 yr old would b like: i really like u u wanna hang out sometime? but sayin all that would b creepy to me
2007-07-19 09:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just have a GREAT relationship as a friend with her. Tell her how u feel and bring her flowers. The worst she could do is reject you.
2007-07-19 09:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋