He was supposed to be allowed to come this month to say his goodbyes but at the last min. we found out it wasn't goin to happen. I REALLY NEED to see him b4 he leaves cuz God knows wut could happen to him over there, but seein how all this happened at the last min, i don't have the money for a ticket. Does anyone know of any organizations or ANYTHING that could sponsor me or SOMETHING so i can get the money to see him! ANY IDEAS?!?!?
2007-07-19 08:51:14 · 24 answers · asked by girl1 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Where do you live? In some of the bigger city's the Catholic church's and other large churches help people in need you might be able to get some help that way, Good Luck and Thank him for his sacrifices for our country.
Vet-USAF 44MMS
2007-07-19 09:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by ฉันรักเบ้า 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry you may not be able to see him before he deploys. Are you sure he can't fund a ticket for you to go to him, or your parents, or friends-can they not help you out?
If not-it won't be the end of the world for you if you don't manage to see him; as painful as that will be for you both. Even though it will be little comfort to you now - my husband was already away when he was told he would deploy and all I got was a message on the telephone and then he was gone 2 hours later. 2 hours warning is all I had. I certainly didn't see him and we had about a 5 min talk on the phone before he got on the plane. I next spoke to him four and a half months later just before our 3rd babe was born.
This is what military life for a spouse/partner is like--sometimes it's good and sometimes it's not but everytime you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and you put one foot in front of the other and deal with each day as it comes.
2007-07-20 09:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that what you are about to go through is hard, but everyone who said that the military won't do anything for a girlfriend/fiance is right. It sucks but they hardly support the spouses if we need help. Block leave pre-deployment gets canceled frequently due to last min training and honestly... be happy for last min. training... the more training the better! I can only say borrow some money from friends and family or ask him to send you some money to help.
And also, don't freak out about the deployment my DH is over there now and he is fine, he is so glad that he is doing what he was trained to do. And if you are freaking out he will worry about you more than he needs to, and trust me you don't want that! You want him to be as focused as possible on the task at hand so he comes home safe and sound! I KNOW how hard it is, but keep positive when you talk to him even if you are faking it, and find a neutral party (preferably another military spouse or girlfriend) to talk to when you get down, it really helps especially if they know what you are going through!
Best of luck to you and your man!
2007-07-19 20:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cant he pay for it? sorry your not a spouse so noone will help you , what about his family?
Even if you were married the only one who could provide cash assistance is ACS , but not for something like this. I wasnt able to see my husband ( married 10 1/2 yrs) off this last deployment because I was in AIT,I tried getting leave after I graduated from BCT but was denied .. I was lucky my SGT allowed me to call him to say goodbye ..and tell my kids i would be home soon.
Call him email him write him tell him everything you can before he leaves , I understand wanting to see him face to face but it just seems like it wont happen so tell him over the phone , in an email.. it doesnt matter how you tell him just tell him .
I am sorry!
Armywife & Soldier
2007-07-19 16:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Justice35 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi!! Can you possibly catch the bus.. I know it would be long and unconfortable but maybe you would get to see him.. Do NOT under any circumstances call the Red Cross... They are for Emergency use only.
Aside from being a military spouse I'm also a travel agent.. but chances are he's stationed in some bf place but if you want to send me an email I can see what I can do for you!!
All the best!!
2007-07-19 16:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Luckily, you have received more positive answers than negative answers. As for the rif-raf that hurled insults, just ignore them. Typical web trash.
A bus does sound like a good (but long) and affordable option. If you cant then just do what you can to be there for him in every hour of need. Stay in touch, you are his life line. It is heart wrenching to see families and loved ones torn apart by war or conflict. Commit to him to be there always, he will return. Give him a reason to smile every day.
God Bless
2007-07-19 17:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by HiketheWild09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this but this is normal for many families. I am sure it is devastating. Just make sure to send him lots of letters and emails. Hang in there girl. I would recommend getting with other girl in your same situation for support. This comes with the package of being a Soldiers wife. Does your fiance have some money he can send to you?
2007-07-19 15:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I don't know of anyone who could do this for you. Wish I did. But maybe you could ask your boyfriend to help out? Or borrow from friends or family? I'm sure someone would be willing to help you, considering the circumstances.
Welcome to military life. It's tough for the families. But always try to keep in mind that it's even tougher for the solders and marines that are over there.
2007-07-19 15:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry!!! The only choices I know of only do it for Military Wives....I am truly sorry. I mean I guess you could ask to borrow from someone. I wish I could help! Tell your fiance thank you! Keep your head up. Good luck to ya'll both!
2007-07-19 18:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First it might be a good idea if you and he could marry before he leaves. Since you are his fiance it seems that you have committed to marriage. A Chaplan might be able to marry you or off post in a civil marriage in the courthouse. With marriage you will be able to receive benefits from the military.
The next thing I'm going to say may be more personal. Most people marry because they love each other and want to express their love for each other physically. The fruit of love are children. Unfortunately, as I've been reading, and reminded of by friends and family; soldiers do not always return alive. I'm a fiance now of a recently enlisted soldier. We have already made love (lots of times now lol lol) and well I gave myself completely to him (without protection lol lol). We are getting married in a non religious ceremony during the first week in August in Reno, Nevada. Even though I would be heartbroken if my special "puppy boy" went to the Middle East and did not return to me at least I know I'm carrying a precious gift he's already left for me. That aspect of reality facing our brave men and women might be another thing to consider.
If you truly love him and he loves you and your intent is to marry and have children then run to him before he leaves; marry him so the government will recognize you as his spouse, and take him to you without reservation.
Chow
2007-07-19 16:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋