dont feel much like celebrating
2007-07-19 08:41:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Attend the wedding. It will probably help with healing. I'm sure your mother would want you to attend the wedding as well.
2007-07-19 08:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You go to the wedding and you be polite and cordial. Smile, have some cake, and then you can go home and mourn your mother. Your mother wouldn't want you to miss the wedding because of her, she would want you to go and celebrate an important day for your family. And definately do not mention in coversation at the wedding that it's the anniversary of your mother's death. It's a special day for your neice that should be full of joy. I'm sorry you lost your mother, but she would want you to go and honor your niece's special day.
2007-07-19 15:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by It's just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well remember that your neice is a part of your mother.. go to the wedding and look at the result of your family.. death is a part of life and while noone is saying 'get over it' sitting alone while everyone is at the wedding isn't going to do much to heal you..bring a picture of her to the wedding or even better if she had a favorite brooch or other piece of jewelry you can put it on the bride. remember thats her grand-daughter getting married. And even if you dont stay as long as others I know your niece will appreciate you atleast going to ceremony.
2007-07-19 15:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by ladyjehane01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw Hun .. I'm really sorry about you mum... my dad passed away 3 days after my twins turned 2 (its been 7 years now ) and it was so hard celebrating their birthday for a good few years, until my mum said 'hey your dad would want you to get on and enjoy life' and I'm sure your mum would be the same enjoy the celebrations and remember your mum in a positive way, I'm sure she'd want you to help celebrate with your niece xx
2007-07-20 04:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Autism's Beautiful Face 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you don't feel like celebrating, maybe going and witnessing something good will brighten your spirit. Just go and have fun. If nothing else, it will take your mind off of the negative feeling you have at this time of year. It is ok to go on with your life and be happy. I know the grieving process takes a long time, but you still have to live your life to the fullest. It is the only one you get!
Now go to the wedding and enjoy yourself!
2007-07-19 15:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Chelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know, but life is often like that and sometimes it can be a diversion even just in a slight way. if nothing else it may make your day go a little quicker and be slightly more distracting. not that you don't want to think of your mother ont hat day but also its harder if its a long terrible painful day alone.
my mother has this problem as her mother died on her birthday so every birthday all she can think about is the death of her mother. the pain will lesson over the years, but for now maybe make your neice happy, chat to a few people and spend some time to think of your mother too.
2007-07-19 16:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you dont feel like celebrating, but i am sure that if you could ask your mum's opinion she would tell you to go to the wedding even if it's on her behalf.You will never forget your mum, but in years to come you may well wish that you had attended your nieces wedding.
2007-07-19 15:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday was the 1 year aniv. of my dad's death. You don't know how I would have loved to go to a wedding. Celebrating with your niece, even if it is a little bittersweet, will be so much better than sitting around the house, looking at old pictures, trust me...
2007-07-19 15:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Derek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am certain that your mum would not have wanted you to avoid going to places because of her death. Go to the wedding, enjoy it as best you can and take some quiet time during the day, (maybe in the church) to think about your mum and the times that you enjoyed together. Your neice will understand if you are not dancing on the tables but she will be pleased that you are there.
2007-07-20 09:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Stressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I have an idea how you feel, but life goes on. I take it that your niece is not your mothers grandaughter. If she is your Mother would have wanted to be there so you can feel you represent her if that will help. If she is not revetrt to plan 1 go enjoy yourself. i dopn't believe your mother would want anything else. if you are an atheist you know no one can hurt her anymore. if you are a Christian you hope and believe she is in eternal resr with The Lord
2007-07-19 16:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you. I'm very sorry that you lost your mom.
I think you should still attend your neices wedding, it's a very important day for her and she wants you to be there. I would try to remember that it is her big day as opposed to the anniversary of something dear you lost. And be sure not to mention it to anyone while you're there.
You may find that being around family is something you really needed. What would you mom want you to do?
2007-07-19 15:49:02 · answer #11 · answered by rebecca d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋