How can a 53 year old man marry a 9–year-girl? Is it acceptable?

Question

To those who want to understand the marriage of our prophet peace be upon to Aisha read this

There is no doubt that in most countries today it is not acceptable for a 53–year-old man to marry a 9–year-girl. Why? Because it is against the law and against the traditions of the people. This means that if we want to label any action as wrong, then we need to ask: wrong according to what, the law or the traditions?
The Prophet (peace be upon him) never violated the law, the Qur’an descended during his lifetime and never prohibited the Prophet’s acts. Also, the Messenger never violated the traditions and customs of his people, as we all know that he was attacked vigorously by the idolaters, the Jews, and the hypocrites.They lashed out at him boldly and continuously attempted to defame his personality, but they never claimed that he was a pedophile or a child abuser.Y? In fact,using hismarriage to A’ishah,when she was so young, could have been an excellent opportunity to destroy him and to convince his Companions and followers that he was not worthy of following.


The answer is simply because these kinds of practices wre the norm at that time of the Prophet. Therefore, he didn’t violate the traditions of his people in his time. Prophet Muhammad was also married to Safiyyah, the daughter of Huyayy ibn Akhtab, the leader of a Jewish tribe in Arabia. The Prophet married her when she was 16 years old and guess what? He was her third husband; she was married twice before him. So, how old do you think she was when she got married to her first husband? Probably around 9, just like `A’ishah.


It is mentioned in authentic hadiths that our Prophet got engaged to her when she was 7 years old and waited for two whole years until she reached the age of 9. Then, when she reached puberty, he married her. According to the Encyclopedia Britannica—which is a Western source written by non-Muslim scholars and scientists—puberty is “in human physiology, the stage or period of life when a child transforms into an adult normally capable of procreation,” which essentially means “sexually mature.”



Another surprise is that when he got engaged to her at the age of 7, he was not the first man in her life. She was engaged before him to the son of Uqbah ibn Muayt. He was one of the idol worshipers of the Quraish, who had abandoned her because of her father’s strong position in supporting Islam. What I want to say is that it is unfair to sit in air-conditioning, enjoying popcorn in 2006, and to judge the actions of people who lived 1,400 years ago, in a completely different environment.


You can imagine how a girl would feel if she was abused by an old man. This is completely different from the beautiful stories that `A’ishah narrated about the gentleness, kindness, and romanticism of the Prophet of Allah. Whenever you read the story of the Prophet and `A’ishah, you get the feeling that this was a perfect love story, the kind that Shakespeare was trying to write when he wrote Romeo and Juliet. Except that his story had a sad ending since Romeo committed suicide along with his beloved Juliet.


Make sure to keep in mind the words of Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881), a Scottish historian, critic, and sociological writer who said, “The lies, which well-meaning zeal has heaped round this man [Muhammad], are disgraceful to ourselves only.” Many lies were told about God’s Messenger, as well as other messengers and prophets. In addition, our religion tells us that the prophets are the best of mankind, simply because when Allah chose certain people from among His creation, He chose the best.
lastly , i wish those who wanted to understand got the pic now and those who want to take that against muslims , JUST STOP IT.


FURTHEMORE, It should be noted that in the hot regions, it’s normal for a girl to attain maturity at a very early age. Thus the case is totally different from that which does exist in the cold regions where a girl does not attain puberty before 21 [Physicians maintain that the age of puberty in the hot regions normally ranges from 9 to 16]. At all rates, it should be stressed that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, on marrying `Aisha, never aimed at fulfilling a lust or satisfying a desire; rather, his aim was to strengthen his relation with the most beloved Companion of his.
Had it been true that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, aimed at fulfilling a lust or satisfying a desire, he would have done this while still in his youth when he was still free from the responsibilities of delivering Allah’s call. At his early age, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, accepted to marry Khadija, may Allah be pleased with her, who was 15 years older than him


He also never married a new wife until after her death. Even after her passing away, his new wife Sawdah bint Zam`ah was an old-aged widow who possessed no particular appealing qualities. This adds to our certainty that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, had many great lofty aims behind his marriages. Also, when Khawlah bint Hakim suggested to him to marry`Aisha, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, thought thoroughly whether to accept or to refuse. He took into consideration his relation with Abu Bakr.

i don't know why it is hard for some ppl just to x-press their opinion in a civilized way?!!

if they understood it , that is great , if not , just leave it DON'T OFFEND.

AND I would like to thank every one really agreed with me and appreciated our love to the prophet(pbuh) and the understood the circumstances of his marriage.

peace to all.

note: Muslim rose i got this from one of your questions i really liked it and wanted to post it again, thanks

please read it before answering some ignorant answers

Answer 1

That is right, only in Arkansas, Venezuela and the Middle East is that allowed. jr

Answer 2

I'm atheist, but for the sake of honesty, I'll answer this. The source where it said Muhammad married Aisha at 6 and consummated the marriage with her at 9 came from an oral compilation called the Hadith. Now, the Hadiths were compiled about 150 years after Muhammad died, and it was done on pure hearsay and tradition. If you read a lot of the other Hadiths, they're purely heterodox, too. For instance, some of the Hadiths say that when the Muslims conquer Istanbul, doomsday is sure to arrive then. Clear baloney, right? All I'm saying is that the story is based on very flimsy "evidence". There were accounts in early Christianity that Jesus married Mary Magdalene and moved to France (think "The DaVinci Vode"). Yet why don't most Christians believe that to be true, too?

Answer 3

The source of the above information can only be the Hadiths books which are nothing but lies attributed to prophet Muhammad. It has no support in Quran.
All the stories circulating on the Internet and in the hadiths books about Aisha's marriage at age of 6 or 9, are no more than lies found in the corrupted books of Hadiths and completely contradict the teachings of the prophet Muhammed that came from his mouth, the Glorious Quran. We only need to read the Quran to know how false these stories are.

Nothing normal in such relationship neither in our time nor in the prophet time.
Any person at the age of six or nine is still a child who is incapable of taking crucial decisions which are essential for marriage under Quranic guidance. Further, marriage involves taking serious responsibilities on the part of both the spouses concerning the upbringing of the family, which a child of the age of 6 or 9 or whatever is incapable of taking.

STOP justifying corrupted and fabricated stories PLEASE.

Peace!

Answer 4

i am a muslim too and my best bet is that back then the traditions were if a girl reached her puberty years or acted with respect at a certain age, then the girl is ready for marriage. So back then it was a good thing. Now a days its not cauuse they would call that sexually harrasing in america. But in other countries they still allow that so the traditions could continue.

but i also think u may have answered u're own question

Answer 5

I am so happy to hear some kind of a justification from a fellow muslim. I always explain to people that the customs were different back then so it is completely impossible to compare today's times to back then in Arabia. I appreciate your answer!!

Answer 6

There is a way. The 53 yr old man has to wait until he turns 65, when the girl is 21. Is she still like him by then, they can get married.

Answer 7

Unlike you (or whoever did all this research,) most people do not research the things they bash or even the beliefs they hold on a pedestal. They just believe what ever they have heard or have been told to believe.
I always find it amusing when people have learned about other religions from their church. I would think the best place to learn would be from the source, not the "competition."

Answer 8

so what I am to gather here is that a person who claimed to be a prophet (53 yr old) entered into a sort of marriage contract with a child/ children???

1. marriage is to be between a man and a woman...NOT a man and a child....there are laws against that even back then....

2. a prophet of God is called to do God's work, etc. not fill a harem...

and it would be much easier to read if you left out all the adorations.......

other people trying to read through that will be "by accident" saying false prayers....which I don't think is correct....

Answer 9

Is there anyone here from Scandinavia or the North Pole? Antarctica? Is she right about your reaching puberty on average at age 21? In Canada where it gets reasonably cold in the winter, girls reach puberty at the normal age 11, 12, 13 or so.

Answer 10

May Allah Bless You For Bringing Truth To An Ignorant and Backward Society! It doesnt really matter what people think of The Commander Of The Faithful(PBUH). I mean...who are they? The Prophet is the one who is loved by The Almighty...He, The Prophet, will be the one resting in Paradise while these kafirs will be resting in HELL! Honestly, I don't believe you have to prove anything to kafirs! ALLAH WILL TAKE CARE OF THESE MONGRELS!

Answer 11

It is never acceptable, not then, not now, not ever! The problem is that Muslim leaders TODAY still say it's ok to marry a young girl because Muhammad did. You guys believe that Muhammad's actions transcend time and he is your perfect example. That means Muslims believe in pedophilia. How would you feel if it was your 9 yr old daughter? Think back to when you were 9 and imagine being raped (statutory rape) by a 53 yr old.

Oh and about Aisha's beautiful stories, how about the one when she talks of Muhammad hitting her in the chest and how it hurt her? That's just so touching isn't it?

And IF, and this is a big if, Muhammad was a true prophet of God, wouldn't he know that people would follow his actions? Wouldn't he know that pedophilia would be unacceptable one day? Wouldn't he then be a true leader and act the way we should ALWAYS act? Your logic (?) is illogical. Your excuse for his despicable actions is laughable.

I know you are not allowed to speak the truth about Muhammad, but I am and did.

God Bless.