How do we make certain it won't raise it's ugly head from a dormant stage and ambush us?
2007-07-19 07:34:44 · 17 answers · asked by Valerie C 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Jealousy, from a Buddhist perspective is "Self" arising incarnate.
It arises due to selfishness.."I haven't got what that person has.." We pick up the emotion which follows with the experience which raised the issue..."He / she shouldn't have that thing...because "I" deserve it more..." "I am fuly justified in my rage at their good fortune.." All Illusion based on selfishness, purely selfishness.
To fight jealousy in the consciousness, it is fought with Non Jealousy.
To do so requires us to maintain the Observer's stance. By truly becoming the Observer, we must never become the Participant. This means that although we participate in the experiences that we experience, we are Observers of the feelings which arise within those experiences as opposed to becoming those feelings.
In a similiar vane to watching a sad painting. We Observe the painting and feel the sadness emanating from the image we see. We appreciate the artist's skill in demonstrating this emotion with his art, note the feeling, then we move onto the next painting.
We do not then take these emotions with us outside the gallery, these emotions remain with the painting. We are the Observer of these feelings and ascociate them with the painting.
In exactly the same manner, our Life's experiences carry feelings ascociated with them. By becoming the Observer, we still feel these feelings of anger, frustration and jealousy, but these feelings should be left with the experience. In this way they do not hurt us in the long term. After the experience is dissipated, the feelings too will dissipate.
We will always feel feelings when we experience experiences, after all we are Human Beings with feelings and emotions. We are not robots.
To minimise the effects of these feelings that we feel, we must practise the Observer's stance, practising thus we become used to this perspective of Non Self and after many practises, these feelings will be more easily left with the experience. Eventually, the Non Self practise becomes the normal consciousness rather than the Self practise that we usually adopt.
A Buddhist....
2007-07-19 08:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gaz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Brother
Our Holy prophet Muhammad peace be on him said:
The fire of jealousy is harsher than the fire of hell.
Jealous is a harsh feeling acquired against a person, who possess a better condition which might be in any form bodily or materially than a person feeling envy of him.
It is God Allah who gifts his slaves whatever he intended to and accordingly every one shall be questioned on what he possessed and how he utilized it and spent on the day of justice.
If some one feels jealousy of another, it is as though finding fault with the Creator, why is that such a person is gifted with such and such, but I am not? Allah Forbid such a feeling!
We need to look upon the people who are inferior to us in terms of health, beauty, wisdom, wealth and worldly positions or any other aspect and Thank the Almighty for what we are.
This might help us in curbing the jealousy which hurts us and others.
2007-07-19 08:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by mohammad a 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
An envious man harms himself before he harms the person he envies, as was the case with Iblis: by his envy he brought the curse upon himself, whereas to Adam he brought about his election, guidance, elevation to the true contract, and his being chosen. Therefore be envied rather than envious, because the punishment of the envious is always worse than that of the envied; thus is provision apportioned.
So how does envying benefit the envious, and how does envy harm the envied? The root of envy lies in the blindness of the heart, and rejection of God's overflowing favour: they are two wings of disbelief. Through envy the son of Adam falls into endless grief and is utterly destroyed, and there is no way he can save himself. The envious does not really repent, for he continues to dwell upon and believe in his envy; indeed it is such an inherent part of his nature that it manifests itself unopposed and without apparent reason, causing him harm. A person's basic nature does not change, even with treatment.
2007-07-19 08:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it really has to do with suspicion. I agree with Elvis..."We're caught in a trap..I can't walk out.." so you have to patiently coach yourself not to exert suspicion on people.
But this also really ties into trust.
I try to give people I meet a little "free package of trust" as a get acquainted gift, and see what they do with it. If they screw it up ..I move on.. it's not snobby. It's just an exercise in becoming comfortable with the concept of trusting first.
And then I always return to this "Happy" thing. Consider
yourself happy as a choice, not a result of circumstance. Then
if your emotional buttons are punched, for any reason, you have a safety net, having already chosen happiness in advance. "Happy in your misery.." it's not a joke. I try to practice it every day..."Glass half full..." there are other metaphors. Then you have less reasons to be jealous...as it's most often over someone elses happiness! Vaya Con Dios.
2007-07-19 08:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Recital Vinyliste 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually a recently published psychological study has indicated that emotions such as spite and jealousy might have good effects for humans.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20070716/sc_livescience/thebrightsideofspiterevealed
These emotions are apparently part of our mental framework that helps us form and comprehend ideals such as fairness. Without jealousy and spite, humans might not be able to work together as effectively as they do.
Basically, if all humans were incapable of feeling jealous, we would be unable to realize when someone was taking advantage of us or turning a situation completely to their own advantage and against ours. If people were unable to realize such things were taking place, society would collapse due to the ridiculously improper distribution of resources.
Don't banish jealousy, just learn how to use and appreciate it. Its there for a reason.
2007-07-19 07:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Azure Z 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If jealousy have been a wasted emotion we'd have numerous uninteresting television shows and flicks. might "desperate Housewives" be as popular if human beings did no longer care approximately jealousy? we'd be a society of hump'n Rabbits... if we did no longer have the emotion of jealousy to augment monogamous relationships. _______ What emotion will we use whilst each and all the large looking rabbits get each and all the guy rabbits and each and all the homely rabbits are lonely? Are they nonetheless jealous?
2016-10-09 02:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the only way to erraticate the temptation to engage the emotion of jealousy,is to identify the root emotion behind it. In the case of jealousy,I believe that it is most often associated with the root emotion of Fear,(which I,personally believe to be the most powerful of all negatively percieved, emotions). The next step is to identify the thinking that has caused the emotion to surface and to deal with any wrong or unfounded thoughts and replace them with truth and new positive thoughts...
It is an event and it takes time to work through,but the end result is peace and a new attitude.
Galatians 5:26 says, “Let us not become conceited, or irritate one another, or be jealous of one another.”
(Maybe buy a box of Mrs. See's Candy, for one that you may be jealous of...(inside joke) lol
2007-07-19 08:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Emotions arise. There is no understanding why...they just arise.
The suffering we feel comes from wanting it to be different.
When we can just 'watch' as emotions go through us (almost like a bystander) they have nothing to cling to. They will fade away into nothingness.
We give them their life by feeding them more energy/thoughts.
2007-07-19 15:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by Eve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run to the altar, repent of these emotions that keep one in bondage, and release it into the care of God. Through the intercession of the Holy Spirit, jealously & all associated fruits of fear will be cleaved. This must be done daily to keep our flesh in check, as long as our flesh is alive, it is still vulnerable and will stumble to the carnal things of this world.
God Bless You!
2007-07-19 08:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. G™ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is coming from thing you cannot achieve and someone does. If you can change the jealousy to admire will totally change your emotion.
2007-07-19 07:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by johnkamfailee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋