I have been on and off with my ex for four years. He cheated on me countless times and I was foolish enough to keep him in my life for years. He eventualy found himself a new girlfriend only to cheat on her too and they broke up three months ago. Around this time he started coming around again wanting sex without a commitment. Angry, I called every name in the book and told him to get lost. However, I ran into him 3 weeks ago and decided to email him....He than proceeded to curse me out and tell me that he has a new girlfriend now, and that he loves her and that she is so much better than me,,,He said that he is a changed man and would never cheat on her...Mind you, he has only been dating her for a couple months. What is the likely hood of him cheating again? Or can people like him change in a few months?
2007-07-19 07:03:54 · 16 answers · asked by Angelina s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People can change on an instants notice with the right incentive, however, even the leopard does not change its spots. The catalyst to make a change of that size is life changing and usually involves the potential of loss or tragedy, anything less is smoke and mirrors. Cheating is a learned trait and it would have to be unlearned and the trait of faith and committment would have to be learned and even if that were possible the person changing would have to be willing to make and accept the change and have enough value in the reasons to be effective. All in all, my opinion is that without professional assistance and the above reasons i would not expect a change of any significance and i would make decisions about my life based on the facts at hand. Sometimes counting our losses are a difficult thing to do but will save more in the long run than fighting something that will never change and will continue to drain the good things of a person to the emptiness and leave the shell with the reasoning of there is nothing there after it is all used up. Sad but true to that type of personality.
2007-07-19 08:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you are having a hard time getting over this relationship but you must...it will only cause more pain to pursue this man and he will not change. I say this because he his flaunting his new relationship to you in hopes that you will respond in way that makes him still feel wanted by you. I think that means that he cannot commit to you or actually wants a commitment with anyone...
2007-07-19 07:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by chef.jnstwrt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy will be a repeat offender his whole life- ditch the creep and don't look back.
Although it seems as though he behaves this way to hurt you, he is actually suffering an inability to commit to anyone. These types of breakup, short term relationships and cheating are symptoms that go deep into childhood relationships. It will take years of therapy and chances are he is quite happy the way he is.
2007-07-19 07:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by R M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat! He'll cheat on her too it's just a matter of time. Here's something to think about for the next relationship....Men can only get away with what we allow them to. The fact that you gave this man another chance time after time tells him that hey she forgave me this time she'll forgive me again. And you obviously did. Never let your man no matter how much you think you love him, get away with anything. He'll just take advantage of whatever he can for however long he can. So if he hurts you once get rid of him, cuz it was not meant to be.
2007-07-19 07:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by tellitlikeitis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like this often don't change...but anything is possible. That said I think the only reason that his is being so angry towards you is because of the way you treated him the last time you spoke. You rejected him and he felt like he needed to hurt you in some manner to get back at you. I would take this as the final straw and never talk to him again...time for both of you to move on.
2007-07-19 07:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off that guy sounds like an *** for telling you that the other girl is better and for cheating on all those girls. Even if he thinks that the other girl is better it is childish of him to actually tell you that. And second, yes is more likely to cheat on the poor gir, but people can change wihtin a few months.
2007-07-19 07:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the same as u...im still with this guy witout any attachment of bf n gf thingy... its been 8 years... he do have gf in the middle of those years n i do have 1 too...end up im still waiting for him
he does cheat on me somtimes...i got so angry and frustrated at him...i yell on the fone and other stuff too...
in yur case a person can actually changed very fast... no doubt on tat....me n him v both can change every minute
so theres no big deal if he cheats on u again or other gurls
2007-07-19 07:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by charlene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good chance hell cheat on his new girl. dont think bout him anymore, hes a waste of time. he obviously tryin 2 make u jealous. from what i hear hes not a good bf n needs to grow up. itll take a lot of time 4 him 2 change cuz hes a playa
2007-07-19 07:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by BallinBebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll cheat again and again, He's never satisfied, Be glad you are rid of him and move on, you girls always wanna hang on to that little bit of hope...well don't. Be proud of yourself, you can certainly do better...good luck!
2007-07-19 07:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by ccstangfan2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unlikely he will change a jerk is a jerk. As for cheating he may or not cheat in the future but just hold your head hi that you are strong enough to leave that jerk and have any guy you want.
2007-07-19 07:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by Smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋