2007-07-19 07:00:17 · 14 answers · asked by john s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is my boss's son. An acquaintance at best.
I didn't attend because I had pre-existing vacation plans.
To complicate matters, possibly, I didn't invite my boss and his wife to my own wedding 2 years ago but they gave us a $300 gift anyway a couple of weeks later.
2007-07-19 07:18:39 · update #1
I think that's entirely up to you. You are as free to decide whether or not to send them a gift as if you'd never received the invitation in the first place.
It would be nice, but I see no moral obligation. I'm sure others feel differently, but an invitation shouldn't obligate you to buy a gift, in my opinion. (If you'd gone to the wedding and reception, ate their food, danced to their music, etc., I'd feel differently.)
2007-07-19 07:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are invited because you are a personal friend of the bride/groom (or person being honored), even if you do not go, you should send a present. That is what friends do.
However, if you are an employee and the boss invites you to a child's wedding or bar matzvah or confirmation or whatever or a fellow co-worker invites you just because of your business relationship, you do not have to go and you need not send a present. The person being honored really could care less if you show up as they do not usually know you and the invitation is more about getting presents than anything else.
As far as the boss giving you a gift, there is no rule that says you must "gift" back. If you feel you must "gift" back, it would be more appropriate that when your boss has his 10th or 25th or so wedding anniversary, you send them a gift unexpectedly.
2007-07-19 09:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually when it is a family member or close friend's wedding most people send a gift even if they don't go to the wedding. I would have a family member take your gift with them to the wedding or send a gift card to a place where you cousin is registered. Hope this helps!
2016-05-17 11:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, no, you do not have to send a gift. But since they were not invited to your wedding, and sent one, and it is your boss, it would be a nice gesture. You do not have to compete with the $300, go to the registry and pick something within your budget, and wrap it creatively, and get a nice card. Write in it sorry we could not attend, congratulations and best wishes to you both. Or, put money in the card, or a gift card to the store where the registry is, so they can buy the things they did not get as gifts.
2007-07-19 12:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first answer. I think of wedding registrations as a suggestion, not a requirement. I purchase gifts only for people I'm close to. I always send a congratulations card, though.
The only exception is when I know the couple has lost everything (due to natural disaster or fire) and literally have nothing.
2007-07-19 07:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what these other people are thinking! If your boss gave you $300 for your wedding, which you didn't even invite him to, you should definately acknowledge his son's wedding with a gift.
It doesn't have to be anything big- just pick out something small from the couple's registry to show you care.
Trust me, you don't want to blow this off.
2007-07-19 07:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Deborah P 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since they gave you a $300 gift inspite of you not inviting them, I think it would be good that you give them a $20 gift plus a $1.99 card. It's the thought that counts. Afterall, you are just a fixed salaried employee who is not wealthy. They should not ask for more.
2007-07-19 20:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not attend you are not obliged to send a gift. If the person getting married is a close friend and you can not attend because of previous obligations, you can send a gift. All depends on how close to these peole you are.
2007-07-19 07:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by Horse 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since your boss gave you a gift, you will feel better if you send a gift and a nice card.
2007-07-19 07:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by bebop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to send a gift, it is not required whether you can attend the wedding or not.
You can if you want to, if the person is close to you like a best friend or family member.
2007-07-19 07:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋