so today im supposed to hang out with this senior and im a sophmore. My dad doesn't approve of it, but my mom somewhat does. she told me she would take me to hang out with him, but that if my dad or brother (the guy's good friend) she would not take the blame for me and she would act as if she had no idea. I really want to hang out with the guy because i like him, but i don't wanna get in trouble and loose my dad's trust. what do i do?
2007-07-19 06:49:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you REALLY don't want to lose your Dad's trust, then don't do it. Simple as that. You need to talk to your Mom and tell her that either she supports you in this....or she doesn't...no walking the fenceline.
2007-07-19 06:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try bringing the guy around the house and have your dad get to know the guy, if the guys cool, your dad probably wont mind you hanging out with him.
I think the main problem for your dad is because the guy is older and probably more "experienced", and you're his little girl, so he has to worry about guys coming around, especially at this age.
Also, If your mom's gonna bail on you, thats not a good sign. But, maybe your dad's just a little strict, you're at the age when you have to start pulling away and make decisions your parent dont agree with. Just realize you have to take these steps gradually to maintain the trust they have in you.
2007-07-19 14:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Joe N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see where your dad is coming from: one you're his little girl and he doesn't want to see you date much less an older guy, two he is a senior and your a sophomore there is a big difference between those ages a senior is looking at college, work etc. in terms of whats going to happen in the next couple years he's entering a stage in his life were things tend to be difficult, you on the other hand have a couple years until you need to worry to much about how your going to handle being an adult. This is likely exactly what your dad thinks about on top of which he was once a teenage boy too. so is it really worth losing your dads trust and also causing an issue between your mom and dad in the process?
2007-07-19 13:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy that your parents don't approve and tell him your situation. If he doesn't accept that it is going to interfere with your family and that is why you dont want to hang out then he isnt worth it for you. But explain to him whats going on and he should understand. As for the both of you, i say just wait on the hanging out thing and eventually you might get to, try to work something out with your parents. Make it something that they are okay with like maybe him hanging out at the house so that also you parents can get to know him and that is probably where they think they will be able to keep a good eye on both of you.
2007-07-19 13:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to maintain trust is to be TRUSTWORTHY.
If you feel you must see this guy, you should call your dad before you go and tell him that you are going to see this guy. Yep, it's hard, but it's the grown up thing to do. Tell your dad that you love him, you respect his opinion, but you feel you can handle yourself with this older guy. Tell him that he taught you how to be a good young lady and be strong, and that he should have more faith in you. Then, you have to live what you say. Be a good girl, be mature, etc.
If your dad still says no, you should honor your father's wishes. Yes, even if it's hard. He will respect you for it and you will grow closer to your dad, even if you hate him for a while.
2007-07-19 13:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I am the party pooper here. I would want to continue to receive my dad's trust. Trust is very important to me. If someone should lose that trust in you, it could be rough to get it back and maybe never. Love, yes, he will continue to love you but the trust may never be the same.
Good luck in your decision.
2007-07-19 14:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him come over and hang there with you...
and then let dad or bro see he's on the up and up...
and he can ask your dad to take you out...
same stuff happens on Hogan Knows Best...and the Hulk is kinda cool about it with Brooke; although he did activate the GPS system in their car...but still, eh?!
2007-07-19 13:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason why they dont trust you being with a senior is because they do not know this guy. I think it is best to introduce him to your family and see what they think, and if they tolerate maybe they can let you try one date with him and see how it turns out.
2007-07-19 13:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by blingding 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mom isn't willing to back up a choice she is making - why should you? I would not go yet & talk to you dad about his reasons - maybe they will make sense to you as well.
2007-07-19 13:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your dad first, say hes just your friend and you just wanna hang out.
2007-07-19 13:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋