I've had separation anxiety and anxiety disorder for about 7 or 8 years, and it's time for me to go to college in like...a month. I'm only going to be a half hour away from home and it sounds like no big deal to other people but because of the anxiety i've been extremely attached to my parents..it's not like i don't have friends, but it's not the same. I'm already getting upset about the idea of staying away from home, but i've always been told the best thing to do is face things head on. What do i do if i'm extremely lonely? any suggestions?
2007-07-19
06:41:30
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if you've never had any type of anxiety please don't comment beause u can't even imagine what it freaking feels like
2007-07-19
06:46:50 ·
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for one Congratualtions and stick with it even if a cute guy comes along "Stay in School" Remember that..
Okay go ahead and face it now because its gonn acome one day or another, make friends as soon as you get there and as of now pace yourself try to gradually detach yourself while your still at home always remember your parents are a phone call away. Eventually YOU WILL grow out of this.
2007-07-19 06:47:39
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answered by dreamk8000 1
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Hey, I know it can be hard to move away from home, but just take a deep breath. I just graduated from college, and I felt how you are feeling now. But I think this can actually be a good opportunity for you. College will be a great time to make lifelong friends, get involved in all sorts of clubs/organizations, find your place, etc. And don't worry if you're ever lonely. Campuses usually have tons and tons of resources. I'm sure you can talk to the resident advisor (RA), there will be people in your dorm/residence hall/apartment, and there's usually a psychological services center on campuses always willing to talk to you for just about anything. And about those organizations -- literally, there are so many that you get involved in a bunch and not only never be lonely, but probably be so overwhelmed that you'll want to cut back! So, I would probably advise to get involved in a few that really mean a lot to you, whatever your interests may be, and I'm sure you'll meet great people there as well. Trust me, you just have to take this new step forward with a positive outlook, and I am sure that everything will work out. Good luck and congratulations on starting college! :o)
2007-07-19 06:51:54
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answered by CareBear222 1
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What you have is a very real and serious problem. You should see a psyciatric physician about this. THere are several meds out there that can take your anxiety down several notches. Facing it headon will only make matters worse in my oppinion. Yes, you do have to keep stretching your limits, but taking one giant leap over a canyon is almost impossible. May I suggest commuting for your first semester. Stay after your classes are over and hang out at college hang out spots for a while. Gradually, you can overcome your anxiety. Maybe by second semester, you will be ready to live on campus and go home on the weekends. Either way you decide, don't let people tell you its all in your head, because its not. College is a big adjustment for anyone, let alone having anxiety disorders on top of it all.
Good luck, and remember to have lots of fun!
2007-07-19 06:50:18
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answered by mamanurse 2
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Ignore the people who cant understand your problem.
Bring you favorite things with you, like me, I like to listen to music. Its calming to the soul. Prayer, it helps me a lot.
Sometimes it may not be instint cause it depends on you situation and time. Meditate to sooth you mind also by taking deep breaths as the moment comes and before at night. Imagine the stress thats in your body is a specific color and it is flowing out of your body. (the color represents your fear)
If you feel lonley,
You have to come out with an persona in you heart,
that if anyone do not like you, then they missed out on somethin good. I am sure you will find something or someone there to not make you feel extremely lonesome. Sometimes I read books at my college. This is a tough time, especailly if your naturally shy or have an anxiety disorder. I hope you can cope.
2007-07-19 06:55:27
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answered by Delightful 6
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first suggestion get a hobby that you love. if you have time, do that it should be something that keeps your mind off whatever causes your anxiety.
second, the other comment was great by making friends as soon as you get there. but actually some colleges have new hire orientations before you get to college. so make friends there.
also there will be lots of activities at college, so make sure to do some of them. you never know, you may meet some people that you can really identify with. you will never know till you try.
2007-07-19 06:53:23
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answered by brk 4
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the first thing that u can do is go home for weekends and then slowly cut it down to every other weekend. i know how it feels to have anxiety not necessarily of the same sort but pretty bad nonetheless. u have to face ur problems head on but u can do it slowly in steps and phases.
2007-07-19 06:59:00
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answered by ggates1982 3
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oh for pity's sake, if you are only 30 minutes from home, you still have to ask what you do if you get lonely? It is high time you got away from mommy and daddy and grew up, you can't think beyond a sixth grade emotional level.
2007-07-19 06:45:29
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answered by essentiallysolo 7
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Hey it hurt when I broke up with my gf but I had to because she is a horrible person and I got over it. There is heaps of ppl out there but yeah if you think you love him then just talk to him. It always works out that way.
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answered by Nancy 4
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OMG! Grow up.
2007-07-19 06:49:39
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answered by B.G. 2
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