does being alone really supposed to hurt this bad?

Question

im so tired of being lonely, girls don't even look at me, i guess some people are meant to have noone.

im in a wheelchair and arent supposed to live past 23 and i'm 19.. thanks for the help though.

Answer 1

we are human. we are social. its normal to feel alone. girls might not look at you now, but sooner or later, one will. & then you will find the right one. it sounds like your young. keep your chin up & just wait & see. your chance wil come. ps- My bfs a nerd & Im a cheerleader! you could guess how that went over being in high school...but i didnt care!!! Now Im sooo happy!!! you will be too so DONT WORRY!!! Good luck!!! ;) oooooh ur in a wheelchair? So? Even disabled people get girlfriends!! i went out with a boy whos legs didnt work. i forgot what it was called...anyway we dated for a month before he moved. he was soooo fun!! i barely noticed the wheelchair. he would let me sit on his lap and we would just wheel around. i never thought of our relationship as different. like i said. DONT WORRY!!! xo

Answer 2

Being alone is more than just being a couple. Successful single people deal with it by building up their life. You have to have an emotional support structure to really be happy. Some people build their life on a partner, some people use their job, to some it's a group of friends or an organization (like a country club or church). I think the healthiest and strongest option is all of the above. Join clubs to meet people that share your interest. Get involved with your co-workers. There are lots of friends-meeting organizations out there.

The more you have going on in your life, the less a single missing piece matters. Don't put all your social eggs in one basket! Oh, and if it helps, being confident and happy is an attractive feature and will make girls look at you. It's also a lot easier to meet the opposite sex in non-single scenes because there's no pressure! So get those hobbies going! :)

Answer 3

Yep. and it will get worse as long as you keep yourself
'locked' indoors. Go to public places and start up conversations. My son goes to a bar that has pool tournaments and loves to play pool. People come in and ask if they can join where others are sitting around and laughing. Usually those are the ones that will fit you into the conversation. More people you meet of both sexes, the less alone you will be. Think of a place, even dances; wheelchair & all. Take a class for a hobby.

You MUST make some attempts to meet people. No one will knock on your door when they don't know you exist.

Answer 4

How old are you? I agree with an above poster who encouraged you to explore your own interests. Rather than trying to follow the trend, discover the things YOU like to do. Not only will you be happier with yourself, you will meet and attract people with similar interests.

I imagine you are younger. In High School maybe. I understand that it can be a cruel world and I imagine most of us have felt alienated or alone in some point in our lifes. Just remember that you do have gifts and you do have talents that are unique to YOU, and one you discover and embrace those, you will be a happier person.

Simply put, focus on the positive aspects of you and DON'T just do what everyone else is doing. That only works for a little while, and then you'll feel empty again because you aren't doing what's true to you. More importantly, keep in mind that what most people are doing usually isn't smart or producitve and a lot of times is self destructive. Dare to not fall into those same traps that so many younger people fall into.

I wish you all the best. If you would ever like to talk, email me.

Answer 5

Well, ever asked yourself why? You must know the answer. Could it be your looks? attitude? personality? behavior? You have to change my friend. And you just dont wait around, do something! U r a man, it's tougher for women. Join clubs, groups, etc. and meet a lots of women. If u just stay inside ur house, how will u have someone? Surely there's someone for u out there?

Hey, i just read ur additional info. Is that so? Why? what are you afflicted with? You know, a lot of times, the time frames doctors give aren't correct. Only God knows when. Be positive and you will live longer. By the way, i wish to e-mail u something nice related to ur problem, it's funny too but u do not allow email nor IM. If u change ur mind, just check my profile for my email and YM ID. I'll send it to u right away.

Answer 6

yeah it does suck but hang in there. I went through a very lonely stint and depression after my 7yr relationship fell apart. I had nobody for about 2 yrs. From time to time I brought chicks home from the club, but trust me they do "ABSOLUTELY NOTHING" to cure loneliness because sex doesn't equal the warm feeling you felt when you were in love. It seemed like every night I would lay in bed and wonder if I'd ever be as happy as I was. After 2 long years, which seemed like an eternity, I found my current gf and we've been happilly together for 4 yrs now. Hey, if Donald Trump and his ugly comb-over can find love than so can any of us. Just don't expect a model until you have his bank account though. Good luck Bro.

Answer 7

Aww man that sucks. I've been like that my whole life pretty much. I'm 31 and I've only been in love once but she was already with someone else and it just never worked out. I don't think anyone is "meant" to have anything. You make it happen or it just happens by chance but I don't think there is some master plan behind it and thinking so could make you more likely to just sit around waiting for it to happen. Find that girl that you connect with and make it happen. If she ain't interested don't sweat it. Plenty of fish in the sea. Don't fall for that "Your the only one for me" bullshit. There are plenty 'only one for me' girls. Also if you just want to bang a chick go to a Massage Parlor. They love you long time, lmao. Seriously, that's what I do sometimes. It's fun and how many guys can say they've had sex with a real Japanese girl? Been there!

Answer 8

My granny used to tell me there is someone for everyone, trust those words. You are not alone, everyone experiences loneliness at certain stages in their lives. Don't ever think that you're the only one. Just find ways to combat it, and to do that, you need to first look within, make sure you are your own best friend sweety. You will start to venture out more, and doing whatever it takes, for me I go to the Movies by myself, I go to a restaurant by myself, even to a bar when I want a drink (instead of the store) by myself. Seriously, by doing that you're opening yourself up to so many possibilities, and eventually, just by being BY YOURSELF, you'll meet that person that was meant to be with you. Trust me I did (it doesn't happen overnight, so don't rush it) you'll know this just like a light-bulb turns on, and then you'll laugh and remember these words. Stay Strong and positive, the best is yet to come.

Answer 9

My guess is that you tore a mussel or a tendon. Be careful with stretching your legs to far. Until they feel better I would back off a bit when you stretch, do the same stretches but don't move as far into them, as if it hurts don't push it farther. Just take it easy for a few days and it'll feel better. I remember when I was trying to get my splits my legs were soooo sore from stretching for hours a day. Turns out I had torn my hamstring and had made it worse day after day because I kept pushing it to hard.

Answer 10

What's worse is being lonely when you're not alone. Better to be alone than with the wrong person.

What you need is to get to know yourself and learn to like being with just you. The cliche is true; people like happy people. If you're happy with yourself, you will come across as more interesting and someone people want to be around.

Start by trying new things and see what you like. Join a hiking group, do volunteer work in your community, join a gym, take a class. Getting to know yourself isn't easy, but it makes the alone time bearable.