You know the correct answers of self forgiveness and living in today instead of looking at the past, but the feeling just doesn't leave. How do you get rid of it once and for all?
2007-07-19 06:08:24 · 18 answers · asked by Maggie May 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Get a hobby.
2007-07-19 06:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You know what, it's really hard. I feel like that sometimes, even about stuff that doesn't really matter, like stupid stuff I did as a kid and goofing around stuff and some poor decisions I made (but which eventually worked out okay). Also some strange situations I found myself in.
Sometimes I just want to kick myself, and I tell my mind "Stop!" and redirect my thoughts.
Other things I've learned to get over by understanding why I did what I did. Not just self-forgiveness, but having compassion for yourself and empathy.
Yet other things I've had help with by having kids. I love to tell stories about the stuff my children get into, and it becomes funny, and suddenly I dont' feel so bad about being an idiot when I was a kid too.
If it's something very serious and not trivial, you may benefit from professional counseling. I don't generally recommend this but I recognize it can be beneficial sometimes. Sometimes just talking about what's bothering you can help you put it in proper perspective. The truly important thing is your choices NOW, but having a healthy perspective on what happened before may help you feel some measure of peace.
Good luck to you. Wishing you peace and joy.
2007-07-19 06:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a new place a good distance away from where you were when those feelings became part of you. I know it sounds weird, but places and towns sometimes give-off a particular "vibe" that people consciously or unconsciously detect. Whenever my husband and I would visit the parts of Ft.Lauderdale near where some relatives lived, we both get a very unpleasant feeling of anxiousness to leave, like the area has been visited by violence too many times and the earth is permanently stained by it. On the other hand, when we go to a theme park, I get the impressions of exhilaration and childhood joy mixed with rushed busyness I associate with the staff. It's weird, I know, but I'm just sensitive to things like that for some reason, always have been.
2007-07-19 06:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by RealRachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't and try to hide it by hurting themselves. But try your best. At least you have the ability to feel, where to many people can't. If you are feeling shame because of someone else __________ then take up praying to God about it. And find a reason to forgive them. If you can forgive them a lot of it should lift right off of you. If you did what was wrong, can you get who you hurt to honestly forgive you?
If someone has just been condemning you for what you never did, because they want you to feel ashamed, then don't let it hurt you. Pass it by. Pray to God for strength.
2007-07-19 06:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by geessewereabove 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confess you sit to a priest that probably doesn't even care. Grovel in the face of god for a while. Then when all of that doesn't work go ahead and realize that over time things pass and you are most likely not the only one that has done what you have done. You are not a bad person and you can make things right on your own. Guilt and shame are learned behaviors and you can learn how to not let it take over your life And please don't let anyone instill those emotions into you not even the church.
2007-07-19 06:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by illgetreported 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think there is only one way, and that is to know who Jesus Christ is and know why He went to the cross. He took our shame and guilt upon Himself when He died in our place.
If you understand this, and talk to God about it, and accept His gift of forgiveness, I think you will be better able to lay down that guilt and shame at the foot of the cross. It is the understanding of who Jesus is, why He died and how passionately He loves you, that will enable you to give this over to Him. I pray that you will come to know Him and that you will be able to release this burden.
2007-07-19 06:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you have to fool the intellect and address the higher intellect in your mind, aka the subconscious, for that is where all your memories and feelings associated with those memories rest, to be dragged up again and again by the intellect. There are very good methods for doing this.
2007-07-19 06:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a real relationship with Jesus Christ. His love covers any pain, shame, guilt, etc. that you could feel. When you get into some real worship with the King, He does take all your cares away.
2007-07-19 06:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by LENZ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Shame for what?
If you did something truly shameful, like murder, then there is nothing you can do.
If you did some silly "sin" according to some silly religious rule, reject the rule and live with a clean conscience.
2007-07-19 06:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Pray
2007-07-19 06:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by SDC 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
God. Did you confess your sin and ask Him to forgive you?
Long lasting shame and guilt- after Christ has already forgiven you- is a trick by the devil to convince you that you are never good enough and will never be anything because of that THING you did. The devil wants you to fail and to never get anywhere in life. With shame- he is just pushing you back further and further so we never move on and get to living our life for Christ. Satan would rather watch us wallow in shame and guilt- miserable and depressed.
But- ask God for deliverance from your sin and your shame. He is waiting for you to. He will not make you, He wants you to come to Him, because He loves you.
2007-07-19 06:11:19 · answer #11 · answered by Lizzi 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋