My oldest will be four on Sept 3. The baby will be one on August 18. Do yu think this is a good idea or will the oldest have a problem.
2007-07-19 06:01:22 · 20 answers · asked by leilajayde06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Do it for the sake of all the attendees. Sorry but childrens birthday parties are not the highlight of most adults weekends.Your family and friends will thank you for eliminating one event. Your kids won't care ... their getting TOYS!!! for pete's sake. We do it for our kids and just have a private birthday breakfast w/pancakes(yes candles on top) for each on their special day.
2007-07-19 06:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by General Leon Pleasant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girl's b-days are 3 weeks apart, and I know how you feel. My oldest turned 6 in March and my youngest turned 1 at the end of Feb. We opted to have a bigger party for our 1 year old and a small one at home with just us and the grandparents for the 6 year old. It was a HUGE mistake. If it is financially possible, have separate parties, even if the one for the baby isn't as big. The baby won't know what's going on, won't care, and won't remember. I still would have something, though, it is her first. The older child has had parties before, knows what's going on, and will have a great time and appreciate it much more. Also, my husband and his brother are 7 yrs. and 3 weeks apart, and to only parties they had were joint and the both hated it. Good luck, though!
2007-07-19 06:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by mandy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I are just a week apart and our parents never gave us one party together. My mom always said that as close as our birthdays were, they were still something that should be celebrated apart. Each child is different, and even though they are a bit young to appreciate it now, they will when they are older.
Another example, my sister-in-law and brother-in-law are 2 weeks apart and their mom always did their parties together and they hated it. Especially when they came to realise that the other kids they know all had their own parties.
However, your children are still young, so while obviously the 1 year old won't mind, perhaps your 4 year old won't either, as long as she doesn't feel like her sibling isn't stealing all the lime light.
Good luck!
2007-07-19 06:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Amie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that young age, a child likes to know she is special. A kid can already have problems with a new kid in the family, she doesnt want to share a party. The baby won't care as much as the older one, even if she has doesn't have a party. Have a fun party with all the 4-year-old's friends, and a party with all your relatives at your house for the 1-year-old. the kids will have fun at both
2007-07-21 10:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my children are a day apart and I have their birthdays together. I did have our second son have his first birthday all to himself. My oldest son had his first birthday by himself so I thought it was only fair. After that I had to have them together. Birthday parties can get very expensive. I had to explain to my oldest that mommy and daddy were trying to same money by having two parties at one time. On their real birthdays I baked them a cake and still celebrated their day. It was their special day. If you decide to have separate birthdays you could have a small family gathering at your house for the one year old. At one years old they are still little to really understand what all the hype is about.
2007-07-19 07:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt think that the oldest would have a problem. But, if it were me I would do them separate this year since its the babies 1st bday, not only because the first bday is the most specail, but also because it might draw attention away from your older child because everyone will be "oohhing and ahhhing" over the 1 year old. But, I think its no problem to combine them after this year, but keep in mind the specail bday's like 13,16,18 those should also be separate. Hope this helps!
2007-07-19 06:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a great idea while they are young. When they are older is when they will want seperate celebrations. My brother and sister are 4 years apart in age, and their birthdays are weeks apart. When they were younger, my mom would have a huge party for both of them. She would get them a seperate cake, though.
2007-07-19 06:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by Reyna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to save money..I would say "go for it"..but with your oldest turning 4..I would have them seperate. Just for the fact that it's their special day..and if you have them together, of course people are going to crowd around the 1st birthday too! (they are very special). I would think that it might cause a sense of jealousy, or sibling rivalry. Just my thought. I think a child should be pampered on their special day..and what fun is it when you have to share that with someone?
2007-07-20 12:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by ~Proud Mama of 3~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, I think it would probably be OK to do that, and maybe even for the next 2-3 years. After that, I would do seperate parties.
2007-07-19 06:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate them together. It will teach them early on that they are family and that they should do things together. One is never more important then the other.
Plus it will save you time and money. And anyone invited to the party only needs to make plans for attending once, not twice.
2007-07-19 06:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by theCATALYST 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋