How would you handle this?

Question

guy friend flirted with me about us hooking up. the thing is he has a gf overseas and is engaged to her and knew I developed a deep crush on him. We exchanged a few words about getting together like where we do it, and if we would use protection, etc. I was really falln 4 him and he told me that it was best that i focus on someone else. anyway a few days later, I texted him to wish him Happy New Year's and he didn't text back and i got upset and called him a dog. I then wrote him a note apologizing to him and suggested that we stop texting each other about sex. Weeks later, he looked at me like he was angry but still said hi. I emailed him asking him if he was still upset and that it might be best that we treat each other as coworkers. he replied back and told me that i was too weird and that he was just jokin and that i should get some friends and a bf. Now I don't talk to him or even look his way, since I have mixed emotions about this, embarrassement, guilt,
anger, sadness.

Answer 1

i say he is a jerk!!! You should just forget about him!! Because sooner or later he will realize that he made a mistake about saying your weird and that you need a bf. People decide on their own when they start a relationship, don't let him decide for you.
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 2

First of all, if the guy is engaged, it's best to just stay away. And that is for both your sake and his. If he has someone that he is potentially going to marry, chances are he wouldn't end it for someone he's just kind of flirting with. And if you really care about him you probably don't want to be the person to complicate things with his fiancee. Butting will set you up for way more heartache than success.
Secondly, text messages are always bad news. Because they are so impersonal they can be misinterpreted way too easily especially when dealing with someone you have a crush on. When you have something you seriously want to communicate, stick to straight conversation.
As far as this embarrassment, guilt, anger, sadness goes... it is totally understandable. That was a sticky situation. But I think if you try your best not to act awkward around him and show him that your over it (whether you are or not), things will go back to at least somewhat normal. It's not worth it to let him get you down. Have confidence and move on. You will feel soooo empowered by it.
Best of luck.

Answer 3

Girl thank your blessings that u and him did not engaged in having sex..deal with your current emotion, you will survive this and many more to come. Move on to someone else who is preferably unattached without the drama or issue of anything bad coming back to haunt you. We women in one way or another go through s*** like yours' again NOT WORTH YOUR TIME..This is how I would handle it. Although there are times that a B**** or an A****** is going to ruffle your last sensible nerve and you are going to react., than girl handle it like a woman..good luck girl, cause you are much better than he is..WE ALL ARE!!!

Answer 4

I say it's best to behave like co-workers if that's what you are. I would not let on any emotion to him. After all you saw how that turned out. Learn from this experience. If you have an interest in a taken guy, shrug it off and find yourself a bachelor. I'm not judging you by any means, I do think you need to learn from your mistakes and move on. Don't make the same mistake twice. It's learning from our experiences that allow us to mature.

Answer 5

hunny dont give this loser the time of day!!! hes an asshole!!! u did nothing wrong(well besides flirting and thinkin bout hooking up when u kno hes engaged!!) no offense u kinda set yourself up 4 this one!! u gota relize that guys are dawgs and ALWAYS willl be!! the ONLY time they tell the "truth" is when they say there hungry,horny or tired!!! the best thing u can do is move on and not worry bout him!! find yourself another man!(preferably one thats not taken!!) neways im not tryn to b rude or judge jus tellin ya how i c it!! good luck!! <3

Answer 6

Very long winded question..but after letting my eyes rest a bit I finished reading and decided you are weird.

Sounds like a lot of fuss. This started back on new years. Most women would have moved on and had a few guys in that time.

Answer 7

wow, he sounds like a jerk. I cant believe that people act that way. I guess guys like that don't know we have feelings too. I think that you did the right thing but not talking to him of even looking his way. Don't give him any attention at all cause that's all he wants and right now he don't deserve anything. Just keep living your life and don't allow him to bring you down.

People like that don't deserve a person like you!

Answer 8

Isn't it amazing how technology has completely perverted human relationships. Entire emotional extremes and reltionships where evey important moment is communicated through text messages and emails. Sad.

Answer 9

Wow! He obviously just wanted to hook up and he didn't realize you're feelingsfor him. If he's engaged I wouldn't even speak to the jerk for him being unfaithful. You should use dignity and stay away from him; don't let him stomp all over you!

Answer 10

It seems like he was joking and you took it too personal, allowed your feelings to get involved and now are crushed. I suggest you do take his advise and get some friends and a boyfriend at that.