What should i tell my gf here?

Question

Last night my gf was telling me her problem's with her parents. I listen to what she has to say and usually let her vent. Sometimes i start to worry about her problems and they bother me for a while. This is one thing that bothers me.
She told me last night that her parents always tell her to do things instead of asking. When she tries to bring this problem up with them they say shes being ungratefull ect.. She also said that they walk into her room and invade her privacy. When she locks her door *to change clothes ect.* they get upset and say shes trying to hide something. Right now my gf is 19 and in the next year she will go away to college. I dont think theres anything she can do except to get along with her parents. But what do you think and am i correct to be upset here?

Answer 1

Yeah, sure. You can be upset. But it won't help. Her parents are controlling and possessive. There is nothing you can do about it. Hopefully your girlfriend will be strong, will get along the best she can, and will happily move on with her life when college starts. It will be her parents' loss when she leaves, not hers. You are doing the right thing by listening and being empathetic. Encourage her, remind her of how great college will be, and she is almost there! Being upset on your part is fine, though, because it shows you care. Just don't let it get you down. Good luck!

Answer 2

It sounds like your girlfriend parents are old-school! I don't mean it in a bad way but in a good way. I mean, she is 19 right??? So, she is still young. To be honest, it is very common for parents(especially dads) to be strict with their daughters. Women is what makes this world a beautiful place. And plus, you don't sound like the over-protected, jealous type of boyfriend(I mean, who knows).

And come on shorty, this world has changed dramatically. Now in days, kids can do whatever the hell they want, say whatever they say and think whatever they want to think. There's no boundaries now like 20-40 years ago. Our parents are old-school and they were raised old-school. It's not about privacy, it's about security.

I think is fine that you are upset. Just make sure that you are there and explain it to her. You don't want to her to feel left out. Comfort her and talk to her. Make her understand that her parents are not punishing her(at least I don't think so). Also, women are not like men. Women may find it more difficult than men. That's right the MAN is here...

PS: If you were talking about a different set of circumstances like being over-protected or not letting her go out at all, then that's another story. I mean, you see her, right??? And it sounds like you guys also may go out. So, don't worry. I don't think is as bad as you may think....

PPS: Plus, she'll be going to school.

Answer 3

If it bothers her that much and she can't let it go until she goes to college suggest family counseling (she could see a councilor by herself if family won't cooperate). You stay out of the drama or you will become the scape-goat.

Answer 4

one day we will all learn that the rentz are always right. no matter what. i still aint learned it yet..but i know i will later down the road...

but if she handles it in a mature way by talking to her parents about it [not screaming/arguing] then her wishes may be granted.

and if it's chores that shes complaining about being told to do. GET OVER IT. that's how life is growing up...tough luck...

Answer 5

What are you upset about ? Her parents or her always having drama ?

Answer 6

well of course you would be!

if you want to solve this just ask her mother and father on why they think she might be hiding something. and why do they think she would be hiding any thing at all?