If someone attends your shower and gives you a gift, you obviously send them a thank you. If they also attend the wedding, but do not bring another gift (which is absolutely fine by me), do you still send them a thank you for attending - or are the thank you's only for the people who send a gift?
Just trying to figure out when to send thank yous - - - I don't want to leave anyone out by mistake.
2007-07-19 05:38:25 · 15 answers · asked by Proud Momma 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That is a good point about Thanksing them for coming in person while you are there.
Come to think of it - I don't recall getting a thank you card from the last few weddings I went to. And I usually give a card with cash, check or gift card inside..... maybe they were rude...????
2007-07-19 06:18:58 · update #1
You make the rounds at your reception and say hi, thanks for coming, hugs, handshakes, etc, to *everyone* who attends. Early enough so you don't miss the ones who leave first.
You send a thank you note to everyone who gave you a gift, for sure. For the non-gifters (and there really won't be that many), a note reiterating thank you for coming to my wedding, is optional, but it sounds nice, doesn't it?
2007-07-19 07:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they don't give a gift you don't have to send a Thank You card. If someone gives you a shower gift and a wedding gift then you can combine the two gifts and give them a single Thank You for both gifts, just add a few extra lines when doing the message.
At the wedding you should do a welcome speech and thank everybody for coming and then make rounds speaking to the guests and perhaps doing one last personal Thank You. Since you said in previous question you were doing favors thats a triple set of Thank You's.
If they are only attending then that should be enough. If you have extras or a big enough budget to purchase the extra cards it certianly wouldn't hurt but I don't think the lack of one will be noticed either.
2007-07-19 08:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of all the weddings I have ever attended, I have NEVER received a thank you note for coming to the wedding! I honestly have never heard of that. Of course, if I attended the wedding and brought a gift, then I would expect a thank you for the gift and maybe they would casually thank me for also coming to the wedding.
But in general, if you already sent them a thank you for the shower gift, you do not need to send them a thank you for attending your wedding. Just send thank yous to the ones who gave you gifts.
2007-07-19 05:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by MarineMom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank you's are for anyone who sends a gift or a card. At the wedding itself you should have time to thank people for coming.
2007-07-19 06:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tracey H 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's most common to send thank yous to those who gave gifts, but there's nothing wrong with thanking people for having made the effort to attend.
2007-07-19 09:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, they were rude.
I don't often hear of people receiving a wedding thank-you card solely for attending the wedding.
However, if you're okay with doing it, it would certainly be a nice thing to do. When it comes to "do I send a thank-you card?" it would almost never be the "wrong" kind of thing to do, you know?
2007-07-19 10:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is not impolite in any respect to leave it till after the honeymoon. Your e book is faulty, and needless to say does not evaluate how busy you're after the marriage, what with the presents, and the honeymoon. in simple terms be certain you deliver them interior approximately 6 weeks. to any extent further is somewhat lazy. It does not take long, and that's a severe high quality component on your travellers to acquire. you additionally can use the thank yous to tell your travellers something greater advantageous, like possibly your pictures are on line, and you'd be able to furnish them the hyperlink, or tell them a splash approximately your honeymoon etc. they're going to like that.
2016-12-14 13:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did was have thank you cards printed up with our names and wedding date and left them on the table at the reception so everyone had one ... you don't have to send out thank you's for attending but it is nice to send out thank you's for those who attended and gave a gift .
2007-07-19 06:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
When in doubt, send a card. There's nothing wrong with thanking someone for simply attending. You will sound gracious, mature, and will win a lot of respect.
2007-07-19 05:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by elsie 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes, thank them for attending. For one thing, it's a gracious thing to do. For another, if they did send a wedding gift and it didn't arrive, a thank you note for attending that doesn't mention a gift would be a signal to them to track that package!
2007-07-19 05:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by gileswench 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋