Does anybody have any advice for me? I am very shy person and when I talk to women I want to end the conversation as soon as possible. What can I do to be more relaxed around women and just be my self?
2007-07-19 05:27:41 · 23 answers · asked by Danny F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont be discouraged I think thats really cute when a guy is really shy, just be yourself, get friends that are girls and talk to them alot and Im sure that will make you more relaxed and easier for you to talk to women.
2007-07-19 05:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well START being yourself for a change. Start doing whatever the hell you feel like doing at the moment. Literally. Whatever pops into your had, do that and say that immediately. Even to random girls on the street. Who cares! What authority is she in your world? Her reaction to you is her problem, not yours.
If you start thinking to yourself "Man, this is a boring conversation", get up and leave IMMEDIATELY. She was not cool enough to sustain your interest. Such is life. And no, it's not rude, girls do this to guys all the time! Only give social validation if she has truly earned it, that's her drug of choice as much as sex is yours, and the best part is when you are a fun and cool guy to be around with you are the supplier.
If you are thinking to yourself "man, I would like to kiss her" and the vibe is positive go for it! You will most likely be rejected, (and of course it is her full right to do so), but the very fact that you went for something you felt like doing, were respectful to back down in accordance with her wishes and, most importantly, were UNPERTURBED by her rejection... all of this is sexy. You'll notice her behavor change after this and you will forever make it impossible to fling you into the dreaded "friends zone". She now knows you're trouble! Maintain a playful, fun and nice vibe, but keep escalating and retreating (two steps forward, one back) and she'll be like putty.
This is powerful stuff. You will soon have girls chasing you IN MINUTES and displaying all the behaviors you did in front of attractive girls all your life. This was for me a REAL eye-opener what a sorry s.o.b. I was before.
O, one more thing: NEVER let anything get to you, or knock you of your state of having fun. Girls will often say mean things to guys, but it is really just another species of the way guys rib on each other. It is a test of streingth, like the way you press on a chair to determine if it is sturdy enough for you to sit on.
2007-07-19 06:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have 2 just find ur own way 2 relax. Start a conversation u can get into, something u know about. Don't focus on that fact that ur talking to a woman, but a person.
2007-07-19 05:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 10:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make believe that they are just in their underware! Oh wait, that's for public speaking. Your mind set is of most importants. For beautiful woman, notice something that is out of place and jokingly comment about it. Maybe their nails look fake, then comment " Those are not real." Watch their reaction, their guard will be down and now continue the conversation as though you know them already. Key in on what they say and continue the conversation. Have a question for their previous answer. The conversation will continue flowing.
2007-07-19 05:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Freddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the responses give you a fair idea of what you could do. be nervous, stutter, stammer, go red in the face....and, just don't bother. everyone is not looking for perfection..in men or women. if they are, they are quite foolish. a time will come when you will run into a beautiful (and mate let us spell out the word especially for those who think you don't know how to spell rather than the obvious fact that you were just nervous even about asking the Q) girl who will draw you out, make you feel comfortable and not leave you a nervous wreck
2007-07-19 05:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by deepend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been told since I entered puberty that I am very beautiful, in all honesty I am. At times it could be very unconfortable, constantly being whatched, men trying to get your attention no matter who you are with (thank god for my brothers) most view us as an object not a person and the women (not all) upon one glance we can see the hate in their eyes and for what... outward beauty give me a break. Simply, we are people just like you... we are woman just like your mother, sister, aunt, grandmother ect.
To answer your question treat, approach, and speak with the beautiies the same way you would want your mother or sister to be approach or spoken to.
2007-07-19 05:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Debsflower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax, we don't bite!!! unless you want us to! if you drink, perhaps you can have a few before starting up a conversation. if you have confidence, it shouldn't be that hard. confidence is key! you'll find that some women will enjoy talking to you and will help make it easy, then there are other women who will be rude and shallow, it's all part of the game. get out & just have fun! good luck!
2007-07-19 05:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know ahead of time you are going to be around beautiful women you might try jacking off first it eases your mind and you're not near as tense.....hope this helps
Oh yeah you could get 7 or 8 bottles of Boone's Farm and let nature take it's course
2007-07-19 05:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them like there one of ur friends and act how u would around ur friends beautiful women are no different than any other person so there is no need to be intimidated or w/e u are around them. just be urself
2007-07-19 05:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Julia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋