I am Catholic, my boyfriend is Baptist. I occasionally go to his church, he occasionally comes to mine. It's never seemed like that big a deal. But his mother told his pastor I am Catholic and now the pastor wants to talk to my boyfriend and me and is basically demanding I come talk to him. Do I have to? What is he going to say? I have heard this guy preach, and he strikes me as quite fundamentalist. I am a little freaked out because I don't know fi this is going to be a good conversation or a bad conversation.
2007-07-19 05:06:23 · 16 answers · asked by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He is going to tell you that if you don't become a Baptist,you are hell bound.
He will most likely call you a loose woman and tell you that you are dragging your boyfriend into hell with you.
I hope this is helpful.
Have a nice day!
2007-07-19 05:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be a good conversation or a bad conversation. The pastor wants to talk to you about marriage and being unequally yoked. As a Baptist, your boyfriend believes in salvation by faith. As a Catholic you believe in salvation by works. You believe you need to go to a priest for absolution, your boyfriend believe he can go to God for forgiveness.
The pastor will tell you about the Gospel and go through the plan of salvation with you.
The pastor will not marry the two of you if you are not saved. If you are saved, there is no problem.
2007-07-19 05:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was raised a Catholic. Now I'm an independent. My guess would be that his concern might be the tradition, Catholics have, in a, "mixed marriage," to sign a form stating that the children of such a marriage will be raised Catholic. I think that the most sense you made in your post was the line, "It's never seemed like that big a deal."
2007-07-19 05:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Bodhisattva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't let him persuade,you into converting to his beliefs. Stick to what you know is the universal church. Don't be afraid to defend the truth. I once went to a church to please my cousin, and I will never do that again. The minister said before the whole congregation that, " he did not know if there was a queen in heaven, but if there was, it most certainly was not anybody's Virgin Mary. " I got up and went outside and caught a cab home. I refused to hear anything else he had to say. I think my cousin had let him know ahead of time that he was bringing me and that I was a Catholic. My cousin I think was a little upset by my leaving, but who cared. I explained to him why. Then again, you aren't obligated to go, if you don't want to. And don't do anything for anybody's sake that you don't want to do.
2007-07-19 05:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't have to go see him it's not like he's the Pope or something. Actually you don't have to go see him either. If he's like the Baptist Ministers I've met I bet the word "Hell" and "going to" comes up alot. Some Baptists have mellowed in recent years but alot of them are still all about fire and brimstone and faith through fear. If I was you I'd tell your boyfriend to talk to him first it's his church after all.
2007-07-19 05:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by discombobulated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that he will want you to convert. Most Baptists feel that catholics worship the pope and that it is not a true Christian religion.
Do what you heart tells you, but remember this, God is everywhere. You do not have to be in a church to be a good christian. It is in how you carry yourself and how you treat others that matters in the end.
2007-07-19 05:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by krupsk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's important to your boyfriend that you speak to his pastor, then I would go for his sake. However, and I would make this very clear to your bf beforehand, you should not sit there and let him lecture you about how wrong your beliefs are, or how terrible a person you are for trying to lead your bf astray. If you want to talk to this minister as a gesture of good faith and respect for your bf's spirituality, that's very noble of you. If the pastor doesn't return your good faith and respect, then get up and leave.
2007-07-19 05:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by nardhelain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably try to 'save' you. Possibly put lies about the Church in your head along with misunderstandings.
Or he could talk about your relationship. Either way, I'd brush up on Church teaching/history. If it starts getting rough in there, just leave. You're not obligated to go see him.
2007-07-19 05:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by lawlzlawlzduck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Whiskey,
If you truly love this guy and he wants you to do it, it probably would be OK to listen (JUST listen, mind you). Otherwise, I'd talk to the boyfriend and tell him about your concerns.
As far as I'm concerned, Christianity should NEVER be an excuse to hammer people over the head with some narrow view of what one's relationship to Christ, God or other people should be. That's ultimately between you and God -- nobody else.
2007-07-19 05:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't have to speak to him if you don't want to. He's probably trying to get you to become Baptist.
2007-07-19 14:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Danny H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋