After my divorce i met a guy who i had alot in common with, we had a relationship but realized that because of our commitments we couldn't carry on the relationship but are great friends. He was there for me after the divorce and we went out quite often, he was great. Is is ok to call him to see how he is even though i am in a serious relationship.
2007-07-19 04:41:27 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. You have to let go of him.
2007-07-19 04:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♥≈Safi≈♥ ☼of the Atheati☼ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very touchy subject that depends alot on your boyfriends attitude towards other guys. In my honest opinon I think that if you had a relastionship with the other guy then why even risk your serious relationship by calling him? I feel like you probably still have feelings for this "old boyfriend" and all that calling him is going to do is bring those old feelings back...
If you are happy with your current boyfriend then don't call the old one.
2007-07-19 04:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to upfront with your present boyfriend about the old one. You both need to be able to talk about these things openly. If he understands that you and the other guy were great friends and nothing more, then he will probably understand how you feel. he may even have friends from his past that he might keep up with. this will give you two a chance to decide how you want to treat the subject. Decide on the boundaries for past relationships and how you want to handle them. Don't talk to the other guy behind your boyfriend's back. always be open and honest with him.
2007-07-19 04:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two were truly friends before and after you broke up, then I would say yes. I have one ex like that. We are great friends for years, we dated a few months, then broke up. We are still very close.
I do let any new boyfriends know up front about him though. I won't let anyone tell me I can't see or talk to him if I want. If a new guy has a problem with me talking to this particular ex, then they are obviously not the right guy for me.
2007-07-19 04:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is but if you have feelings for both then chose the one u like the best. But if you still want to be friends with your ex. then that should be fine with the guy that you are dating. if it is not then i suggest to dump him. If he trolly loves you then he wouldnt mind anything. I hope that you will take the advice from other people to and me to so i hope that u will make a good choice. If he dumps you for just talking to him think there are alot more guys in the world and there will be others and thats ok. I would never keep a secret from your lover.
Hope it all works out.
2007-07-19 04:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Heyhey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This will work as long as you are honest with yourself, your ex, and your bf. If you guys don't have romantic feelings for each other it's fine. Make it clear from the beginning to both of them that you're gonna be friends. Has your bf met him? Maybe he would feel more comfortable if he got to see the guy as a person and not some random stranger who could make a move on his gf.
2007-07-19 04:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your current serious boyfriend know about that? if he does and does not mind then its okay, just know the line between talking to a friend and flirting with him. But if he doesn't know and you're doing that behind his back then its a problem, and you have to ask yourself if you still have feelings for that ex, because you are jeopardizing your current relationship.
2007-07-19 04:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by maria k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a case of "he was the one that got away"...
i have an ex girlfriend who misses me , and years later got back in touch.. i was very distant with her since.. WHY would i wanna hear her moan about her current boyfriend? aggh!
if you can't talk to you current partner says a lot.. women like doing that to me, and say I pay them more attention then their current b/f.. yet wouldn't date me.. when I'm not single they feel their nose is out of joint, yet wouldn't date me in the first place.. so I don't pay em much heed as a result..
I wouldn't contact them as obviously from what you type is still think of them as "more" than a friend.. or they might percieve you feel more..
2007-07-19 05:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by junglejungle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this first "is it ok if your boyfriend calls his ex-girlfriend to see how she's doing?" if the answer is yes then go ahead. But always make sure that you tell your current boyfriend what you are about to do so he knows and won't come back to bite you later.
2007-07-19 04:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Matahari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay, but it would be better if you told your current guy that you want to "check in on" this old guy every now and then just to see how he is because he helped you through a tough time. If your current guy is a good one, he shouldn't mind...especially if you tell him about it.
2007-07-19 04:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a friend from before you got together with your current person then yes... no person should have a right to tell you no you cant be friends with someone specially since you were friends before hand... your just caring about that person ... nothing wrong with that
2007-07-19 04:44:36 · answer #11 · answered by Syco Simps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋