I have a friend who has a GF who is ten years younger (28-38) than he is and she is crazy in love with him, as he is with her. He has known her all her life (since she was 4). She is extremely beautiful and he his so in love with her. When they are together it's really nice to see, because you can see the love there. Her parents (family) loves him to death and have been knowing him all his life.
The problem is that her sister (who is married), who is the same age as he is, was his high school sweetheart and the first person he ever fell in love with (20yrs ago). The two of them were together from the 8th grade to there freshman year in college. There is nothing between them any longer.
Know one knows that the two are together (besides me) and my friend keeps asking what should he do. I know what I'm going to say to him. However, I would like other adult opinions as well. It's not a matter of them not being happy, because they truly are and I feel like they should continue on.
2007-07-19 04:26:41 · 30 answers · asked by good2bblessed1969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let them be together and post it on every billboard in town!!!
There is nothing wrong with the age difference!
Now if he was 24 and she was 14 that'd be different... but they're not and they're both grown adults now!
They love each other, they make each other happy, they should be together and no one else should care!
IF someone has a problem with it - so what. That person doesn't pay their bills.
Tell them to GO FOR IT! And live happily ever after!
2007-07-19 04:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rif Tahoe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they truly love each other, they should talk to the sister. Ask he her how she feels about them being together. The last thing they want to do is break up a family or cause a family conflict. In these situations, the best thing to do is be open. If they can effectively convey their feelings and happiness, I don't think it should be a problem. I know a few people who are friends with the person they use to date years after dating. I know its not the same, but just as a comparison.
2007-07-19 04:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by the dude abides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it may look & appear wrong since the two are sisters..But there is no denying their love & there is no point in keeping it a secret. Since the sister is now married, it's up to the both of them or really his GF to talk with her. I hope that she will be understanding. However, situations like this do occur in life & if time has allowed the sister to move on, well..she shouldn't hinder the happiness of her sister & her bf..I know it will be an odd, uncomfy adjustment ((maybe)) but when matters of the heart are involved, you simply can't ignore it & a lot of times you will go against the norm! Good luck to them! Love is grand & sometimes we find love in others who should be taboo according to the world's standards!
2007-07-19 04:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he mean, he doesn't know what to do? Is he still in love with the older sister?? Maybe I'm not reading the story correctly but I honestly don't think he should have started a relationship with the younger sister because that's her sister's ex and I would never date someone my sister has been with or an ex's sibling but that's just me. But if they are truly in love and he has no regrets, then they should stay together. It's gonna be tough but they really should let everyone else know because there's a good chance they're gonna find out sooner or later.
2007-07-19 04:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by **STAR** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is not clear to me. If what you are saying is that the older married sister and the boyfriend hook up behind the younger sister's back, I't tell the younger one so that she can move on. Heaven forbid she marry the sad sap and have children only to divorce him later. So many lives ruined for no reason. You said she is really pretty. If that is the case, she will have no problems finding another man.
It is touchy for you being the best friend of the cad. Maybe somehow she could see for herself. Also it is uncomfortable because it is her sister. As for that relationship, it sounds one sided- the older sister is too selfish too actually care about the younger one's welfare. The younger one needs to step away from the situation to get a better picture.
2007-07-19 04:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Traveler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're both adults I assume. No one can stop them but they do have to be prepared for some people to not like the fact that they're together. There are actually very few times when everyone around a couple is happy for them getting together.
The sister may never get over it but it truly is her problem and not theirs. If she chooses to be unhappy about it there's nothing they can of should do about it. I doubt she'll ever truly be happy about it but she will eventually either accept it or destroy her own life by being bitter about it. But either way it's her decision not the couple's.
2007-07-19 04:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not quite sure about what you're asking here, but if they are in love then age is not an issue especially if its 10 years, love is rare so letting age get in the way would make it even harder. They should definitely continue dating and not keep it a secret what is there to hide, and to be embarrassed about?
About the sister issue they dated and it didn't work, and they are over it, especially since she is married.
2007-07-19 04:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by maria k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta be kidding to make a deal out of this. If the emotional split between him and the girlfriend's sister is clean and there are no more lingering feelings between them, which judging from your post and how long ago this was seems to be the case, there is absolutely no reason why the two (he and the gf) should not be together.
2007-07-19 04:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh, this is a toughie. The girl needs to talk to her sister, and see how she feels about it. It's already been long enought to where the sister is going to feel betrayed, and like her feelings didn't matter in the decision.
Hopefully everybody will understand that they are in love, and will accept the relationship, but they need to come out to the family.
If they weren't in love, and were just causually dating, I would say to end it immediately. It's just an unspoken rule that one is not supposed to date the ex of a family member or friend.
2007-07-19 04:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by Heather H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see what the problem is...as long as they are happy, then be damned with the age difference, and let the world know. What else matters? If the sister is married, she's obviously moved on and will be mature about it, and accept it. She should be happy for the two of them. I dont see any problems. Don't let them waste time hiding their love...its too precious.
2007-07-19 04:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by Superscottie16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋