2007-07-19 04:25:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would say that if you are mature, have great jobs and are headed in the right direction, yes. But at 18, no one really has that.
I am 20 and my husband will be 21 in September. In Sept we will have been together for 3 years and he is my best friend. We have a very open communication and we tell each other everything.
We got married in March of this year so my opinion is yes, if you are mature enough and know the other person very well.
We now have our own house, great paying jobs and are expecting our first child.
Edit:
By the way, everyone who says that marriage is difficult really doesn't have an honest relationship with their partner.
Marriage is so easy as long as you can talk to the other person. We even lived with each other a year and a half before we got married and it was wonderful.
Marriage is great!
2007-07-19 04:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Matt's Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that at 18 you are an adult and should be able to make your own decisions. I do think the chance of divorce will be higher, but that doesn't mean it won't work. My parents were married at that age and last year, after 28 years of marriage, they divorced. I got married just after my 21st birthday, that was six and a half years ago.
Before that I was engaged to someone I started dating in high school. I am very glad I didn't marry a my high school sweetheart. When I had met him I was a child, by the time I met my husband I had gone to college and lived on my own. Those are two very important milestones in my life and they shaped who I am as a person.
BTW, in my opinion marriage is hard. I asked someone when I got married if marriage was hard, they said that the first year was easy, it was every year after that. I agree, but like having kids (or other important things) it is worth it.
2007-07-19 12:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jessamy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. I thought I was completely in love with someone back then, and we wanted to get married. But luckily we didn't because I'm now married, and I have such a better and more fulfilling relationship with my husband. People still have a lot of growing up to do between 18 and early to mid-twenties. Even the really mature ones. If you're 18 and in love, just continue to be with each other. No need to jump into marriage.
2007-07-19 12:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18. Still happily married over 5 years later. When I took those vows, I meant them! I want to be with this man until death do us part! I don't like the idea of ANYONE getting married with the mentality "If it doesn't work out, we can always get a divorce." That infuriates me. Even though I was young, I knew what I was getting myself into. I never for a second thought of an "exit plan". I said those vows before God, family and friends. I will never go back on my word!
Sorry, I get very defensive about marriage. lol I truly believe its a sacred thing.
2007-07-19 11:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband since I was 19, but waited till I was 23 to get married. I don't know your love life, but I would wait a couple of years to make sure that is what both of you want. You might get married and realize oops that was not a good idea. Most teens that get married young end up divorcing 1 to 3 years later...
2007-07-19 11:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lovingwolves25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years and he was 18 when we got married. But we had dated for 4 years before that, so we had basically grown up together. If you love someone, why should age matter?
2007-07-19 11:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I don't want to stand in the way of anyone's happiness, there is a universal truth that needs to be said.
That is, most 18 year olds in Western culture are extremely limited in their education, job skills and cultural experiences.
They do not have a clue as to what faces them in real-world living.
They are idealistic, optimistic and consider themselves immune from the problems they will inevitably face.
Plus, their hormones are more likely to circumvent critical thinking.
That is not to say that some teens will become not only successful in their marriages, as parents and in their careers.
But the odds are against most 18 year olds from staying married for the rest of their lives.
2007-07-19 11:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by docscholl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did (5 yrs ago).
If your going to get married that young, buy a house so that it's not easy to split up. That way, when you have your quarrels, you'll be forced to grow up and deal with it rather than quit.
You need to grow up together, give each other room to change. the person you marry at 18 is a TOTALLY different person at 22. That can be good or bad. In my case it was very good.
I don't really recommend it, personally. Marriage is not very fun. It's hard work. It's worth it - usually., but again, not easy.
2007-07-19 11:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by buterfly_2_lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, all teens should be required to get married at the age of 18.
2007-07-19 11:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO! I dont care how mature you are or how much you love that person... 18 is too young and you havent experienced enough in life to make that decision. How can you say you want to marry when you have never lived on your own, or traveled without supervision or even held a real full time career? Not just a job flipping burgers, but a career....
2007-07-19 11:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by sheinsius 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋