Is my sisters in laws horrible?

Question

Hey, I am Alexandria...Winter's Sister. I just called the church that my Brother-in-law, Rabbit Man goes to. To make a long story short, Rabbit Man's father ( The Prick) goes to the same church & has known that they are having a child since his birthday- April 22.
Well, I called to let the church know that my sister (Winter) is having complications, her back & her heart. Do you know that The PRICK, has never said a word to anyone in the congregation about HIS SON & DIL having a child! It mean these people just do not care about my sister, their SON or my nephew! And now to have another baby on the way and not say anything! My sister & I both think that they are ashamed of the fact that they are low income. They NEVER call them unless THEY want something..Like the family is getting together & the rest of the time..don't bother.
What would you do in this situation? Also, you have to remember, these are the folks that neglected their little boy, by not changing his diaper.
Chao!

Ok, look..these people have not shown any interest in my sister or her family. When allowed to watch their son as a toddler, while my sis was having surgery..they never once in 12 hours changed his diaper. (but if it was another of their grandchildren, the child would have been cared for!) Which meant when she came in to retrieve him, & just after having her hand surgery..she had to change him. His little pants were soaked with pee & poo. ( I know because I stayed with her to help her through those first few weeks.) She tried to let them care for him again, and again they failed him, leaving him in wet & dirty underpants.
When he was diagnosed with asthma, and she had to leave him again to have her ankle surgery, they told her that she was a S H ** faced liar & there was nothing wrong with him, & yet she had his medication with HIS name on it from the DR. This is the kind of people that she deals with, & only wants them when family comes to visit. Otherwise, F Off.
What do you think?

Answer 1

why are you allowing others to control your emotions?

you can't change anyone else.

live your life and let others act stupid if that's what they choose.

and take care of YOU.

Answer 2

I think I wouldn't ask them to take care of the little boy at all! That family may be ashamed and disappointed in their son's decisions and not care about his family but don't thrust the little boy in the middle of all of it and expect it to turn around.
I'd have Winter all the help I could - and that would have to do. Be cordial to the family but don't ask them for help. Go to the family reunions but don't stay very long unless things seem to be going well. Make the visits short unless people are more warm and receptive - if they are, don't spurn them, count it as an advancement in family harmony.
In other words, try not to hold a grudge. That insures that nothing will get better. But don't expect or demand that things get better, either. These things have to progress at their own pace.

Answer 3

Ok.."Prick" is a little harsh. Judgmental, backstabbing, self righteous PIGS...that fits. To take out they're personal feelings on a child who has done them no harm turns even the strongest stomach.

As far as acknowledging the birth of another child? Did you expect them to see the light here? They can't see pass their own narrow minded, tunnel vision.

The next time they want to have a family affair your brother needs to face them and tell them that since they can not respect his son nor speak with respect to his wife nor acknowledge the blessed event about to enter their lives they need to deal with their own desires personally. Since you are affronted by their actions you need to do the same. It may take a log to fall on their heads but eventually even the hardest skull cracks

Answer 4

It's obvious that you really don't care about these family members; if you did, you wouldn't be 'airing their dirty laundry' where thousands of us could read it.

If you really care about your sister and your nephew, you'd be spending your time, energy, and efforts on helping them. Become a positive force in their lives!