A few weeks ago my boyfriend lightly slapped me in the face in public and in front of his friends. It wasn't very hard and it didn't leave a mark or anything, but it was still disrespectful and demeaning. Since then I have seen him get angry and punch walls and other objects. He is normally very laid back, but now I am starting to wonder if these are signs of physical abuse to come. Are his actions indicators that he may become physically abusive in the future?
2007-07-19 03:39:35 · 45 answers · asked by linzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no guy should ever hit a woman, no matter how hard or soft. i'd leave.
2007-07-19 03:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by c dyan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the future? He already is! Notwithstanding how hard he slapped you, he physically abused you, period. Don't try to justify his actions by saying it wasn't that hard and that it didn't leave a mark! HE HIT YOU and embarrassed, humiliated and disrespected you big time! Anger issues can certainly be worked out through therapy and that is something he should proactively seek but there is no reason you should be at the receiving end of his fits of rage while he is being cured. Get as far away from him as you possibly can! Do not allow yourself to be convinced that he loves you and that it will never happen again and yada, yada, yada. It WILL continue to happen until he gets help and even then he could relapse. You owe it to yourself to concentrate your efforts on a relationship that is void of this type of senseless anger, aggression and violence!
2007-07-19 03:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he even apologize? I can't tell you if you should stay with him or not because frankly there isn't too much information here to make that call. Like if you have known him for yrs and this is the first you are seeing this behavior, I don't think I would break up with him, I would be inclined to think something really serious is going on that he's not telling you.
I think at the least he needs to get some counseling for his anger so I say make him do that and take it from there. Now if you haven't known him too long and he did this, still demand that he get counseling but I'd leave him too.
2007-07-19 03:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say those are pretty big red flags. If he can't control his temper now and is punching objects, it will only be time before he starts looking for another punching bag. He obviously doesn't respect you or think anything of slapping you, even if it was lightly. And it was in public too! You need to get out of this before he starts turning his anger on you in private.
2007-07-19 03:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Krystle M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a temper problem. did he apoligize for hitting you? He could be bi-polar. This is a mental condition which can be helped with medication. anyone bi-polar can lose their temper fast. They are either up or down, but never consistanly the same all the time. They get upset easily and either hurt someone or destroy property. Later, they are calm and dont' really remember what they did. They can't control their actions without medication. I'm not saying that's what's wrong with your boyfriend. But I will tell you, you don't want to have to worry about getting hurt, if this IS what his problem is. Be careful. maybe you can ask around and see if he does this on a regular basis. You need to protect yourself with knowledge.
2007-07-19 03:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all he should NEVER have slapped you PERIOD.
second if you have seen him get angry and punch walls and other objects...you can bet it's a matter of time till he hits you.
I know from first hand experience from many years ago when I was married previously.
you need to get out of this relationship because you are headed down a scary path. good luck
2007-07-19 03:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen and Listen well. You might think you love this guy but you need to love yourself too. I can tell you that this guy don't really think about your feelings too highly. And if doesn't matter to him how you feel its a pretty good indication if this person even loves you. I think that you should put some space between you and this guy. I cant see where this growing into a healthy relationship.
One Love. God Bless
2007-07-19 04:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by Audley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah..thats no good, he slapped you in front of other people? That says he has no respect for you! he sounds like a real piece of work...leave now before he feels like he has some kind of ownership over you or you get pregnant...theres lots and lots of guys who won't do that....good luck
2007-07-19 03:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by suitablepenname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** dude come to cali i dont punch walls or slap women when i get mad i might act out. It sound like he has anger issues and the fact that he did that **** in front of boys shows that you can do better
2007-07-19 05:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by abangan3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now... Don't stop and wait around for him to change because the only changing he will do it get worse with the physical abuse. It is not worth it. There are plenty of guys out to mess around with one who will hit you.
2007-07-19 03:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there was no sign of it before and he was laid back.. soemthing had to of changed or something is going on in his life you might not know about. Best thing to do... sit and chat with him. Dont do it in an attacking kinda way, simply say that you are concerned and then bring up the fact that it worries you. If he loves you enough he will find the problem and fix it.
2007-07-19 03:43:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋